Living Alone for 5 Years | Pros & Cons, Experience & Advice

Bumble BFF is honestly a great app for making friends. Most people are in the same place wanting a friend. So meet girls and grab coffee. Or watercolor in a park with someone

Is there a video where you talk about your ghost stories? 🤪

‘Except for the creepy guy in the basement’ yooo girl, you can’t just gloss over that one 😳😰🫣

😂 you be jailed if you defending your self how sad

I was forced into living alone by awful roommates. I like it better alone

Great advice ❤❤❤❤

Thank you for your vulnerability. This was really helpful. Living alone has gotten really hard recently. I feel more hopeful! sending lots and lots of hugs!

I feel seen. Thank you so much for this

im alone 4 years. i wanna die

Living alone…there is no one to hold me accountable with my bad habits.

I do know women are more vulnerable though yall need a weapon.

Living solitary rules. I'm not a fan of roommates. I alot of space and freedom.

coffee if u must know

My literal favorite 🥲 I’m 20. Going to be 21 in January when I move out on my own. This video was perfect 💕

I’m living alone for two years
Start feeling going crazy 😵‍💫

I am 27. And on some days i Wish i would me more Like you. Independent. I am really strongly attached to people i Love. And when i am alone, i think of all the people i Love and they might go throug especially those people who have chosen to leave me.

I've lived alone for one year exactly this month, the first year was spent partying and using the house in the wrong way but I've had it a year this month and finally I am showing up as my higher self and I'm seeing the apartment with fresh eyes and I just love it so much, even more so than ever. its my safe space and it's my little cosy haven. I can't wait for another year of living alone, cherishing it this time. x

I’m not sure if you’ve done an episode on this before but what about one about life transitions? I’m graduating college in 2 weeks and I’m mentally struggling so much to let go and be open to change and the unknown. I’m sure others would relate at this time of year. Been watching for 4 years now and tysm for this podcast! 💖

Epiphany...living alone can be really lonely. When is the last time I invited people over? 🤯

I'm 23 and I've been living alone since I was (late) 17 for college at first. The first year was so so fun because my classmates/friends lived in the same apartment complex so we learned to live alone together by often cooking / hanging together. Then a year later they moved away and I stayed. Still had some friends close by for the next two years but I didn't always have someone to eat with either. Then me and 6 of my friends moved to a smallllll town in Québec (from France) so it was just us 6 and the friends we made at school. But we all had our own places so we really didn't see each other out of school every day. Then the pandemic hit and they mostly went back and that's when I started to truly be alone. Though at least we could call, with the time difference it was harder to call whenever I felt alone. I had moved to a new city, still in Québec but knew no one and could meet no one since it was the pandemic and I was out of school. But then I moved to a shared apartment. Worst decision ever, I'm moving out by the end of april. At least since then I finally managed to make some friends in the same city and started going out more, which I wouldn't really do before because being alone is, I find, pretty comfortable to me. I can live close to other people but it seems sharing a space really doesn't work if the people don't live in quite the same way (I like my tranquility and my roommates LOVE to invite people out of the blue without telling me first. Also they are so so damn messy. I don't really mind my own mess but I try to keep it out of shared spaces which they don't.) So at a time where you are living your last moments alone I am yearning for the ones to come. I think my life setting is pretty good right now and I will not feel as lonely as in the middle of the pandemic. I realized when going back to live with other people that it stops me from being my true comfortable self... For example I have a habit to have an urge to clean EVERYTHING in the middle of the night, which is not something I can do out of respect for my roommates. I can't really talk about personal things on calls with my friends and family because my roommates could hear and we're not that close. I can't cook whenever wherever because of them as well. I truly don't hate them but living with other people makes me feel like my space is invaded at all times and I simply cannot breathe. I have a boyfriend now and though I love him I'm not even sure I want to move him with him before a long long time because I found out I really need the alone time. I'm super excited to move though. Sorry for the huge life story, you resonated with me 😂😂 Thanks for the video as always, I'm excited for you and what's to come in your life !

