How To Not Look Frumpy & Older Than You Are-Get Out of That Rut!!

Hi! I'm only 41, but definitely struggling to avoid the middle age frump & figure out how to transition into mature, stylish, flattering clothing choices. As soon as I turned 40 I became very aware of how nice it is to look good without dressing like a 25 year old, lol! I appreciate the efforts to continue being stylish as we age. I feel like our society has just started slowly abandoning efforts to look halfway put together & is just looking sloppy. My grandmother worked hard to look as put together as she could even into her 70's and while I didn't appreciate it as a kid, I do now! I think it's important to our psychological health to keep caring for our outer appearance to some degree, weather we decide to follow trends or not. It just keeps us feeling good, which will improve our attitudes about everything else, too. So great job on keeping up with that!

But, I have to say that the comments on this video are so overwhelmingly nasty! People getting all butt hurt & talking like a bunch of cranky, jealous teenagers! What's up with that!? We're all middle aged, we should be beyond that crap! If you don't like her video then go watch something else! Don't listen to that stuff Marnie!

To everyone complaining & being salty:
1: Please don't be nasty. If you don't agree with the ideas presented, that's ok. These are just some ideas for possible outfit choices. We may dig all the ideas, we may not. There's no need to loudly and rudely complain and insult the creator. We're too old for middle school behavior.
2: Geez, I have never seen so many people so desperate to cling to their dern cardigans and capris! My goodness! I agree that capris are an outdated style, though they work well for some. That's ok! She's just making a suggestion! And there are trendy, flattering ways to wear summer/ warm weather styles without it being capris. I get it, I don't look great in shorts either but if you're sensitive about your capris maybe you're not happy with how you dress & it's time to try out some other styles. If not, just own your love for them. Let's be honest with ourselves and own our own insecurities & struggles & fashion taste.

3: Yes, life creeps in and changes things. I care for a now invalid mom, work 50 hrs a week, & fatigue, bad food choices, & heath issues have caused my 5'7 frame to go from a trim 140 lbs to a bulky, poochy in weird places 220. I am not totally happy with how I look. I sure as heck don't look as good as I used to & am fringing on frumpy. Losing a bit of weight would help me look and feel better for sure. I'm the first to admit I need to watch my weight. No shame in us admitting this. And using excuses only keeps us from improving ourselves. We won't ever look like a beautiful, thin 20 year old, and that's ok! We'll look like the mature classy ladies we are! But even with this weight gain & body change, I can work on my figure/ health (even if it's only a little) and still find stylish, flattering clothes and so can you. Not all these presented styles will work for you, and that's ok. Find something that does. There's no reason to be salty.

4: If you don't like where you are or how you look, work on changing things. Even small changes can make big differences. You are not stuck, I promise! When we constantly look for ways to improve what we don't like we will start to feel better and more confident and will be less bothered by the opinions of others.

Wellllll…… I’m 66. I still wear my ankle pants, woman my age DO NOT NEED TO WEAR SHORTS in the summer. Unless at the beach or lake, unless you have killer legs and were a dancer all your life! JMO

Yeah, you won the genetic lottery, and you need to consider that not everyone can wear what you wear.

I turned off when I heard "Valley Girl 'Hi My Name is Marnie '!!". Pplleeeease!!

Thank you for addressing capris. I absolutely abhor them on everyone. They are tacky, tacky and so unflattering.

My advice at 69, get your brows tatted❤️

I live in south Australia abd our summers are about 5 months long and very hot, often over 100 for a week or more, so long sleeves and long pants are out. I'm 69 and would roast in long pants over summer. In our summer it's wat helps us survive. I find 3/4 pants the best for me they cover most of my old legs but allow some cooling from calf down.

Your 6 months away from 50? NO WAY! I absolutely need your skin care routine, and your hair routine matter of fact your whole life routine because you are gorgeous! Would have never EVER thought you were almost 50!! 👏🎉🥰😊

I disagree... Love cardigans,...even a more fitted ones. the Ralph lauren... look. And I am 5.9... I slay flat shoes. I am so done with the chunky... or heeled shoes. Even a raised sneaker. NOTE: If your low back hurts. it means "you need to strengthen your glutes". Not wear wedges. OMG. If you are shorter I can see you wanting a boost, but saying flats are bad for your back is ludicrous. 🤣 Doctors are often just guessing, many do not exercise.

Try being a tall woman and finding long sleeves. THEYRE ALL 3/4 sleeves.

50?!? sister, your skincare routine is what we need! You look fantastic!

Would love to see a video where you deal with older women who try to dress wayyy too young as though they're still in their 20s. If you ask me, that ages one more than so-called frumpiness.

Ok I'm going to say it, capris are actually super flattering on me. Not sure why but I think it has to do with being a bit ingenue or Gamine, or maybe it's because I'm pretty sure I'm "air" in the Alchemy style system 🤷🏽‍♀️

First time to your channel, Marnie, and I love your suggestions and agree with all.
Your skin and makeup is gorgeous and that red looks amazing on you!

Then why did you keep watching. Turn off the channel before you feel compelled to make a ride remark.

How rude you are.

So why didn't you just stop watching?

Id say having a straight and tall stance helps . It all about how you present yourself

Agree with EVERYTHING here. I'm a 62 yo grandma, but I love clothes and prefer not to look frumpy. It takes the same amount of time in the morning to put on frumpy clothes or to put on stylish, well-fitted clothes that make us feel wonderful.

