Brené Brown on Boundaries, Feelings & Core Emotions | Ten Percent Happier Podcast with Dan Harris

This Texan sheep Karen is wrong about pretty much everything. Look at her stupid celebrity followers.

Financial books have been so helpful. I’m 50 and my husband 54 we are both retired with over $3 million in net worth and no debts. Currently living smart and frugal with our money. No longer putting blames on FED for our misfortunes. Saving and investing lifestyle in the stock market made it possible for us this early, even till now we earn weekly.

My friendly word for envy is green - I’m green !! 😂❤

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I struggle with the exact same resentment feelings that you expressed wow I am not text savvy. I have no clue how to use this stuff but wow.

Oh my God, you hit the nail on the head for me and something here with the resentfulness it is so in my body everywhere I think

"The limits of my vocabulary are the limits of my world". No words to add to that...

Excellent and helpful as always! Thank you Dr. Brene Brown! ❤

Love Brene Brown! Thanks for this great episode!

Love Her…thank you for sharing this ….One really needs to read Her Book…it’s A Gift, A Grateful ❤

They played this a lot on black radio in DC. Good stuff

I call "emotional imbicility" emotional contipation. I've known many people who are emotionally constipated.

Lost me on the Trump thing. Now do Biden. Only an idiot feels a connection to a political figure. They have a job to do. They're not our friends.

Delightfully profane lol. Brene changed my life- not an over exaggeration.

Talking about emotions is usually so abstract, but Brown always finds a way to crack open the exterior language to explore meanings through concrete images. Great stuff.

After trying to connect with the person by asking them what they need, what do you say if you cannot or do not want to give them what they need while still remaining compassionate and connected?

"It's okay to ask for what you need; it's not okay to lie or manipulate to get it."

What really hits for me is not walking in someone else's shoes but to BELIEVE them when they tell you how it feels to THEM to be walking in their own shoes. And as Brene says, this pushes a lot of buttons. People who tell you you weren't abused or gaslit or bullied because it's not how THEY perceive it. People who tell you you're not working as hard as you can or that you don't feel the pain at the level that you feel it. Human beings LOVE to tell other human beings why they do or do not experience something and why someone outside of your own head can tell you what you feel or think or perceive or sense better than you can for yourself.

Omg, you just gave me clarity of my relationship with my sister. Helpful. ❤

Thank you 🙏🙏😊

When such language vocabulary is critical for one's emotional intelligence, how do you explain the way of people who are right brain oriented?

"The limits of my language mean the limits of my world. Do we have a vocabulary that is expansive as our world?"
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Interesting as always. Have yet to read Atlas of the Heart, but its on my list!

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But what does “granularity” mean?

The near enemy concept is genius. “The near enemy of connection is control…” That’s sinking in pretty deep right now.

Such an incredible conversation with many nuggets of pure gold for my journey of self awareness.

But dementia Joe is ok?

I appreciate Dr Brene Brown, I read her book The Gifts of Imperfection and I like it. However, I must disagree with most of what is presented here. We don´t need to label emotion to process it. The underlying reason why anyone wants to label all emotion and put them to boxes is FEAR, or even TERROR of emotion. Emotions are experienced bodyly. A baby experiences emotion, cries when it is sad (usually because it feels unhealed emotions of its environment), and doesn´t know it is called sadness. It doesn´t need to know. The problem happens when its parents or someone in the environment anxiously makes it stop crying. And so the baby supresses its emotions and the sadness later manifests as a sickness of some kind, or as a depression. The baby is tought to DREAD emotion. And, THIS is what happened to all of us. Even when noone actively supressed us, we felt it. Because all children are naturally like sensitive sponges, very empathic. So we felt that it is not acceptable to be overwhelmed by emotion, and we would go crazy if we did. THAT is the error that harmed us. Because the truth is that a human being CAN experience all emotions, even terror or overwhelm. And when we do, we release all the negative ones. And positive ones grow. We will feel positive ones more intensely as a result of not supressing emotions. ... Language is also actually limiting and there are not words yet for all the flavors of emotions. I am not saying that there are not occasions when labeling emotions doesn´t help. To some people it helps, and it assists us to communicate to others. Especially it is needed when we feel desperate for example and reach out for help. It is ok to communicate our emotions with others and label them, but it is also not so necessary. For processing we don´t have to. In some occassions it helps, but in some it doesn´t and can also prevent us from feeling our feelings fully. What helps me, is an emotional relationship with God, the Creator of my soul, who knows me and all my feelings... When it comes to communication, with people, I think more words should be created to label the flavors of emotions. However, when are more emotionally open and we don´t supress our emotions, we are naturally more empathetic towards others and FEEL what they feel, without needing them to tell us. I know that, as I am a natural empath, and ever since I can remember I felt emotions of the people I met internally. (For example, my mood changed when a teacher came to the classroom and she was not having a good day. I just felt it. I am not saying it is healthy to be affected by other peoples emotions so much. I own my personal feelings now which heals me and makes me not so affected by others.) Many children born these days are very empathic, that is what God intends because it is needed. More sensitivity and deeper understanding. The ability of Empathy is something everyone can develop, by opening to Feeling. That is how we heal the world.

Wow Brene is blessed because she speaks what a lot of people’s suffering going through. They have no idea therefore you can not judge what someone has gone through.

WORK REQUIRED FOR CHILDHOOD TRAUMAS FROM AN INFJ-T INDIGO MALE
#1. Emotional Literacy
#2. Emotional Identification (116)
#3. Emotional Regulation
#4. Emotional Dysregulation
#5. Emotional Management
#6. Critical Thinking Skills
#7. Assertive Communication Skills
#8. Mind Trap Awareness
#9. Cognitive Dissonance
#10. Leadership Skills
#11. Social Skills
#12. Memorize Virtues
#13. Know what Vise are
#14. Understand Sin
#15. Learn Dark Triad Tactics
#16. Start Reparenting
#17. Find a solid male role model
#18. Restore Character Values
#19. Understand Double Speak
#20. Psycho Cybernetics
#21. Douglas McDougall
#22. Healing hands ability
#23. Joe Dispanza
#24. Self accountability
#25. Self Responsibility
#26. Self Forgiveness
#27. Character Values
#28. Standards
#29. Principles
#30. Morals

I like 90% of what she says, but I do not agree with Dr. Brown's viewpoint on everything. Her feelings and opinions about Donald Trump, while not overtly stated, are present like an undertow.

I like what Jordan Peterson says: "And if you think tough men are dangerous, wait until you see what weak men are capable of."

I don't want a President that I can "connect" to. In fact, I do not connect to weak men at all. I want a President who will keep my country strong and defend my Constitutional Rights. I want a strong foreign negotiator.

"A harmless man is not a good man. A good man is a very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control."

New gems from this conversation I learned: near enemy concept; compassion versus near enemy = control, being the learner and not bearer of knowledge; and emotional granularity with resentment being a function of envy. More please! Thank you for this conversation!

The number of adds is intolerable.

she deeply respects the human experience with all colors, tones, hues, values, shading and light

Could it be that people are only in touch with three of their emotions because of all the pharmaceutical drugs they take that numb? Real question here

Sorry , too many commercials