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Trust the process! She just messaged me today!
ОтветитьWork on yourself and get back to who you are. They are sitting there loving your messages. Your being played. Ignore them and they will wonder why and text you so you start crying again so they can feel good. Don't fall for this wake up and ignore them and watch them message you within 30 days to 60 days because they can wait that long thinking you will give in ignoring them. When they realise your not giving in they will scream for you trust me. Right now you're being looked at as a fool. Do not fall for it. Your wasting your life and they know this. They wanted to dump you on purpose. So wake up. Don't message them and become a absolute beast in the gym in silence. Safely ofcourse. Watch them beg you back. Give it 3 months tops. Go get some water and fresh air. Have a think what I've said and disappear. They will try and bait you into begging again but your not going to fall for it. Let them message you and never initiate contact. They have to learn so let them stew. You might not even want them back. Don't take them back there not worth it trust me. They don't operate the way you think and they must beg you not the other way about. They know you text and they enjoy it even if they have ghosted you.
ОтветитьGoing out with my ex next week on a 2nd date. “No contact” was key! Coach Lee has been my #1 resource.
ОтветитьGuys, sometimes it’s ok to let them go….
ОтветитьI want to know do I have a chance with her. I cheated on her and I didn’t give her space. I begged and bought her gifts. We have a close friends that know each other but her friends are telling her not to get back with me. It’s been 3 months. I just want to know if I have a chance I’m doing no contact now. However we do have small get togethers and she does attend them still. Last time she didn’t talk to me at all but she made eye contact. My brother then told me when I left she wanted to say good bye to me but she psych herself out from doing it.
ОтветитьI have to say again but if someone jumps right into a relationship or even a casual hookup .then the person didn’t mean to you what you think they did..I know not a perfect analogy but if your spouse(whom you loved)died…there would be a natural mourning period..you wouldn’t just opening bed with the next person that came along..again a loving marriage not just someone married to..
ОтветитьThis is so spot on today this happend tp me and my ex.after 2 days ofme of no contact.she reached out .to talk about stuff.that same afternoon.i said friendley no enjoy your breakup.i have things to do contact me thursday or friday in de evening she called me up to help me with some paperwork i thanked her. And said beter whe talk friday couse i ve got the time.she didnt enjoy her breakup at all
But i let her experiance the consequense by not being welcome any sooner.but i ve stayed casual and she accepted this.
How long should the No Contact be and how to know it is working ?
Ответитьcurrently in a NC situation but I just wanted to comment and thank you for these videos! it is truly helping me and reminding why to stay away and just to remain calm.
ОтветитьThank you for your wise wisdom so much Coach Lee. I’m at the point that if my ex doesn’t come back that I’m fine without her but i do have kids with her so i don’t want my kids to grow up without their birth parents. I do still care for her, i know it wasn’t all her fault also why we had to separate. I’m starting to feel her come back slowly though, taking my time, making sure I’m not making mistakes. I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU COACH LEE
ОтветитьI’m struggling so bad right now.. I am following this all, but damn it hurts bad…. I miss her so much, not quite sure she does.. but. I respect her space and I told her that….
ОтветитьWhat if she's looking for something that may not exist? She met someone on vacation that gave her a spark and she realized that she never had feelings like that, she said nothing came of it, she will text me on occasions, i will not text her
ОтветитьThanks!
ОтветитьUnfortunatelly 12 months passed, I stayed NC, I am working on myself, I am doing my hobbies + new things I never done before, I joined new clubs/groups. I'm still attractive like before. I changed my appearance a bit but not too much. When I met him by accident during one event I was smiling and was polite. He didn't reach out after that. I think he is avoidant style or dismissive avoidant big time or... In a rebound 🤷♀️ and I decided he is gone forever and need to accept that. I still pray for him to be happy tho. So none of those things coaches are talking about worked🤷♀️
ОтветитьHrmmm....ok, so he suddenly went back to his ex " unexpectedly". Said he thought he owed them one more chance...he also said he was very aware he could be making a mistake going back and leaving me....I am at a loss...
ОтветитьHi im so confused i dont know how long to wait. Im sure its it worth it. N c for over a month and nothing..wonder what i should do or do i want to hear what he would say if i call . Help ty coach.
ОтветитьThank you
ОтветитьLOL @ "I took your cat" 😂
ОтветитьCoach great advice as always. Everything you say is accurate. A couple of things: 1. Check out your ads, some of them contradict you.
2. Will you be addressing some of the more delicate areas of attraction i.e. self care? I think this is an important component that requires a very gentle explanation.
Coach, you are a master at communication. I love the gentle way you describe attraction and what reduces attraction. And-thank you for helping others on this area.
ОтветитьI went NC immediately. His attitude repulsed me.
ОтветитьBut what if they call you all the time the day after they broke up. And you have to ignore them to do NC. Then they get mad.
ОтветитьI think what he is saying is, stop making a fool out of yourself! Be strong inside, have an attitude of annoyance with her or him, he/she will be challenged to get back in your good graces and back into your life forever. Sometimes you have to let people see your confidence and challenge them with a calm and annoyed attitude, an attitude you can take or leave them and tolerate them. They have to prove you wrong!