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I’m 36 yrs old and thin, 5 ft and 95 lbs. I love 3/4 blouse shirts especially if they’re white and jean blue color. They make me look classy when I wear them with shorts and sandals or skinny jeans with short heels and pairing them with gold necklace and bracelet. I also love my cardigan shirts that stop at the waist. I work at school and wear dresses throughout the year. I’m always cold and tight cardigans with my dress make me look put together. I wear the same thing in the winter but I wear them with black tights or leggings with ankle boots. I don’t follow the newest trend but have discovered what really suits my body type and I buy solid colors so they never go out of style. And I’m more drawn to them.

If someone has to continue stating "we're just having fun", then it's time to re-think the approach.

People have to take into account their body shapes to know what looks good and current. I know what silhouette looks best on me, regardless of the current styles… just wish I could find it more often!

Knowing my seasonal palette makes shopping so much easier. As much as I like that black whatever, it’s going to make me look dead. Always. So I don’t even bother looking at it. I know what to not even bother taking into the fitting room. Once somebody really sees what colors do or don’t do for them, they can’t unsee it. Really pretty people might not care, because even when they don’t look their best, they still look pretty good. The rest of us can really profit from know a season. And reputable analyst will always say, wear what you love.

Get dressed and not look ridiculous. Finally a fashion goal I can get behind.

You are so nice! I found you completely accidentally while looking at quite different videos, but you captured me from the first minute.
My eldest daughter is your age, but I have managed to stay, quote from others, stylish and trendsetting by doing exactly as you say. I don't bother much with what is "in", but I wear the things I feel good in. I am lucky and can still wear high heels, don't do it always, but I seldom wear flats. I love clothes, love jeans in different styles. I was followed by a teen and her Mom last year at the airport, who wanted to tell me that she , the teen, loved my outfit, big denim pants, t-shirt and jacket, Airfield, a design I love.
I just want to express with this statement, go for your gut feeling, never vulgar and always as good a fit as you can afford.
Don't let age or convention stop you from having a sense of style. Be as young as you feel with style.
Keep up these charming and authentic videos. I wish you luck businesswise and stylishwise.
You are also very pretty, Marnie👼

All body shapes and sizes really need to be taken into account. That looser cardigan makes me look frumpy, while a more fitted is better for my frame. I do like 3/4 sleeves, I don't like short sleeves or long sleeves, I push they up anyway. The key is to buy more tailored and well made clothes. As we get older we just start doing the t shirt and jeans or shorts thing. I kinda hate the faux or real leather pants unless someone is super skinny, same with sleeveless shirts. Capri's do look bad. Check out Erica Taylor for correcting makeup mistakes from the nineties. Was shocked at how pulling the blush towards the mouth makes you look older and putting it in the hollows of the cheek.

I always hated capri. No no no men and women look like clowns. And jesus sandals I hate also. Those sandals that the british wear 🤮

Nah, I'm okay with looking frumpy and older.

Me just booking an expensive color session. Whoops!!

I love wearing crisp 3/4 length sleeve blouses.

For me, rolled sleeves are difficult to keep looking neat.

All good suggestions!

Buahahahahaha

First time viewer here. I love your take on the 80s fad about knowing your seasons. I felt very left out because I did not know mine, but I didn't care enough to do anything about it. Lol Still don't care. I'm with you, if I look in the mirror and I like what I see, then I'm good 😂

There’s a big difference between being “on-trend” and being frumpy. For example, as a gal with curves, I look like a brick back house if I wear bulkier knit cardigans. My style is therefore thinner knits in general, so as to take the best advantage of my shape.

Frumpy is about wearing things that do not fit or do not suit your figure. Trends come and go but if you know your personal style, just work it. Rock it.

The frumpy part is your body. If everyone, including the video maker, worked out to look fit, you could wear ANYTHING.

Anyone that tells me to avoid anything that Audrey Hepburn wore knows exactly zero about fashion.

As a 49 year old I am able to just be me. I will never wear something just because it's on trend. That means you just want to fit in. Aren't you over that already at this age. Don't wear something you don't like, like shackets.

Yes. Chicos take all the older ladies .. you know the ones who spend money there ,3/4 sleeve shirts away . brilliant

She keeps saying wrong things. You can't wear a heel all the time becausse you shorten the muscles in the back of your calf. And flats are okay if they are board lasted, which means they only flex at the ball of the foot. Shes wearing me OUT!!!

The capris need to nip in at the knee and be a little longer and then slightly flare, perhaps with a cuff, as the leg widens.

She kind of manufactures "old things that look old" by picking bad examples. These dern side tuck looks are the same as an unbuttoned cardigan.

31 and doing so many things wrong 🫣😭

Skinny cropped pants, floral print tops, 3/4 sleeve cardigans, and dainty little flats are my uniform.

I hate those loafer shoes, they look like grandpa shoes. It gives an awful look, and not everyone has pretty clean feet. No, distasteful.

I agree 100 because I’ve always thought this about all the items on this list & I’d like to add khaki pants, esp. capri khakis - just don’t.

I thought you are at early 40s

Cardigans are the best! In particular the fitted!!!
Loose and baggy are so bad!

68 years old and absolutely hate shopping. My choices are cheap Walmart/Target vs high end not willing to pay the ridiculous prices. And so I stick mostly with what Ive worn for years.

Nobody looks good in cropped (capri) length pants. Nobody.
There's nothing flattering about that length.