Drinking my 2nd coffee of the day and listening to this while I work. So relaxing and you always give the best advice/tell the best stories. I personally have never lived alone and the idea truly scares me a bit just safety-wise. However, I do look forward to experiencing it for myself one day and gaining that independence.

I’ve been living alone for a little over a year and I find this video to be incredibly relatable

i technically don’t live alone because i live with my 1 year old daughter but i can imagine it feels a whole lot like living alone sometimes. i went from living with my parents, to my aunt & uncles house, to my ex boyfriends house, to having a roommate in my apartment, to finally having the apartment to myself with just my daughter and i. definitely has its pros and cons but i’m really grateful for the experience.

I lived alone for 3 years in my earlier 20's and absolutely loved it for the reasons you mentioned, but there are still things I wish I'd thought of then. In the time since I've lived with roommates, gained a partner for the first time in my life, and am now working as an au pair so it's been a massive change from doing things my own way to sharing a space with others all the time. For the summer I'll be au pairing for a family with a separate studio so I feel like it will be a nice chance to have a place to myself and do the things I wish I had earlier on before I move in with my partner!

This is just what I needed to hear - I'm saving up for a house and hopefully moving out by the end of the year 🤞 8 months to go 🙌

I'm living at home with my parents and before that I was living with my ex and before that my last year of uni i was on my own. The thing I've learnt is that I can feel lonely in whichever setting which is so important to know.

The thing I've learnt this year is that people suck at keeping in touch and making effort and you have to do the leg work if you want to make friends. I'm still working on finding people who are BFFL material (and actually make a LITTLE effort back...) but I'm doing it! Yay! Personal growth! 💪

I'm also trying to get used to my alone time and like the most baby of steps is getting comfy being on my lonesome in a cafe and/or going shopping. It's stupid but i feel so out of place and like i shouldn't be there but I'm slowly but surely tuning out that voice...

This is perfect timing, I moved into my first own apartment this month🤍🤍

Can you do more on how you healed your core loneliness? It’s something so many people are struggling with! Would be much appreciated 💕💕

You are a wizard Kalyn!! Every time I think about something I need advice on you answer my thoughts. Thank you <3

As a fellow Pisces ♓️ I can really relate to your experience! I love my alone time a bit too much but at the same time it can get lonely. But having that close circle of your favorite people really helps. I know live close to family so that helps a lot. ♥️ I also get the fear that I’ll be alone forever but really liked the things you said about that so thank you 🙏

Damn you got a dog that aint alone😂. I live 3 years without social contacts

I'm 24 and I've been living alone for 1,5 years now, and it's just the best thing ever! I've always lived with other people, sometimes I wouldn't even have my own room and as an introvert, it was a relief to move out and start to live by myself. I was struggling a bit at the beginning with the safety part, I was anxious when I heard noises at night from outside, but it really helped me to get my dog. It is true that our little companions give us a feel of safeness by always alerting when something is going on. My dog is also Bentley-sized, so couldn't do harm to no-one, but at least lets me know about any danger :) I really enjoyed your video! Thank you!

Wait, creepy guy in the basement? You can’t just leave us hanging on that 🤣

I really wish I had a time in my 20s when I lived alone, I think I would know myself a little better. As is, I'm in my early thirties and I met my partner and had babies young. I'm grateful for my family but I wish I'd had that period in my life to explore myself and travel and pursue hobbies. I guess I'll get to do all of that stuff in ten year or so when all my kiddos are in their teens and don't need me so much 🤷‍♀️

Our house was haunted. I caught it on our camera and showed some family members. They said ghost. It never did anything bad though. And a medium said it is a guardian so that made me feel better.

My husband works overnights and I work days. The neighbors are all great and we all know each other. We do have a security system and our dog. I am also a baby because I sleep with all of the lights on.

