Child Psychology : How to Discipline a Child That Does Not Listen

When a kid doesn't listen to you he/she gonna learn the hard way. Physical punishment doesn't help some kid either it just makes them fearful, scar, or trauma for their rest of their live. For me I been trauma as a kid. Some kid can be stubborn and refuse to listen the parents

i'm not a parent but I babysit my sister's three kids. They are wild so I teaching myself how to interact with them. This video helps.

give child some spankings , show her that there are consequences for doing bad things and not listening. all this pseudo psychology bullcrap doesnt work, maybe in movies. Life is more complex than any text book can ever explain.

Kid's know if you have nothing to back up what you are saying. That's empty authority. Words are not consequences. That's why some kids ignore them or a laugh them off. You become a punk in their eyes. Even adults don't listen so that's why there are wars, prisons, weapons, tasers, fights. All this liberal psychology nonsense is ruing the fabric of society.

I wish I could stay calm. Every time I reach my breaking point I turned into the devil.

It doesn't work. She is thick and mad. She is willfully defiant

I just rolled my eyes. Maybe this worked for kids 20 years ago but none of this is working on my kids. I'll keep trying. But these new kids are different, super bold and hard headed

Wow! Such a short video and yet so helpful! Thank you so much! 🙏🥰

I was raped as a child for copying what I had seen other people do to me. Is that the correct form of discipline for a child? I was around 2 years old.

Nothing no matter how big for a consequence motivates my child. Which has been difficult because I don’t want to be overbearing and discourage my child’s heart. Recently I’ve just had him sit on the back step whenever there’s an issue until he chooses to come in and that’s helped me stay calm.. which is not my forte.
This was helpful! A consequence doesn’t have to be punishment always but can be guidance. I never thought of guidance as a consequence.

So what happens after you say “hey what’s up, I just ask you to pick up your shoes and you acted like you didn’t even hear me; then continues to ignore me? Not to mention if there is a response it’s NO! I respect what your saying but my thoughts are at what point without consequences for bad behavior will a child learn to stop the negative behavior? I never agree with psychical discipline but have difficulty understanding why logical consequences by age 3 if used properly are not the way to go. I’m having trouble understanding your method. Are you suggesting there’s a magical age when children just decides to respond with acceptable behavior? If we constantly complement and stop asking when they won’t respond. Aren’t we actually doing them an injustice? In the real world bad behavior results in uncomfortable results. How will our children learn consequences if we do not introduce them?

Thanks

The first mistake is asking a child. Tell them what you expect. The big issue is what happens when a child doesn't listen and their life is in danger. They need a hard consequence right up front if they don't listen because in real life the consequences could be being hit by a car or some other disaster.

But what if you’d asked them to do something [the same thing] over and over for over a year?

Does this apply to children that have been under parental alienation

When your child refuses to do something...

Instead of saying:

"You have to do it. You have to write/ brush your teeth/ switch off the TV."

Say

"I can see you really don't feel like doing it.When I was small, I sometimes didn't like it too when Grandma made me do it. But we all have to do it beta. Come, I will help you."

Let's EMPATHISE before reinforcing the rule!

Let Children know it's okay to not want to do something, and sometimes we still have to and that you understand.

Be in your child's team, even while putting the boundary!

None of this works with my grandson- he feels he has entitlement to not listen, talk back keep asking negotiate- he wont stop verbally - abandonment issues with his mom leaving when he was 4-
2.5 years of upset ! Counselors an behaviorist says we have it under control! No we dont! He is rightfully angry confused and broken hearted! And no consequence no restrictions no talking works!

Its effective thanks for the advice

Thank you! Finally Some new jnformation other then the same things repeated in other parenting videos. Thank you

In case some people didn’t know spanking your kids is very damaging. It’s weak parenting trying to impose your will bu hitting one child maybe us as adults will learn by being hit right? Sounds so stupid hitting doesn’t work it just traumatizes children