ОтветитьLol @ the cat one
Ответить3 months after the breakup i felt like i would die without her and the baby. Almost 10 months later, my life is the best it has ever been and i cant think of a good reason to get back together.
ОтветитьWhat about cases where you were left for another man? What are my odds? 6 year relationship, she's bipolar and did cheat a few times. Asking simply about the situation, please spare me the comments about how I shouldn't want her back, ect
ОтветитьGuys any success stories with ex putting restraining order on you?
(Mine did due to her family)
Slight backstory
Broke up 4 months ago and No contact for last 64days and going
Around 45 days- Exs friends stalking my Instagram stories (I blocked them)
Around 50 day mark - ex seem to pop out of nowhere reactivating her Instagram and watching my stories but haven't initiated contact yet.
Finding it quite confusing and not sure how to go around restraining order as I have given myself a 90day mark on No contact. Any info on getting back after getting restraining order will help.
Does this work if she has become indifferent towards you and is now dating someone else?
ОтветитьI was bawling over my ex, but then burst out laughing about the cat thing. 😅😅😅
ОтветитьThe only thing I do is discuss our kids with her. Nothing else.. I will always keep rising and making a difference.
ОтветитьWhat if they're the one that reached out and wanted to talk?
ОтветитьYOU ARE THE BEST RELATIONSHIP COACH :D
ОтветитьHow do you do no contact with a co parent who is also your boss
ОтветитьThe important thing I'd not getting her back, as there are no guarantees she will. Ultimately the decision is hers. Your job is to get yourself back, make forward progress in your life, and by doing so, controlling your future, as much as possible, and if she comes back, and if you still want her, great. If not, take it as a learning experience, and keep pushing forward.
ОтветитьCoach Lee I made a lot of mistakes. I chased a lot during the ghosting period after he told me to move on I was still texting him. Everything happened within a month. I am now going through no contact 1 week now . I am not sure if he will come back.
ОтветитьThe taking the cat part had me cackling
ОтветитьI saw hints of mine coming she kept hinting she couldn't do it wed fight over it , then my issues got in the way and we didn't speak about them not properly but the girl tried and tried her absolute best it's down to what she has faced in the past , she told me on day one she was always scared of me leaving her due to them issues , and she didn't want me to leave or be hurt from it , I didn't understand at the time cause she didn't open up about it in the past she finally did I just want to help her work through it , I know she's a stubborn and hard girl to deal with , because of that I know that now , but it dosnt mean it can't be done
ОтветитьIv seena few of these some say no contact good others say no contact bad the reality is you needa balance, I messed up no contact multiple times first it was me I was fine okay we had a great chat , then I did it again , she reached put to me each time , she commented on a post or story or she rang me up , we got back to regular communication, she then opened up like she never has before , I messed uo here I didn't listen properly , then when she hung up to go sleep , I bombarded her with messages to the point she removed me , I gave it a couple more days went to send a message sent it , removed it , then said wrong person to which she replies , glad to see your moving on all she could have seen is wrong person 😆 she's ignoring me now again but I'm not being pushy. I'm gonna give her some time and call her up or something after
ОтветитьAfter following “No Contact” for a month and and a half , my ex gf hit me up and asked me to spend the night. Did express she wasn’t looking revive the relationship but wanted one more night. Turned into 2 nights and everything in between was like when we first started dating.. it was real nice. Haven’t heard from her since Saturday I left her Saturday afternoon. I am wondering though. Where do info from here? Wait for her to reach out again? Go back into “No contact” or just send a simple text? I just sensed there was more going on than a simple sex and I’m out sorta feel.
ОтветитьTake the 🐈😿 oh my🙄😔😫🤦
Unbelievable some people🙄😆🤣🤣
I can't imagine ever being able to do this at all 8 years just gone
ОтветитьLee will no contact work on my ex girlfriend who I broke up with 6 months ago?
ОтветитьAfter one and a half month is it ok to post a story of a table, a beer and food, and part of an arm. Like a misterious thing not another girl
ОтветитьThe people with the negative comments had a negative outcome because they wanted a negative outcome. I love my ex. I want him back, period. The people who say; "Just move on" are not taking into account that moving on and being with someone when you will always love someone else is unfair.
ОтветитьWas in nc for 35 days tops because she contacts me about our son. Now i had to deploy and i get random texts asking about what he likes on subway sandwich 😂 . Im away for a year on business and now its texts about Christmas gifts. 🤦♂️
ОтветитьOmgsh I was cry/laughing so hard about the taking the cat🤣
ОтветитьI’ve had it work in 2 separate relationships
ОтветитьI made a mistake. I posted on Facebook that I went on a first date and it was only 3 weeks post breakup. I know my ex sees my posts because he still likes and comments on them. I don’t even like the person I went on a date with and I so wasn’t ready to date
Ответитьif your ex brings up how the relationship had a positive effect on them, is it okay to do the same??
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