We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it | Nora McInerny | TED

I have lost my son and expect to lose 3 siblings also. These are the loves of my life. I feel I have been eviscerated. I live in two worlds, the one where I know that my son has died, of course I know, but I also live in another world where I can't allow this to be true. I talk to him, I argue with him, I shout at him, but I will never let him go, not any of them.

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This talk brought me to tears. I have always feared the day someone I loved would die even if it is inevitable... thankfully, I still haven't had that experience, but I have had to grieve traumatic life experiences. It is absolutely complex and such a difficult thing to experience alone. Most grateful to those in my life that have held me in my grief instead of trying to cover the wounds.

GOD BLESS YOU FOR SPEAKING ABOUT THIS. GRIEF IS SO HARD AND HELPING/LOVING SOMEONE WHO IS GRIEVING IS HARDER TO ME SOMETIMES. WHAT TO SAY IS HARD. PART OF ME IS LEARNING/REMEMBERING THE DISMISSIVE REMARKS SAID TO ME- COULD BE THESE PEOPLE ALSO WERE AT A LOSS OF HOW TO RESPOND TO DEATH. I PRAY YOU CAN FIND JOY IN YOUR NEW SEASON/CHAPTER OF YOUR LIFE. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR'S.

Meaningful perspective. My wife died one year ago. Yes, "moving forward with" describes who I am today. Thank you.

Thank you so much for explaining to me that the feelings I’m currently having right now are okay. I recently lost my hubby and I’m so sad, mad, salty, lonely and everything else all at once. It’s sucks so thank you for making this Ted talk. I really needed this today.

She nailed it about moving forward as opposed to moving on. The grief will always be a part of us. Most people don't understand about grief unless they have personally experienced it. So, thank goodness for people like her who are getting the word out.

Grief is the difficult part of life to deal with and move on. You did a great job.

This was so eyes opening for me. Being a window for 7 yrs after 36 years of marriage to the True Love of my Life and My First Love! Such truth, you don't move on, you move with it, and you keep learning!! This will help me going forward as I reach out to others. Thank you Nora!❤

Grief is not something you give poetic license to. I've had to do a lot of work on myself. Let me say this clearly. The sooner I accepted that grief is an absolute nightmare sooner. I was more truthful with myself and the more I was able to cope with that nightmare. Nothing gets me past it, but if it makes sense I'm able to cope with it in a way that's more emotionally healthy. Quit lying to yourself and accept that.

A Video game, of all places, once taught me, "To grieve deeply, is to have loved full."

Thank you for this beautiful message! Omg.... finally someone gets it! She said EVERYTHING I was feeling and thinking since my husband Gerald passed away last year in August of 2022. I really needed to bear this because we share the same birthday on October 6th. Thank you Nora😢❤

Powerful

We move forward with their love!

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This journey is like no other! 😭💜 but if you're going through some level of grief right now we're going to make it through this! Just hold on! 💜

I lost my person 4 days ago; in the midst of my utter grief, my dear friend who lost her teen daughter this summer, told me about this. I'm so glad I found it. Thank you.

I’ve watched this with tears in my eyes..

This was beautiful. Painful to listen to, but beautiful. My father passed suddenly less than two weeks ago, and my brother and I still speak about him in present tense. Just yesterday I realized that I refuse to use past tense. It's comforting to find validation in this, that I am not denying his death. I am aknowledging his presence still. Thank you❤

PS: the way you speak reminds me Taylor Swift when she was performing at the Grammy's (it was a great performance!)