10 Signs That You May Have A Narcissistic Mother

Try having autism and bpd and a narcissistic abusive heroine addict mother

I feel guilty for even thinking she was a narcissist

Keep pissing me pressing my emotional buttons and I'll walk round picking you off.

Although the Bible says honor thy Father and Thy mother but ,some parent use their authority as a threat against their children and that's wrong .

I have a few narcissistic traits and I truly need to heal some of these things. I didn’t realize I was midway narc. SMH I feel terrible after reading this

I think My whole family (aka brother,sister,mom,dad(not aunt’s cousins etc.)is narcissistic my friends left me my only hope right now is too grow up and leave home too find some love I wanna stay home till then tho idk how I managed all those years with almost no affection at all

my mother emotionally abused me, has been physical, and minimizes me to the point i retreat into my room by myself to avoid her. then, when i avoid her she becomes more angry and abusive because i am avoiding her. it's such a brutal cycle and she will never go to counselling for it. i should not be in this environment but sadly she has the upper hand due to legal reasons (I'm on bail and forced to live with her)

today first thing in the morning my mother started getting on me about my responsibilities; reminding me i needed to make phone calls. i had asked her to stop because i am an adult and know what i need to do. I made all my calls just fine. she started the silent treatment and passive aggressive thing and left the house in her. it made me feel guilty of doing something wrong when really i just asked her not to confuse my priorities and that I will take care of my things.

later when she came back she did not say hello and ignored me again. i asked if she wanted help with some outdoor stuff (recently did over 8 hours of work for free landscaping her property) and she said yes. She needed a garbage bag at some point and could not find any and then decided to ask me if I knew where her garbage bags were. I said I did not know, but without thinking about it I had used them the other day to clear out garbage.

She then goes on snapping on me for using a garbage bag. She called me a ****head. Told me to shut up after she "got me going". Belittled everything I have done for her in the last two weeks (only been here two weeks and shes already threatened to call the police) and started nit picking every thing i do. I even got that vibe that she was going to try and get physical but because I am a man and am likely not to take that and slap her back she backs down and uses other tactics. Anytime i spoke she would interrupt with some pointless question. I struggled to get my camera on but if she notices i do that she because even angrier and says its illegal.

i am so over this. the law forced me to live with her to get out of jail for something i did not do. I spent over 6 months in jail without bail and now this is what is happening. i had a really great apartment even after 6 months i was able to hold it but now I am losing that apartment and going to have to pay these new absurd rates at over 1000+$ per month when I was only pay $600 before this.

She has no accountability and I have nowhere to turn.

It’s a blessing to know who they really are and not fall for their lies and the different masks they were daily just to manipulate, control, and condemn, and get supplied from those who are naive enough to fall for their tactics.. no one can help or “heal” these bitter hard hearted individuals but the Lord Jesus Christ.. and that’s if they acknowledge him and turn to him genuinely and want and let him to change them from the inside.. also praying for their victims victims/ones who are still under their spell .. for their eyes to open to the truth and be set free in Jesus name, amen.. whom the Son sets free is free indeed.

Does anyone elses mom bring up old arguments and disagreements as ammunition to pick a new fight?
"Remember when you didn't include me in that lunch with your sisters.....so disrespectful."

You described my mother literally word by word. Ans her favourite tool: we misbehave because we don't love her, or she won't love us back (my son and me, trapped in the jail she built for me) unless we behave and be properly humiliated even in public. As my psychologist said, she needs a psychiatrists ans some meds and therapy... Imagine, I was told to need a therapy dog, I could have right now slapping the 2 years waiting list (all express of these dogs are covered by our system) and she said no, no and no... The reasoning she offered is that she can't take care of more "animals" home (my parents, my son and me), so no. My therapist insisted ans told her that if someday I have a bad sugar drop or my mind starts with something Lome anxiety thr animals would help me, and would be with me 24/7. Still a no, when my mother left I told my therapist that I'm sure that if the dog was there for me, she (or my father or sister) wouldn't be able to end bit from a threat from them, and the dog would get away with it showing abuse from the one that made the dog jump to protect me. Really, narcissistic

8 out of 10

It’s a serious mental illness but it doesn’t have the same reputation as cancer or multiple sclerosis or Parkinson’s. It’s just as bad however.

