The Psychology of Dominance & Submission

Just a reminder that the name of the channel will be changed to Alexander Grace very soon. I will be changing the format of the videos but I won’t be returning to interview women on the street. When I do interview women, it will be in long form discussion format. I will also experiment with talking straight to the camera. Lots of changes.

I understand some people want a return to the old interviews but it won’t happen because it got boring for me. I want to go into depth and make content that is intellectually challenging. There is nothing stopping you from grabbing a camera and heading out to the street yourselves, go for it. I’ll even link people to your channel.

I do ask that you now come to terms with the fact that the channel has changed. While I understand you might be disappointed, I now ask that you quietly exit and watch different channels rather than complain about how this one has changed. From now, if all you do is post negative comments complaining, I will consider it trolling and remove the comments because I want the comment section to be a place for genuine discussion.

Thanks so much for all the support from people who like the new content, it’s been great to get personal emails from people who like my work. I’ve got some changes coming that Im very excited about and I’m sure you will enjoy too.

If you prefer vanilla s@x, you're a courageous man. Dude tells his psychologist friends he only does missionary, "Are you some kind of wild animal?"

"Safety is a key part of arousal."
Me: "It would be difficult to maintain an erection while being chased by a lion."
...also one thing you didn't mention, by blindfolding a woman, you take away one of her senses, this adding a sense of mystery, and at the same time turning up her other senses... meaning that she is more likely to enjoy whatever else I am doing with and to her.

I love that my husband is dominate. Not in a mean way, or demeaning. Strong and passionate.

What I noticed with my experience of women is … most women want to get Graped by the man they like .. they want man to have total control and they just want to be passenger

I get tired of womyn just from thinking about them.

To interest them, you have to be just the right amount of aggressive. Be just enough of a prclik and keep them guessing to have them interested in you. Be too nice and they get bored and leave. Do all this at the right time.

The time and the mental energy that goes into this. And what does it amount to?

I love this video I always come back to it

What if you feel safe no matter what?

Would you say that submissiveness in men when it comes to sex, or the opposite, I indicates a healthier lifestyle/mental health?

I like the question and answer, interview type of format.

That all makes a ton of sense

That all makes a ton of sense

Thank you, this helps me.

Every women I was with,at some pointed wanted to have rough sex. Some more,some less but all off them wanted to be dominated.

I'm a male in my mid thirties and none of these BDSM turn me on too much. I enjoy just a regular sex - is that normal?

When it comes to sexual preference. the topic is usually subjective. usually the fetish/desire is more relevant to the individual. the feeling of what is safe was to be used for those that seek shelter from the unknown that may cause ridicule illwill or in some incidences harm. which can be understandably overwhelming. this more in lines to leaves unexplored territories to be left in question to the individual. so they are not to be left out. now i cannot speak on the grounds of what fetishes people hold however, my personal interests is the giantess fetish. so i guess mine the role reversal when it comes to who is in charge but, this can fall under the fantasy side of things. that reality just cannot uphold. still one could dream.

All seems very reasonable.

Funny thing is that most people who try to shame that stuff are either the nice guys that can't cope with the thought of women enjoying and encouraging it, or the masculine chicks that completely lost their ability to submit. Then there's also women who switch depending on if the man they're with is more masculine or more feminine than they are. Only thing that's really sus are male switches, they're usually always pretty feminine and only pretend to be dominant occasionally because their woman likes it.
Personally I see it as a great sign of passion and trust that my woman is really into me, if she only gives me vanilla dead fish missionary every other week I know something it going sideways lol.

Wow. You have totally sold me the idea of bdsm. Good job!

The subject is already weird and having him talking to himself....erm

My partners always afraid to make me hurt.. But I really want to get hurt!! They can't do that😭😭very gentle on bed. But out of bed they are so mean and abusive😒😒😒

Mix tenderness with dominance, and I will be yours until the end of time.

Someone said securing dominance too me when I was playing a game I don’t feel ok..

Norwood reaper habe arrived since 3 years ago for alex

I am not sure that you have it 100% correct, but good try.

