WEDDING INVITATIONS! Everything You Need to Know | Wedding Questions Answered | The Knot

RSVP deadline? How about "As soon as possible! Hosts are naturally anxious to know whether you will attend." Giving a deadline only encourages dawdlers to dawdle. But yes two weeks after sending invites, you can make "An invitation sent to your address may have been lost in the mail" calls. And during that call you may ask "When might the hosts expect your response?" TY for telling hosts they needn't watch the mailbox in hope and do nothing, like helpless ninnies. Hosts must take control!

It's OK to put a ph# and web addy on the invite; put it just beneath "RSVP" IMO. Just don't go crazy with too much contact info.

Perfect re asking for gifts is verboten. It's OK to provide the info to people seeking the info but not to bring up the topic yourself. And don't urge or even allow family/friends to be rude on your behalf. "Spread the word" only to those who ask to know.

Invite each guest by name. If you don't know a name, find out. Perfect! Nobody wants to lose control of the guest list and have Lex Loose show up with somebody picked up at a bar last night. Nor should adults need a human emotional support animal for a happy friendly event like a wedding.

About ceremony and celebration as separate events. Technically, one does not INVITE people to a religious ceremony. (God is The Host, not you, is the reasoning.) One informs so & so that one would be honored if so & so would witness one's marriage vows. While many choose to combine ceremony and celebration into one big event, the distinction between the two is long standing.

The Wedding Industry introduced (invented) the "modern etiquette" notion that any person asked to attend any one wedding related event must also be asked to attend every other wedding related event. The hype has been so effective that now many people asked to any one event believe themselves thereby OWED inclusion in other events.

No. This notion is insulting to both guests and hosts. Events are hosted by people who WISH to give others refreshments or a good time, for whatever reason. You are asked because the host actually WANTS you there. And guests attend because they WISH to attend, for whatever reason. NOT for the sake of being compensated or paid in some way. The host doesn't OWE you; rather YOU owe the host a thank you for letting you attend.


Not bad for a context where one must self censor to avoid offending Wedding Industry vendors.

I was going to put in small print on my details sheet above the website link “registry , and other details on website” 😅

Excellent video! I will be getting married August 5th ‘23. I have a question about the change from civil ceremony to church wedding. The original invitation indicated ceremony at same venue address. This is no longer the case. How do I make an addendum to this important change.

I have a question. My nephew is getting married in north carolina mountains next year and he and his fiance are asking for $300.00 gifts per couple so that others can give a gift for them for their honeymoon.

I told him I will make that decision Not you. HE said he needed to know how much WE intend to give them, when we make the 11 hour drive up there from Tampa Fl.

I told him since its going to cost us rather alot of money for gas, a place to stay, you are NOT Going to get 300.00 from us, for your Honeymoon to Europe.

THE invitations were not by mail but by email to save them stamps.

They told this on their invitation that they wanted this amount so they know how to budget for their honeymoon in ITaly and France.

How would you both deal with it. She is a traveling pediactric nurse, he is still in college living in a nice apart they both pay for.. how nervy are these two kids in their 20's to ask for everyone to give them a set amount.

I also told him that he forgot that when he was 12 years old my husband and i worked very hard to get him his first camera, he only had it for 3 weeks after i paid $350.00 for it, i had to work all week to pay for it, and then after he got bored with it, his mother sold it for $500.00 and profited from this.

I told him your money is in the camera, because you are so rude and tacky to ask us for that kind of money ask your mom where is the $350.00 camera that you sold for $500? I told him i already gave you your gift i AM NOT GIVING YOU ANY GIFT. How would you handle this??

I have a wedding invite question . I and my husband have been invited to my friends daughter 's wedding but my son (23 yrs) was not invited but expressed he wanted to come ..wedding is in 3 weeks ,I was going to call my friend but I dont know what to say .I put off calling because it stresses me and now have anxiety about it