10 Unspoken Rules of a Dysfunctional Family

Reclaim your identity? Reclaim your sense of self worth? What if the family was so dysfunctional that you never developed identity or self worth in the first place?

#1 Rule: Never show your true feelings. Feelings are not allowed.

I am not supposed to have feelings: made me feel like i would have been better off not born. Their #1 rule made a sick person out of me But I am getting better WITHOUT them. 😂😂😂🦋💕

There is definitely a level of conditions and unfair expectations. Vulnerability is often met with ridicule or shock. I have had to heavily curate my emotions and become defensive and sacrifice my personality. Rage is definitely considered an acceptable default for them but not for their children who they will treat as insane for anger even if it's not aimed at them. Cooperation is nonexistent especially if it doesn't fit the vision of my parents and that vision centers around their lives that they "deserve."

Me encanta cuando dicen vienes de una familia disfuncional. Tienes “daddy issues” 🤦🏻‍♀️ Te criaste con tu mamá y papá. Que bien! Tu papá falleció y tu mamá se volvió a casar. Pero los hijos? La hija perdió la virginidad con un hombre casado cristiano de la iglesia, después se embarazó de otro hombre casado que la abandonó, después tuvo una relación con otro hombre que estaba men una relación, después tuvo otra pareja y creó finalmente conoció a su esposo actual. El hermano (el padre de mis hijos) tiene su primera pareja (dice el que era para salir de la casa que no la amó) tuvo dos hijos, después una asiática después vine yo. Después nos dejamos y tuvo otra, después volvimos. Después nos separamos y dice él que la mujer se mudó pero la relación no tuvo título. 🤔 que simplemente comenzaron hablar de sexo y planificaron tener intimidad pero no era una relación establecida.

Ahora para alguien haber nacido y criado con mamá y papá. Algo no anda bien 🤔
Yo solamente tuve una sola pareja en todos los sentidos. Lo único que me arrepiento es no haber manejado bien una situación. Horrible. Y lo tomé muy a pecho porque no es quien soy. Pero nunca he tenido multiples parejas, menos casada, no he tenido intimidad solamente con un solo hombre. Y te quieren venir hablar de como loca es tu familia y de otros temas. 😒

Thank you finally 😂

Ten out of ten.
my mother was weak & let my father rule.
My father ,was legitimately; a psychopath.
My eldest sister became a professional/weak desperate mess ; who married a man EXACTLY like my father.
My other sister & I adore each other unconditionally.
My brother sexually abused me.
I see & talk to the sister I adore.
The others simply do not exist for me.
I am happy & fine.
I don’t drag tragedies along with me.
I both forgave & dismissed the bad people decades ago.
To quote a friend ;” one does not have to like someone in order to forgive them .”

Is this based on Psychology studies or cooked up writing / no mention of job loss, extramarital affairs, money problems, disciplining without love, love less marriage. Am i cooking up ?

Very thoughtful...❤

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Take care of each other and love one another no matter how different they are whenever you don't like change go where somewhere where that's accepted to you don't have to keep going to the same place if you're not welcome there and be honest with yourselves and stop hating others it's not healthy for you nor is it right take care God bless bye

Oh yeah and let me just say this real fast anybody that want to belong in a church that want to be accepted go somewhere where you can be don't be fooled by these fake judgmental two-faced it people that really don't give a crap about you or genuinely love you for who you are and what you stand for because all is going to do is strip you from wherever you used to know or whatever you think that you want to be different be that way somewhere else do not go to place where you're not wanted or were you not genuinely love because let me just say it's not cool to be pushed out somewhere where you're not wanted and everybody needs a place to be themselves no matter what their different is everybody need respect you're not the only person on the planet that feels what you feel everybody is human no one is perfect one of the other everybody needs to be the same different on the outside same on the inside everybody need to start getting along what's the purpose of even bother going anywhere if you're not going to practice what you preach do to others what you want them to do to you we are all the floss and make mistakes nobody is never perfect in this world only God is that made you he put you in this world and you can easily take you out if you give him a good reason to he does have the power to do it now do we have that type of power we had to go buy Forest doesn't get what we want do God has to do that no because he's a holy of holy and use your praise him as such that's all I had to say until next time goodbye

Leave childishness and be more childlike.

The only thing in life you could only control is your body honking and emotions.. everything else is harder to control..

Who made these rules?

Anyone else get ALL of these boxes marked on your Dysfunctional Family Bingo card?

I would appreciate it if you made more videos on this topic, for example how do you deal with the consequences of growing up in a dysfunctional family

This video described my family were I grew up. But I'm happy that I realized and understood that I needed help and now I'm changing things that i wasn't sware I'm repeting, but I now I can be a better mom to my kids.

I disagree with many points made in this video.

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

Number 7 😢😢😢

Enter mental illness and all bets are off

While it is good to attempt at repairing some relationships since the problem usually comes from a lack of communication, some people are just set in their ways or are too different and thus incompatible.

Definitely how I grew up

My parents are dead and I went no contact with my toxic siblings. Best decision ever!

Y'all rarely talk about positive characteristics of family and interpersonal relationships. I have to conclude this channel is about reinforcing despair, alienation and depression.

Gave up on my family by the age of twelve. My friends have always been my family. I'm nearly seventy now, fortunately most of my family have died or live very far away.

Every family is dysfunctional. It's just that some are more dysfunctional than others

I am the youngest child in my family....I'm the boss! 😆 I don't care they others are saying...., if my mother is doing things wrong, I say she is wrong, and we don't need to follow her work model; and she is mad when hearing this and keep repeating my words, that is sick! But, I ignore it.😎

Brainy dose has once again made a intriguing video. Like , it just makes me think about things on a deeper level.

10 out of 10. I'll be 55 next week. My brother is 56. We live with our perfectionist, demanding, tyrant mother who has narc traits cuz we're both not well. I have CPTSD, am not working, my brother has had 2 strokes, also not working. It's a total mess.

I have a brother that’s nuts, oldest sister is a chronic liar, younger sister does whatever older sister wants and the oldest wisest brother died years ago. I’m 11 years younger than the next sibling so I have lived with “baby brother syndrome” all these years so I walked away from those people a long time ago. No thanks, I’d rather it stay broken.

zero to sixty are the worst to deal or even work with

Now extend these ideas from the family to our society, and you will see that our entire society is dysfunctional.

Truefully said.👍

I'm done w them. I'll be around the people that actually love me.

if I do wrong would you tell? If you say yes you are bared,. But if you get caught doing wrong you will be ratted on. it a one way door in that family

Really good video

This reminds me of the Disney movie Encanto. Abuela Alma put pressure on her family to be perfect, especially on Isabela Madrigal.

but they are proud of it. they relish in it that baffles me

Yep, precisely accurate.