Awe this video is coming in such perfect timing💛 My bf and I just moved from Ontario to Alberta this past Fall, but now he's back working in Ontario for the spring and I am totally alone here. But I love what you said about this time being what shapes you into becoming the person you need to be when life progresses. I'm actually super grateful for this time to tune in with myself and build my own habits! I am wondering tho, does anyone have any advice on making friends in a new city??

Once again, a fantastic video Kalyn! I'm about 10yrs older than you but I relate to your content as it relates to 'life skills' that most people have to learn at some point (whatever age!)

Funny to think about that I know how much groceries I need but when a frind of mine visits me for a week I'm panicing about the groceries :D Bc I just have no idea how much someone else eats hahaaa

A few months ago, I realized that I probably will never live alone. I grew up with my parents and siblings, later went to college with roommates and now I'm moving in with my boyfriend this summer. Crazy to think about. I think living alone would be very peaceful to me actually, but I'm also excited to live with my boyfriend 😊

Ok but KALYYYYYYN!!!!! WE ALSO NEED ONE ON HOW TO LIVE WITH SOMEONE ELSEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!

I am drinking a white chocolate and raspberry coffee, delicious. I'm almost 33, living in my first cottage and wish I had a boyfriend I loved and a baby like you! I am scared that will never happen now x

21 and just moving into my first solo apartment post break up. Very excited—but its definitely a big adjustment

I was most happy and spent the most time learning to be OK with being alone with my thoughts when I lived by myself. I loved every second of it.

I just wanted to say that I have been watching you for years now... when you lived in Kingston... Toronto and when you moved to your current home and its so amazing to see you grow like this! Wish you all the best

I’m 24 and living alone now for the first time! I always had roommates during and after college, but I’m loving living alone. I echo that sometimes I miss having someone to hangout with, but I have my dog which helps a lot. I also really enjoy all the quiet time for books and journaling and I feel as though I have developed a much stronger relationship with myself here. It feels easier to do self care living alone because there’s just much more free time to take that bubble bath or spend all day reading.

I lived alone for a year and it was an experience hahah. I learned I feel calmer when someone else is around. Note on protecting yourself: BEAR SPRAY IS ILLEGAL IN SOME CANADIAN CITIES AND YOU CAN BE CHARGED. Please check your local laws on using bear spray within municipality limits.

I'm 38 year's old I live with my parents my whole life well just my mom my dad passed away unexpectedly a year now I was his care taker when he was going through Dialysis and I'm also a care taker for my sister both at the same time was difficult , I also been with my boyfriend off and on almost 18 years we both live at home so far it works for us I enjoy my alone time

As a 23 year old who lives alone in a different city from the town she was born: I fully agree on everything

My favorite thing to do while drinking my fresh ground coffee blended with grass fed butter and virgin organic coconut oil is to sit in my summer reading garden alone in the peace and quiet of my backyard homestead. I'm single by choice after 21 years of marriage and a subsequent relationship with a disappointing man that thankfully ended. I feel safe thanks to my capabilities, security cameras, a Glock, and two sweet guard kitties. Oracle cards and my latest tarot reading point to finding a partner again but I'm enjoying the peace and quiet and am in no hurry to disrupt it.

Women were property 100 years ago. That means if a woman started her own business, her husband could appropriate ALL her earnings. In 1976, i was 13. Women were just starting to work outside the home while having kids. Families were just beginning to have 2 cars. That means if the dad took the car to work, the mom had to stay within walking distance of the house. Birth control was just starting to be safe and was starting to become popular. My mom workedan evening nurse (8 hour shift back then) and made her own money. In 1976, we went to a car lot for her to buy a car and the salesman would not sell her the car unless her husband, my dad was with her. Back then, a woman could not easily rent an apartment on her own, not allowed. So many examples like that.
It is so so inspiring to see the young women of today starting their own businesses. i have a friend from high school that started her own business and she lives alone. We were acknowledging that it is the first generation where women can live alone EVER.