Why people don't believe tat ur mother is not toxic

It’s so sad…but this is my mother to the T… it wasn’t until I was an adult until I figured this out.. just sad

My kids have been dealing with this all their lives, and will be trapped in this BS their entire lives.
The hardest part is not being able to do anything about it, but only to see how it destroys them.
I have always been the punching bag for all the BS their mother puts them through,
And there are far more mom's just like this than most people know or are willing to admit or even talk about.

Narcissist is just a polite way of saying ässhölë

A NARSESSIST IS VERY INSURCURE WITH IN THEM SELFS --- SO TO FEEL SUPERIOUR AND IN CONTROL THEY WOULD RATHER BELITTLE SOME ONE ELSE AND TAKE THEIR PEACE AWAY FRM THEM---- A NARS WILL ROB YR SOUL IF YOU LET THEM!!!!

Some of the points made here are very ill given an incorrect

Most all of them.

Why isn’t she wearing pants

We need more info on narcisstic siblings...

I’ve notice that a lot of the times when I tell my mom about something she did a while ago because it was wrong she will straight up gaslight me and tell me it never happened cause she doesn’t remember it. Like when I was a kid I really wanted to get into Pokémon but my mom didn’t want me to cause it was to boyish but 6 years later my 5 year old sister starts to gain an interest in it and she supports so I asked her why she didn’t want me to when I was younger and she acted all confused and told me it never happened.

Oh and this other time she got mad at me because I didn’t want to wear certain shoes for church and she got mad at me and said “you can wear what shoes you like but I don’t want to be seen with you, your an embarrassment” the same day my dad noticed I was crying so he asked me what was up and I told him what she told me and she acted like she never said that and said that I shouldn’t put words in her mouth.

When I was a kid my mom got so mad at me and my siblings cause we didn’t want to clean are room that she took are toys and put them all In a trash bag. She told us she put them in the trash. She didn’t actually and we got are toys back a year later. But still!

And I’ve also notice that ever sence I started being more involved in art (I’m good at drawing and play 3 instruments) that she brags about me to almost everyone she as the chance to have a conversation with.

About a months ago the hairstylist my family went at for years! (before I was born, my mom was even friends with her before she was her hairstylist) anyways the hairstylist forgot about her and now we are not allowed to talk to her.

I also had to post this on my alt acount because if she finds this I won’t be allowed to have a phone anymore (lol) it’s to the point that I hide my phone everytime she is somewhat close because if she sees it, she wants to go through it and if you tell her not to she will confiscate it. (Please if you have any advise I’ll listen to it)

💯 % across the board. It’s horrible- an eternal nightmare-

I want to send this to my mom

My mother in an effort to make me feel guilty said..you don't love me like the dog does. Obviously a ridiculous statement and expectation but as years have gone by and as I have gained more awareness...I realize that she was being very honest that that IS her expectation of me to be like a dog. Any attempt to be a self or an adult is not tolerated even though I have my own children...even my tears are an opportunity for her to turn it all around on herself as the victim

I grew up with a narcissistic mother, and this video 100% explains exactly what I had to go through. Getting far away from her was the best solution for me and my siblings to start recovering mentally. For people who don’t understand, this video is a great resource to explain

She never apologizes.

Be very careful here. Sometimes moms get tired and upset. Moms get periods too . Even adults become short tempered. Communicate.

My older brother and sister were the golden children the other 3 older ( an older brother also born in the '60s, and the last 2 bowel movements born in thev70's me& my identical twin sister) we served a purpose very very brief purpose and then she notices us it was liked,"OH YOU'RE STILL HERE?!" She's now yrs gone but God thats her to a T. ...😢

That disgusting person is not my mother

This is my Mother

I just recently learned that mother is a narcissistic or has this as a personality disorder. Growing up, she displayed all of these traits. She has been going to therapy the last few years and shes a bit better but her traits still shine through. I like to try and look at her conditions growing up and think what couldve made her turn out that way. I think she's likely copying off of the way her mother treated her and just passed it down to me. My grandmother is totally different now, because of her mother treating her the same way. Generational traumas are a real thing and my mission is to have it stop with me.

