How to Get Over a Breakup - Ask Yourself This Question First Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy

Just wow the clarity is next level 👌

Please help! Ex-works away, after spending a lovely 2 weeks on holiday together - I flew back and he started backing off - again and ended it. We agreed to meet up to exchange our stuff and talk face to face as to end it on video chat seemed wrong. No contact in that time - around 2 weeks, but he's been back 4 days and I've heard nothing, do I contact his family and ask to drop his stuff off so it's out of my way/life?! I don't want to break no-contact but I feel like he's taking the p**s.

This is some of the most entitled, male-ego-heavy-judgmental-gaslighting disguised as self help “advice” I have ever seen. It’s not only exclusionary of people who just were discarded or left an abuser (and who tf you think watches this kind of video, dude? Like, ok that’s super helpful advice for me! Who just had my entire life, not just the romantic partner aspect of it, literally EVERY ASPECT of my life, this man got intimately involved with, and tore to shreds and burned to the ground and once it was all on fire, and every single person I knew had been convinced that I was worthless and no good a had turned their backs on me, once everything was truly f***d, then he started devaluing me even harder and left me on Christmas and never spoke to me again, still hasn’t. Only showed up to try to get me arrested after someone tried to stab me and I called him to come help me, that’s what his response to that was, to tell me I was being irrational and I needed to be in the psych ward and call the cops on me which was completely obvious that he’s just a psychopath and saw one last opportunity to hurt me, drive me even crazier than what he did to me for seven years Already had, and then chuckle to himself and ghost. And yes, you are absolutely right! That relationship was NOT what I thought. Because I was being deeply, profoundly, hideously deceived and manipulated and deliberately caused to perceive that relationship at first as wonderful and truly meaningful and a special totally different kind of connection, unique to ONLY the two of us…is that because we’re delusional? Or because we’re being played, and deceived? But now I have to un-fuck that game bs lie that was deliberately placed in my mind and grew in my heart, nourished at first, then starved, beaten and abandoned. That’s MY f***n problem????

I’m sorry….but f that.

You’re not very compassionate, at all. And you need some awareness of abuse and trauma in relationships before you go spouting off your one sided one size fits all perspective shitty advice that very well might lead some poor unaware victim of psychopathy and/or narcissistic abuse to suicide, I hate to be harsh man but like…get a f***n clue, dude. Life or death matters need better advice.

She sounds like she sucks. She will be doing dude a favor

Going through it now, you feel like what do I do now will I ever meet a new woman.

The problem be that some don't care to walk away or get walked on.

This is exactly where I am right now and thank you so much for the guidance…. I really wanted someone to show me the clarity…

I've come back to this video so much and it always helps. Thank you Matthew

It's really tough when he starts to act like a little girl or a little boy. And when he comes back again he acts like nothing really happened during he was missing.

Man you’re a freakin genius ♥️

When Teo people get together and have rapport, connect perfectly, have the chemistry and passion for each other,BUT don’t share values or have the same vision for a future; it’s time for a check up of the soul, mind and heart. A “romantic relationship” is beautiful and joyful but most of the time, leads nowhere. The relationship needs values and same vision in order to stand and share a future together. ITS time we open our eyes and see reality for what it is. Romantic love is most of the time an illusion, a fantasy, day dreaming of something special and unique… but when the bubble breaks it’s awfully painful to see the truth hitting in your face. Aim for “ life relationship “ where all the cards are on the table and you can smoothly and easily can talk about the future together. That’s all everyone is hoping, dreaming for. But if the commitment isn’t there, then , time to make your reality check. Hard but true! Life is short to waste it in mere fantasy…just because it feel marvelous.

Ouch....but a message much needed x

MH always helps us move forward.
I don't like how her ex used her to look normal at a wedding cuz he didn't want to explain things to everyone at the expense of her feelings and heart.

Gf broke up with me a week ago. She’s tried to contact me (see if I want to talk about it) but I’ve gone no contact. Yesterday I dropped off some of her stuff but I didn’t tell her, told her roommate it was on the porch ready to be taken in.

I feel bad because I do want to be this badass who isn’t bothered by it and remains no contact, but I can’t help but feel like I’m handling this slightly too petty. And maybe just reaching out to say “hey I’m trying to move on and I know you mean well but I need my space to move on so I will not be responding anymore, I wish you well.”

