7 Green Flags Someone Is Emotionally Safe In A Relationship

Thanks for this awesome video! Love the message and the break down.
One point of criticism: Whenever you use a citation it gets cut behind your 'Psych2Go' logo on the upper right of the video.
Rather than that - as always: wonderful work <3 Thanks for your effort!

We're now 3 years, he has all of these and I'm so lucky to have him ❤ we have also the same vibes 😁 he really gives me peace 🍃

your voice is just beautiful

Im still waiting for my only girl to like me...

I will definitely do everything i need to; To be the most emotionally and every other kind of necessary safe for my ordained person :)

There was a incident like this like i messaged her she seemed to be in a bad mood but wasn't so I made sure by asking her and she responded by laughing, so was it wise to ask in a funny way or not

Don't mind me
I'm just checking if I am the gree flags

My bf and i are not perfect at all and have petty fights, but i know for a fact we feel safe with each other. We literally napped the entire day today after a stressful week. Being with him makes me so sleepy and my brain also relaxes so much. I hope everyone find their person.

At first glance, the relationship seems like a fairytale. They spend countless joyful moments together, share dreams, and plan a future. However, as time goes on, there are subtle signs that make you difficult to carry on the relationship. Their partner would avoid difficut conversations, lash out, or avoid talking when having a bad day. Emotional safety is the security you feel when you are with someone who allows you to express your feelings freely and be who you are. Here are few essential signs to look out for.
1) Consistency- Emotionally safe person will be consistent and reliable on their actions and words. They will follow througjh on their promises, show up for you when you need them, and prioritize the relationship. This means you won't have to worry about their moods or second guess their responses. On the other hand, with an emotionally unsafe person, you will have to walk on eggshells. Its difficult to be constantly second guessing and worrying about your partner' s words and responses.
2) Responsibility. In any relationship, misunderstandings are bound to occur. However, an emotionally safe person will take responsiblity for their actions, apologize sincerely and seek to repair any harm they caused. They will own upto mistakes. They value honesty, accountability and responsibility , nurturing a safe and trusting relationship dynamic.
3) Vulnerability. Healthy conflict resolution and vulnerability are essential components of emotional safety. A safe partner approaches conflicts with empathy. During a disagreement, they might say, " I feel uncomfortable when we argue like this. Can we find a way to understand each other better? "
4) Listen without judgment. An emotionally safe person will not jump to conclusions or criticise your feelings. They wont dismiss your feelings or get defensive. Rather they will listen attentively, validate your feelings, and express their own thoughts and emotions in a respectful manner. This kind of dialogue is the first step towards creating an emotionally safe environment.
5) Support. Accessibility, Responsiveness, Engagement. (ARE). highlights essential qualities in a supportive partner. The right person will make it very clear that they are there for you. For example, if you call them during a stressful moment, they will try their best to . They are committed to being in your life without playing games.
6) Respect and boundaries. A safe person will honour your needs, both physical and emotional. You know they wont pressure you into doing things you are not comfortable with interacting when you are not ready. This respect creates a sense of safety.
7) Empathy. An emotionally safe person shows compassion and genuine interest in your well- being. They celebrate your successes creating a safe environment where you feel accepted.
Self- reflection. Are YOU being emotionally safe? Communication, respect and empathy are two way streets in an emotionally safe relationship. Your partner should make you feel emotionally safe and valued.
Emotional safety is the cornerstone for a long and lasting relationship.

Some people are accountable for show but are off in other ways.

Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

I just understood who was the real red flag in all my relationships

I may be single, but I know for some people who go into a healthy relationship tend to be in situations where they need to convince others, namely family members, that it's not a trick.

Bit what if they rattert leave when problems come up and they choise the way of Leaving that hurts you more which is easier for them so they get less hurt

My ex used to leave my apartment or hang up on me when I cried lol my current partner is a dream come true. He never makes me question anything. His love for me is very clear and I make sure he feels the same way.

This simultaneously describes my friends and the polar opposite of my family perfectly

I just got a bit of emotional at the end when it asked “are you being emotionally supportive safe for your partner as well?” Because I tried, I really did try but he’d always just snap at me. I feel like the more I watch your guys videos, the more and more I feel myself closing up my feelings, building a wall around myself because my experience with “love” or whatever I think it even is anymore has just left me feeling stupid. I messed up all year, I’m gonna try better in the new year and just focus on me.

now, where is my gf?

Paying attention while actually paying attention. Letting the other person talk and feel heard is for me, the biggest one.

I feel enlightened by your informative videos, hope you are doing fine. 😊

So what you are saying is not to have a relationship with anyone right wing, conservative, MAGA, patriarchal, racist, bigoted, sexist, ...... Trump voters. Spot on.