That is one thing I'm Truly grateful about life My parents and sisters aren't narcissistic pictures, b****

In my experience there was never praise and if I wanted to do or learn anything that was a for sure a no.

There's a great podcast called Disaffected Podcast hosted by Joshua Slocum that discusses these topics and much more.

This was my Mom.😢

C’est ma mère à 100 %. En plus, elle joue la victime en se plaignant constamment, elle ment à propos de tout et se prend pour la reine d’Angleterre. Quand je suis en sa présence, elle ne me regarde même pas quand je prends la parole: elle fait autre chose ou me parle par-dessus. Avec le temps, j’ai appris à me taire. J’ai tenté 100 fois de lui en parler, mais rien à faire, elle est incapable de la moindre introspection. Je la déteste. Et c’est fou de constater à quel point on est nombreux à devoir vivre avec cette triste situation...

Americans mothers by and large are the worst women and mothers in the world. Narcissist mother and fathers, if you want to call them that, should be registered in a database much like s3x offenders.

Narcissist mother creates narcissist daughter.
The irony was my toxic girlfriend left me. I didn’t leave because she realized and admitted her toxicity during our early stage, she said she would love to learn to have my kindness and patience level. I believed and always trusted she could change and improve. Overtime, it became worst and became one sided. She took my honesty and vulnerability as her weapons. I was verbal abused, manipulated and gaslighted. Little things can be mentioned as break up. I started to stand up for myself with making more demands to have her do her part. She was not happy with it and decided to leave. When she left, I begged her to stay because I was optimistic that we can work it out as my philosophy is “she can change and be better”. Worst was her mom is an extreme narcissist person too, disrespected and bullied me.
I did not realized she is a narcissist until she left me. The terrifying part was I questioned my own sanity if I was the narcissist. Took me weeks to reflect by going back to the messages and memories, wrote couple long reflection pages to check if I was the one causing the mess or her. Luckily, I wrote a diary for us since we started dating, toxic behavior patterns repeat itself as it already started since our honeymoon period!!!
Don’t let love blind you! Trust your gut feeling, if it’s true, leave before it’s too late!

My MIL HAS ALL THESE QUALITIES WHICH MAKES IT DIFFICULT TO SURVIVE WITH😅

She they give birth they go to mental hospital instead to giving disgusting life to kids babies and surrounding

That's not a parent that's a manipulative human. You don't need to respect or love them. Tribe is stronger than blood

WHERE ARE THE SIGNS OF NARCISSItic DAUGHTER? I’m 59, and Nearly everyone I know who has a kid in their 30’s, well we ALL HAVE AT LEAST ONE NARC adult kid. This is happening in that generation cause of their extreme spoiled ness, entitlement, and after having been told by us stupid parents that they’re “all winners”….they received TOO MUCH PRAISE & adoration.

The list fix in my mother personally to well

This is the MOST SICKEST podcast ever‼️ Doesn’t take long for you ‘to spill your beans’ & the outcome is sure to spread your evil content in influencing! Just shows how skewered you are for zero understanding do you possess, zero wisdom, zero experience, nothing learnt from the miniscule experiences that you bring to the table! Skewered & sick - a long flight do you need to experience to gain wisdom ❣️ I wish you well, just maybe maybe you will gain true wisdom❗️

Agree with most of points as per my own experience from childhood till now.

Very early on I learned from my narcissistic mother that it would be wiser for me not to have any children. I wouldn't bring a child into such a toxic and dangerous environment (my family) nor do I believe I am mother material. I'm 39, single, childless, and can't wait for menopause to come already.

My mother definitely was. Growing up with my mother was very difficult

My mother checks all ten of these. But it turns out that she was severely bipolar her entire life, only we didn't know it. So I have to wonder if there is some kind of link between bipolar disorder and narcissism.