As I was going through my divorce I had a massive hemorrhagic stroke then brain surgery two days later and now I really really feel like no man will ever want to be with me again now that I’m handicapped. Such a shame to think that way but so far after a year and a half from my stroke men act like they’re afraid of me & or either just totally turned off bc I have to use a cane to walk. Looks like I may as well get used to being single for the rest of my life

you honestly have the best way of building us up again with thoughts. thank you for the coaching through closure <3

My ex tried that tactic that Matthew suggested and it doesn't work. I simply treated him like anyone else and decided not to give him more details. He is not important, even when he was investing in me. I have since let God work on healing my heart with a smile and a wink and playfulness and enjoying my life and I have no resentment who is dealing with this maturely. Especially as I have now met another man who is now my only ever husband and father of our children.

Matthew is right and this is so smartXD If you just play it cool and know your worth. It will confuse him.

amazing advice
thank you so much !

Not me having the same name and issue that this Veronica, bf for 3 years, he not sure about me now, little investment, but didn't break up with me, Ill see him in 2 days, so scared 😅

Sounds like Veronica cheated. That’s usually the only issue a guy can’t get passed.

Thank you for this !

It was all here. If only I had seen this before 7 years, It wouldn't been so much worse now. 😭😭😭

but wait. At that time, I didn't have Internet and android !!🤣🤣

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He unfortunately didn't say anything about how she can move on. He kept talking about that guy. Unfortunate.

Brilliant guy

After 18 years of being alone than finding a guy i love yet still feeling my old insecurities this man helps me understand its going to be okay

They broke I understand but she abused me in the relationship and after breakup whenever I reach to her she start abusing me

I got dumped over text message yesterday. I have blocked him and deleted his number. 3 years down the drain because he fell out of love and is too lazy to work on it.

Nice 👍👍.... thank you for this

I have faced the same situation. This type of men will never come back .They will play with your emotions for short term gratification. The moment they will get somebody else ,they are going to ditch you.

Matthew you saved my life. Thank you very much

I feel like the woman on the other end of the call was very rude and unable to hear the truth

I needed to hear this, thank you!!

Great advice

Does anyone else get a real Daniel Radcliffe vibe from this guy?

Awesome!!

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So grateful for your work. Its soooo impactful!

The pain seems it’s not going to end. I feel soo broken 💔

My situation is eerily similar to this womens 👀👀

Going through the same right now it sucks
They come back over and over again

He's a genius!

I’m learning so much from these videos and I’m 40! Thank you for doing these

Before he breaks up with you, YOU SEE RED FLAGS!!! He's either rude, constantly moody, lying, cheating, not affectionate, some many things. Protect yourself Ladies. Stop settling for crumbs and accepting disrespect. Stop giving men second and third chances to hurt you. If you tell a man your deal breakers and he breaks the deal..
END IT RIGHT THEN!!! NO second chance, no let's talk about it. Remember you already did that when you told him initially about your deal breakers. Ladies, MEN will test you to see if your YES/NO is really real. It's up to you to represent that!!! Men appreciate what they have to work for.

Why do only women face all this.. why dont men go thru anything even close to it. Why is difficult for us women to wonder "how shud I even formulate this, how do I say this while being cordial"

Thank youuuuuuu so much

What I don't get is why go to the wedding at all. It didn't sound like it was a wedding of a family member. It sounds to me like she was hoping he changed his mind and wanted her back. I think the guy saying he still cares is just a way of keeping her on the hook. And saying he still loves and cares... come on. I'm not as understanding as Matthew here ... I refuse to run after a man who doesn't want me or play his games. I broke up with a guy once because of how he treated me. He kept calling and my girlfriends tried to say...ohhh, he misses you, he wants you. And I wanted to believe it. Then I thought about what advice I would give to a girlfriend in the same situation. The thing is if he wanted me and cared he wouldn't have treated me better. I was convenient. That's all. He didn't have to put any effort in... by calling me. I never ever regretted not getting back together with him. Never.

👉”This is a man who has chosen not to invest in you” 👈. Genius👏👏👏

The video is 7 years old …wonder how many who saw the video …healed and moved on …and how many are still stuck in time !!