The secret to desire in a long-term relationship | Esther Perel | TED

I've been with my lover for 37 years married for 35 - that very last statement this genius makes -so true . I'm glad we had figured out things , even before the internet was born , but this woman's insights , and her delivery are masterful.

"The secret"? Dont marry western woman.

This is peerless content. A book with similar material I read was also second to none. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

Oh my she is so correct!

Physical attraction is important. But if you find a partner whose personality turn you on - that's the secret sause. People lose their looks. They don't lose their personality...

This talk was nuts good. I watch videos for art politics social trends philosophy and geopolitics, nothing in a while has made me feel so inspired and connected to myself… I also think I need therapy

I think I've moved past you. I can do what you said, the key is that women are looking at wealth and money, no money there is no way. What else to discuss? The world is so hypocritical... Don't think I don't know.

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Una bona màquina però molt cara pel meu ús diari. No em compensa.

Her face is so weathered she looks 100. I wouldnt listen to a word she says. Shes creepy.

Distance makes the heart grow fonder ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂

Esther Perel is simply awesome. Just love her talks. So much clarity and insight in what she says. I’m always nodding in agreement.

The secret : Don’t have secrets.

Trainwreck.

Brilliant. Incisive. Relevant. Thank you. 😊

Brilliant.

Be careful, you may get pregnant after watching this (guilty)

Пожалуйста воспользуйся этими советами, пизда, а то такое ощущение, как будто это ты со мной в браке. Съебалась отсюда

simple !...........stay sexy............. stay interested............try not to get pushed out into the spare room permanently..............& shower & bathe regularly !.............try & brush your teeth at least once or twice a week............oh & cut back on the big fat cigars in the living room !..............& don't whatever you do leave used needles in the bathroom.............& wipe down the toilet seat & put the lid back down after you have been for the lady x................it's also helpful to try & call her by her first name & not get her mixed up with her sister........it's gonna take a lot more than that but these tips might give you a head start .............

Married 42 years. In every video of hers I have watched, she's been brilliant.

When you watched this 10 years ago and now and it still is powerful.

she’s very well spoken. I could listen to her talk all day

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勉強になりました。

The extraordinary ability and depth of analysis of this speaker made me reflect and understand, enlightening me, things that had escaped me; despite age and experience.
A heartfelt thank you❤

This is what I got from this video. An open marriage sounds like the best marriage.

1. what is eroticism and erotic desire? what fuels it?
a. romanticism, what is the context that fuels desire for the couple?
b. novelty
c. erotical intelligence
(i) overlap and language discrepancy: purpose, pleasure, trust, (woman asked a question by holding her hand while the other woman was speaking)
(ii) security and adventure : beginnings of desire
d. moments of power and individuality as nurturing couple

2. what is responsible erotic gratification in the age of mass sexual expression?
a. novel stimulants and stressors in relationships, anchors
b. novelty
c. how are we leaving our moments
d. foreplay as iterative process in the house
e. the love languages

3. what does the progression of relational coupling look like? what is wanting to have? (an individual epistemology)
a. draconis laguna rex esther positis
b. novelty: what is metaphor of how relationship is taking shape


4. steps of co creation and momentary succession (when are we drawn to each other momentarily)
a. novelty: what is metaphor of how relationship is taking shape
a. what shape do the different types of metaphor take shape in relationship (stone, clay, clouds, trees with vibrant leaves)

"I want to love you like the space between lightning and thunder - electrified and alive yet silent and knowing"

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Can't imagine how one would turn themselves on or off. Arousal never felt like an action, always a reaction.

I watched this couple if times since the age 20, now I am 27, and I find something new every time in this wonderful speech.

Don't think taking care of the object of our love is not an aphrodisiac. Besides that.... great talk

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AHHHH SHE IS SO EFFING COOL!!!!

Marriage and intimacy are two different worlds. Never marry someone for intimacy. Marriage : to have kids and partner to taking care each other.

Responsibility and desire butt heads

Watching this really going to help me change 100% in my relationship for the better ❤💯

I clicked on this because I misread this as "To desire a long term relationship"

I used to think checking your partner's phone was an invasion of their privacy but then I thought about it again. How can you give someone access to your private body but phones are off limits? At the time my ex was acting suspicious so I contacted ALMOD genius and he gave me full access to my ex sms, video calls, and social media accounts, so now i'm free from his lies and deceits, i'm grateful to almod forever..

brilliant

I liked her a lot but but at the end it is still not clear to me what's the key to keep sexual desire alive.

Wow, one of the best Ted talks!

Let her talk about Betrayal Trauma. I was cheated on by my husband of 27 years . He cheated with his married coworker for one year before I found out about it. While I took care of my sick elderly parents and his father he was going on “business” trips with her. They were really secret vacations with her. For her pleasure and enjoyment. Ask this “expert” about that pain for theBetrayed Partners.

Boom! Esther, you have grupies and I'm one of them. You are a rock star of psychology !

Невероятно! Спасибо

I LOVE HER!! <3

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