I'm going to have to judge actually...you can discern without attacking

Lately I've been questioning my friendship with one of my friends. In conversations I frequently feel like I might say the wrong thing because I never know how they're going to respond. I told them about something very uncomfortable and triggering that happened and they seemed bored by the conversation. They only looked upset when I said something that would affect them (it was with a mutual friend that we had a dnd campaign with and I couldn't bear to see them after the incident so dnd was canceled). And then there are boundaries that I have set. Our relationship is somewhat akin to siblings. They tend to joke around with their actual siblings with playful insults saying that they're "dumb/stupid" or a "loser". I've expressed to them that I don't like it when they do that to me because I'm already mean enough to myself (working on fixing it with my therapist) like that and them doing that isn't helping. They said they'd stop. Well, yesterday at their mom's bday dinner (our siblings are married so I was there) they were passing out chopsticks for the food that was made, as per the nature of the meal. I said that I don't know how to use chopsticks so they didn't need to hand me some. They said "oh that's right, you're a loser". I had to try very hard not to cry or show any reaction to it so as not to ruin the dinner for their mom. I know this can't be healthy anymore. Only problem is that we (and our married siblings) live together and I can't afford to move out and live on my own yet. I'm planning on talking to them with my therapist to try and work this (and other things they've done that I've not mentioned) out. If it doesn't get better after that then we're done. I just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening to this random stranger on the internet

Don't try to be a "greenflag", just be the best person you can be.

These characteristics are really important in any kind of relationship (romantic, friendship, familial etc)

However, i think something that could be added to the video is that: we are human, so we're not perfect all the time.
All of us have some sort of trauma from our life and no one has the obligation to always be The Best Person Ever™ or the Most Mature Person Ever™, because it just wouldn't be a real relationship (because we wouldn't be expressing our humanity)
Aside from verbal and physical abuse, it's normal for anyone to have days where they're not the stable, secure and emotionally mature rock they usually are. There will be disagreements, misunderstandings or even fights (sans the abuse mentioned before) AND there will be times when your partner simply won't be able to be there for your, emotionally and/or physically, either due to previous conflict or due to other innumerous reasons. And that's ok, that's why we need a support system that's more than just our romantic partner.
There can also be long periods of strife/difficulty in relationships, for example: health/mental health issues, financial stress, sickness in the family or even kids. And during these periods, one might not be able to be the living supporting person they usually are for some time.

The key thing is balance. To check with yourself and your partner what's the most common m. o. between you and if they/you actually try to better them/yourself whenever (physically and emotionally) possible even if not always. It's not about "we're fine when we're both happy" but "both of us try to put in REAL effort on our relationship most of the time".

Great video and I hope you guys might explore more of this in future ones!

Their.... Fucking shit. Can we stop with this now?

This actually helps me a lot right now. Had an argument with someone I was dating(past tense now), and I was wondering if maybe I was actually doing everything wrong. Turns out I was giving green flags left right and centre, and they were gaslighting me. At least this validates me a bit and helps me not feel like I was in the wrong. Still kinda scared they might harras me further, though..

Awesome. A good reminder thanks

Remember people, this dont work if it isnt a habit. You cant be a green flag for a month and then forgot how to do all the good things. Stay kind.

The irony, when the bonus segment popped up and suggested the viewer to self-reflect to see whether he was emotionally safe for the partner, I said shit, I was already watching the video as it was asking me whether I am being safe for my girl or not. I never even thought of her being safe for me. I guess at least that shows how much responsibility I place onto myself in a relationship.

A long time ago, I learned that no one likes green flags that shine too bright.

I was curious to see if there were any of these that I was missing or really needed to work on, but it turns out I'm just a pile of green flags. Now if only other people could see them 😅

Oof 😢

I think these shouldn't always be followed. If your partner is not justified in a response then your reaction should be empathetic, but sometimes more critical. But then that's dips into being in a toxic relationship.

Sometimes the best relationships take time. We both learned how to become safe partners ❤

I fell in love with someone and now need to let go of that person due to lack of empathy, open communication as well as insight/responsibility... It's hard.

Who else watch this to make sure, you are emotionally stable for are relationship because you always second guessing yourself? 😅

There is no safety. Safety is a false god.

Sign six, Check...
Sign seven Check...
Uh...
Oh wait, this is my doctor 😭😭😭

Wondering if our crazy clown world is intended to break relationships as well as most of the other good things in life?

Talk about perfect.

I need this, I need help looking for it. It's so hard to find.

I've come to accept this is surprisingly pretty hard to do and why communication is the first important thing to focus on. I dont think im the best, but I know I try my best, but I had a partner who was making big requests of me and being upset if I wasnt able to do them. And something in me just cracked realising that no matter how hard I tried, she would feel sad its not what she wanted and would just tell me "im questioning the relationship". This became a running theme where it felt like I was hurting her and I dont even know how or what I can even do about it because our relationship just kept spiralling down.

I dunno, I felt like if I voiced anything negative she took it as "I dont love you" and it manifested. I'd love to say I wanted to stay and help. But given our circumstance of a long distant relationship and what our "plan" was (her wanting me to do all the work so early on) I couldnt feel comfortable.

See this things are normal

I’m glad that I fit these criteria pretty well even though I don’t expect a relationship any time soon (scared of women). I’ll admit I occasionally slip up on boundaries due to forgetting they set the boundary sometimes. When I remember I’ll apologise and follow it again but I’m trying to forget less.

It also hurts that this is what I was looking for in my last talking stage/relationship and just wasn’t getting at all. It ended over a year ago now and although I don’t think about it much it comes to mind when thinking about partners due to it being my only “romantic” experience. I couldn’t see the warning signs and I myself was too eager to back down in pursuing something, trying to make them healthy through pure love. It hurt me a lot and I don’t recommend anyone does the same. It does provide very valuable insight into you and other people if you manage to avoid going completely crazy though, which is the only upside to the shitshow. Hopefully next time it’s better.

What's one thing you learned about yourself this year? That you want to work more on?