Owning Alone: conquering your fear of being solo: Teresa Rodriguez at TEDxWilmington

Typical Man! Quite like Alan Hoffman!!

Happy singles day 11/11. Marriage is a defunct institution. Stay single stay happy.

5 years ago, I was planning my retirement. I had good money in the bank account. I always dreamed of having an in-ground pool. So wife and I move from a detached suburban cottage to a condo near the city but near a river. It has a nice outdoor pool where we can socialize with other ci-owners. There are multiple bicycle trails and trails in the woods. We meet people when we walk on the trails. It is a very fulfilling life. I often say to my wife how I appreciate the life we have. When I am alone, I will go read the paper at a nearby café of ride my bicycle on one of the many trails. I know the best life is here at the present moment. Last night, we were playing with our 1 year old Maltese dog on the bed and I said to my wife to appreciate the present moment, it doesn’t get better than that.

Fear, shame, embarrassment leave behind.
Pick up patience. Be beautiful, generous (be respectful/compliment/kind words) and soulful.

This woman is on to something. I need to come back to this

What I don't like is not having anyone to talk to 😢. I love to talk, maybe a little too much

Not going to lie, I mastered this at an early age due to being an only child. However I have a friend who could really hear this right now. Great advice, spoken with true wisdom. Thank you!

Thanks, should have watched this earlier.

Im fresh from a break up and planning my first international solo travel to the other side of the world... trying to conquer the fear!

How do we leave fear and shame at home or behind ?

I feel like this now with my woman of 7 years walking out on me after being there for her in hospitals and taking care of her more than any friend or family member she had in her life. I feel so worthless and that there is no hope for a healthy relationship with complete commitment. It’s sad that we have to become so used to being alone because we cannot count on others to be there for us. Whether it’s their choice to leave or illness that takes them away from us.

Be faithful to myself.. she’s darn true.

Such good words and Ms Rodriguez makes alot of good scents. Here is a flower for a fabulous lady like you. ⚘

I needed this. Thank you

It's so inspiring to see Teresa point of her life.
I was married for 25 years & I have 3 boys in there mid 20.
My life changed when my mum passed away 2015 I spent 5 months looking after mum In Cyprus,when I came back to the UK things were different with my wife towards me, I promised to my mum to make it with my brother & that broke down very slowly, in the end for my safety as she became dangerous towards me I moved away & bought a house on my own. It's never easy to do but I plan to make life for myself and be happy.
Now it's been 3 years & it's been tough but, it was worth it with a new home and a new job comes with new friends and nabours and new you. Now I'm safe but I'm leaning to be alone happy 👍

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Thank you

Truth is the world is a very sad place.

Loved her totally

Thank you you.

I hope she still alive to see all these women being killed by these male companions....

Who could leave this gorgeous, intelligent lady?

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I would do anything to take myself out on a vacay 😍 me, myself and mwaaa

Enjoyed this presentation, love her top, wise words and choices to apply to our lives, we have empowerment, we have courage, now go on that date with yourself, pamper yourself and have fun

i've been spending time by myself. go out to eat, travel, book stores. im tired of it. id rather spend my time with someone. what am i doing wrong...

Fantastic speaker!!! Tks!!!

What about: the following:

Seek/find: hobbies.
Use: - "Social_Media" (for: communications/communicating -etc.).

Support all the less_fortunate; you can: - e.g.: Those in orphanages; the home_LESS And so on and so 4th!!!!

I needed this. Thank you a lot. 😭

The loneliest times I’ve spent in my life have been while in a bad relationship or in my broken family dynamic, not while I was actually living alone.

Try losing your spouse to cancer

I disagree with this video. I mean you could travel the entire world and you'd find the same thing you could find at home which is nothing. You still have to come back home and sit there by yourself and realize that you're all alone. I think a better idea is to realize that some things weren't meant to be and not everyone lives this life getting everything they want. No one who lived or going to live ever got what they wanted in their life. Perhaps yours is more fundamental than most others but still your singleness problem is not unique nor the biggest problem that anyone ever had.

I have no problem with it just being my dog and I. She’s my best friend. I talk to her and let her know how much I love her….she’s well loved. I will always have a dog that’s my one and only friend/best friend. I guess I’m considered an introvert/extrovert. I have no problem talking to people…I just don’t want to make any friends. I love my time with just my dog and I. I’m very independent. The downside of not having friends is that if I ended up in the hospital or something where I wasn’t able to take care of my dog I don’t know who would. It couldn’t be just anyone so that is my fear. I love being single and alone. I can do whatever I want anytime whenever however….

I talk to myself and my dog all the time. When I’m at work and I’m thinking out loud, I really have to watch what I say

Echkart tolle to Wayne dyer and Louise Hayes, have been an ardent student of all 3. Yet, your talk seemed to so beautifully bring all the learning’s together! Loved it!

This is a great video😍

Humans have a natural instinct to group/need group approval. It's how we learned to survive in the past. But the "Modern World" doesn't support this instinctual need.

What was the name of the book and author about heal your life?

I understand her analogy about the airplanes, but I am really stuck. No car to go somewhere, if there was
any place for me but home. Fixed income, though I always have some jingle. I have a difficult time picturing
my escape from this self-imposed loneliness. What I need more than anything else is a woman who will be
understanding of how I became so damaged that, I really talk to myself two-way. She would leave. I'm okay...

We really need more videos like this, not ones that scare you with severe health warnings about being alone but how to live a great, fun life alone.

I have found that if I am working out, things like fear of being alone, are greatly diminished. Solution: a long walk or jog.

Definitely needed this

I am alone but not lonely. I love traveling solo. I love my small cabin and my time in the quiet.

Dating is kind of a lost cause for most of us these days. I just gave up. Life is too short.

I learned a trick a long time ago. Dress nice & pretend to be rich & you will have more friends than you know what to do with. I used to tell women I was a successful doctor, the results were amazing! I've found people that want to be around you because of your money will work harder at relationships than most "real" friends. It's sad realization of what life is "really" like. But I see it now as the simply "The game of life & how to play it". Put yourself in the driver seat, & call the shots. Never feel bad about doing what you have to in order to get what you want in life ......

I can wear pain like diamonds around my neck

I'm willing to take on this journey to be single and take care of myself. It's a journey no human being can run away from

I like talking to myself alone sometimes

Am currently dealing with being alone from friends and family. It has been caused by friends who don't value me everytime, talking behind my back, with every girl i get they say i don't deserve her cause am a bit introverted. It has driven me into depression and am tired of the bad energy. I am an African living in Uganda and it's been hard to find new friends so am isolated these days and i don't like it. I think my life is not gonna change given my surroundings and few opportunities in my country. I really don't know how am going to deal with it.

Being alone is not so much a problem as long as one has friends and family or even coworkers to give support. But it is tough without a support network; think of tom hanks’ character in castaway. It’s not that one can’t survive, it’s more that having people in your life can enrich your life.