What do you think about famdom, facesitting, i never did it?
Recently a woman who looks good told me she wanted to do them with me

To have power in the relationship combine fear and fun. Without fear you can’t have complete power over a girl who’s higher up -~

actually i've been thinking of introducing to my husband this kind of fantasy of mine. im afraid he will criticized me, since i was recieving negative response whenever i was joking about it. This is the very reason why i was denying him of intimacy for almost 3 years now. I dont care if he is getting it outside of our marriage now. We are married for 30 years now, and has been my fantasy eversince to have bdsm even before there was a 50 shades movie. i dont where it came from but i have that kind side of my sexuality.

this was wonderful and educational thank you !

Sources for your claims?

the best video ever, keep it up buddy

Answering a question in the final of the video.
Yes, I think that my taste for BDSM can be related with fear..

Thanks for this video . really it answered a lot of questions that I had .

This is interesting. Also, what's the lower forms of sexual primalistic nature and whats a higher form of sexual empathetic nature? Can you combine the 2, or will it make a man feel inferior?

This is a good video. I like that you interviewed yourself! 🙃

Do you have video about why women accept and enjoy being submissive

One of the reasons blindfolds are fun is how they allow the blindfolded person to be more in-the-moment rather than anticipating based on what they are seeing. Take away sight and the other senses become more poignant

I enjoy both being blindfolded and experiencing a partner's enjoyment of being blindfolded. I suspect a lot of BDSM and other sexual things work this way: people have reasons to enjoy doing them to someone, to enjoy having it done to them, and to enjoy the other person's enjoyment

I watched this randomly and i just don't agree. fear is not a thing why some men like to dominate at all.. They just like the feeling of feeling dominant. Simple.. Not out of fear. And they can be switches also.. It's like a dance.. If some men use bdsm out of fear that's weak men. That is my view on this. A mask can be sexy.. tying up can be sexy and so on.. No fears needs to be the cause of people liking that at all. That's my point. It can just be fun and sexy you know. ;) Talk about over analyzing in this video, but its mostly your opinion so yeah, everyone has them. It's mostly a nice feeling of dominance and no fear. So yeah i don't get that part.

Had a BDSM experience as a Master/Dom with a submissive chick and it was one of the most liberating, powerful and enthralling experiences of my life. Every Dom needs his Sub.

Great interview💪 makes a lot of sense

My brain hurts. I wonder if I’m a psychopath or not human. I still cannot understand any of this.

I'm a dude and i like to be dominated (i think)

God damn this was helpful I feel a little bit better about myself after watching this thank you so much

I feel empowered in my life but I still enjoy being a Dom

When I was younger I useto want to be a slave. (Actually, since I was younger than 7.) I had a crush on a boy, and whenever I useto see him, I would say "what shall I do for you master?"
I had no idea why, and had no idea what I wanted out of it. This video kindof explains... kindof.

You two are silly, but your information is grest!

I honestly and completely disagree that violence and sex are connected. It is also true that soldiers found themselves becoming physically aroused during intense physical struggle for their lives and felt EXTREME hidden guilt and PTSD... this also does not make sexuality and killing linked/associated merely because chemicals (I’m a veteran).

As I understand it, the association of these two are actually the profile used to characterize rapists and this is why movies depicting violence and sex together are ban from movies in Australia, as I understand it. I would highly caution this train of thought and encourage a thorough investigation with professionals before offering advice to men on the topic.

Well I can't really say how q man thinks. But as a Submissive woman from the BDSM life, and coming from the Submissive point of view communication and consent is the most important things and with put it no trust can't be built and nothing can start.
For example let's take CNC it stands for Consent Non-Consent.
That means you are consenting to Non-conventional acts. But there is limits, Communication, your hard limits, your soft limits and most importantly your safe word.
For example Forced sex RP: the female Submissive I'll use me for example I will tell my dom. You can pull my hair, slap my boobs, my butt, and face not so hard, if you press me up against the wall don't grab my throat. You can degrade me and use Humiliation. No bodily fluids other then cum. As you can see there is guidelines bit also as a dom they to can have things they won't do like degrading or slapping you around. But that is why there is communication. And as long as everything stops when a Submissive calls red. And the Submissive knows mistakes and sometimes miss communication does happen. That trust and that bond will grow stronger then any vanilla relationship could ever hope to achieve. Is anyone wants to ask me questions I will answer to the best of my ability.