Shelby reveals how she realized she was asexual

Maybe realized it with speedy lol

Is this shubble?

I realized I was ace when I realized that sex and sex related things made me uncomfortable. It took a lot of romantic trauma and a little bit of sexual assault until I finally realized I was ace. Now I have a loving girlfriend who respects my boundaries and loves me for who I am. ITS NORMAL, PEOPLE!!!

That school sounds like a cult…?

So a cult. You were in a cult

That's incredibly stupid. There's more to life than sex. And different sexualities are myths.

But… abstinence is great I’m confused, being unfaithful to your religion is the new trend now?

I had abstinence forced on me by religious indoctrination too. Except I do like sex and relationships, only I'm traumatized from both because of fucking religious indoctrination and spousal abuse. Fuck religion and stupid purity culture. If you don't like sex, then don't have it. Don't force children to believe they're gonna be tortured for all eternity for anything. Teach them about their biology and how emotions work.

This is how I figured out I was demisexual.

My lesbian awakening was Princess Leia.
My asexual awakening was when i realized that my lesbian awakening was Princess Leia in the dress beating up bad guys and being generally awesome, and not in the bikini.

Abstinence really is great. Seriously more people should be willing to just wait until they find the right person I can honestly and truly say that if I could go back and get rid of all of my previous sexual partners I would I can count my sexual partners on two hands I’m 24 years old and I feel like I have slept with way too many people even though my number is under 10 there is so much happiness that comes with waiting and for me I really wish I would’ve waited

Shes for the stre- CHURCH! Shes for the church!

These people think it’s easier to identify as a trendy name rather than go to therapy like you need 😂

There u go, she just admitted her ‘sexuality’was taught and pushed from school. Stop moulding kids

So she was conditioned into it? Like 90% of members of the alphabet club

The pandemic made me realize I was ace. Since I couldn’t meet w anyone to have sex I thought I was going to be miserable like everyone else was. Turns out it was the best time of my life sexually and I got on the ace train and haven’t looked back.

Catholic indoctrination

I LOVE SHUBBLE HER ASEXUAL ADVOCACY HELPED ME ALONG MY DISCOVERY AND I IDENTIFY AS ASEXUAL NOW ❤❤

Reading these comments, do most people actually imagine themselves doing sexual stuff with other people? Like their crushes or other people?

I found out I was ace in eighth grade sex-ed and I just sat there like oh damn that sexuality describes me. I'm so happy to see other ace people being open about their experiences

as someone who is hypersexual , i had dated an ace person before . she was my longest relationship and stayed with me through everything . and i absolutely loved her . the only reason were not together anymore is because im actually a gay trans guy and shes lesbian ace and thats totally okay !! were still best friends and are more like siblings now , and if anything were closer now than when we had been dating

Literally everyone growing thought I was just "too innocent" but it was more like I just couldn't care less about sex. Yeah we could have spicy conversations and stuff but I really just didn't have feelings on the matter and later I realized that not everyone could think in that same mindset

the fact that she isnt taught and doesnt understand that her parents
putting her into that school and trying to raise her that way makes her
literally stiff, and not able to get aroused by anything at all seems like.
that is not cause she is "asexual" by nature. its cause she was in a "no
sex before marriage" group, and all that shit in combination messed
her up.

I realized i was ace when i found out what sex actually was and was like “this doesn’t seem very fun?”
(I later found out i was aro because every relationship/crush i have been in/had i always said i didn’t actually feel love for that person, i just thought they were cool)

Similar experience. Raised Mormon. Chastity was easy. I didn't see why it was such a huge problem to live that way. Got older and realized... I'm actually the weird one here...

I may be asexual.. this thought has been pending in my mind for a couple of years… Yeah, I’ve had crushes, like on classmates, but they’ve always been brief and have lasted no longer than half a day max. I’ve never had any fantasies with any of them but have with fictional characters, oddly enough. And it’s usually never anything sexual anyway.. It’s usually about cuddling or spooning.. just comforting stuff.

Asexual AKA love waits lmmfao

Why all the gamers are confusing asexual with asexual reproduction?

😂😂😂 wtf is wrong with them. I mean we know 😅

I find it funny when people say there is a way to "cure asexual people". Lmao bruh if no one already wants you i doubt that making asexuals straight will make a difference

I thought I was just really good at abstinence/ celibacy

I realised I was asexual when said "if I lived before women's rights, I would rather have been a nun than any other occupation because I wouldn't want to be forced to marry a man and have children" 😂 also, I'm only romantically attracted to women so it's a double good reason

Edit: i was like 10 when i first said that, and it stuck with me for a very long time, even through what shoulve been my sexual awakening. Im 21 now. Quite a long time to know

That club stuff is so creepy...

im not ace, but i also cant really get down on "one night stand" culture, i believe im demisexual (to my understanding it requires a deep bond to be comfortable with the person)

question everyone! can you still be an ace but you enjoy reading smuts aka fictional people having sex? but the thought of doing it yourself is just something you can't and won't do

mfw the conservative catholics are the ones turning people lgbtqia 💀

I've kinda known my whole life. I just never had a word for it until high school. I told my mother about it, but I still didn't fully understand. Now that I actually know what it means, I feel so amazing actually having a label and identity that fits me and describes how I feel perfectly. Sadly, things like gender or romantic attraction are a lot harder to get into words how I feel.

It’s hard for my friends and family to understand
But the idea and action makes me physically sick
I’ve done the dating thing
Dated boys
Dated girls
Dated the thems
Theys

It just dosnt do it for me



One day I’ll meet someone who also wants to marry for tax benefits

OMG SHES ACE LIKE ME LETS GO 😎

I know that this comment is a year late but John Green when talking about a disputed scene in his book “Looking for Alaska” said that sometimes physical affection isn’t nearly as fulfilling as emotionally bonding and i feel like people should understand that.

It’s a sobering moment when you realize that no,, every piece of media from song to book to the screen and even everyone around you ISNT actually exaggerating all the time and that’s how the majority of people think and feel and you’re the odd one out

Why is there a dog whistle at the end of this video my god 😭😭😭

It's cool to see people feeling the same way as me especially shelby who seems really cool

abstinence is indeed great if you're a porn addict

From a church perspective, St Paul says it is better for a man to remain celibate and that marriage (and therefore sex) isn’t for everyone, so technically speaking the Church should support asexuals

For me it was magical to realize that I'm more interested in the physical touch aspect of sex than actually getting off, i could cuddle and be just as satisfied, and now I'm much happier just knowing it to be the case, my partner is also ace and it just works

I look up to her so much, this it is so wonderful to see someone I admire be like me

I thought i was bi for so goddamn long because i was equally unattracted in every direction 😅

Abstinence?!??!?! God forbid you have to control your own urges to avoid potential disaster that would be… oppressive!!!!!

When your identity is your sexuality... Lol wtf.?

True love waits was at my church too. Crazy stuff. Every year.