How Romanticism Ruined Love

In the era of passion, where emotions ran free,
Romanticism arose, a poetic decree.
But in its fervor, did love find demise?
A tale unfolds, where romanticism lies.

With quills and ink, poets crafted desire,
Love, an ethereal flame, in the romantic fire.
Yet, did idealization breed love's decay,
As romanticism painted love in hues of gray?

In the moonlit sonnets and starry gazes,
Romanticism soared, through emotional mazes.
But did it set expectations too high,
Leaving reality to wither and sigh?

Love, a tumultuous dance in the romantic breeze,
Yet, did romanticism plant illusory seeds?
A utopian vision, where flaws are concealed,
Did it mask love's truths, and emotions unsealed?

In the wild landscapes where hearts entwine,
Romanticism flourished, a passionate sign.
But did it foster a notion too ideal,
Leaving love's authenticity to conceal?

In the ruins of romance, where illusions crumble,
Love's reality may not always humble.
For in the grand tapestry where emotions wove,
Did romanticism, in its zeal, taint the trove?

So let us reflect on love's true embrace,
Beyond the romantic ideals, in reality's space.
For love is imperfect, yet beautifully real,
A genuine emotion that time can't steal.

Love in its highest form can never be limited to anything.

Excuse me?Feelings over facts?that's not love "respect" doesn't equal to true love as well

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Marketing Department will always sell the sizzle. Steak may be good or bad but the sizzle pulls us in.

One of the most detrimental notions is the belief that there's one predestined person for everyone, and all life requires is locating that singular individual for everything to become perfect: marriage will effortlessly bring happiness, children will inherently excel, and you should forsake all your aspirations and objectives if that's the sole path to be with that one person.

Cuenta en decadencia

Come on bro… you didn’t have to put 2 guys loving each other 🤢🤮

Some books destroyed love just because they always make a dream of love in a readers

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Thank you to romanticism for ruining half my life 🍾

Being an apothiromantic person with unrivaled hate and disgust towards romantic love, I wanted to understand what’s so special about it that made it stray from a simple natural need for reproduction. Why romance showed up in the first place and why it’s always a cause for drama.

If anyone here watches telenovelas (Latin American Soaps) or familiar with the genre, it takes the concepts of romanticism and dials it up to a 1000. Decades of women have been led to believing that finding the one trumps "common sense, a sense of morals, women's empowerment and female friendships that dont revolve around catfights over a man are not possible". This view of love favors men and disenfranchises women, that's why its been perpetuated for so long.

The problem with this is that we have now more excuses to tell when things go wrong.
We, as human, will use every possible thing/concept/idea to justify and explain our decisions. Romance is something designed for wealth people.
I know many couples who just wanted to live a better life and their relationship is the vehicle to this better life.

God i hate Europe....it has brought nothing but suffering

Wrong

actually the ladder up the balcony and rescuing the damsel in distress goes back to chretien de troyes in the thirteenth century,

Could you like to suggest any book to read on this topic or theory.

This is the reason for cliches such as age is just a number, love is love, that doesn't hold up in the real world.

The idea that there is that one special someone (the soulmate) for you does nothign except create expectations that will never be met

This is why the relationships in pornographic films are often healthier than the ones in romantic comedies.

Real romance is when you are better then what you were yesterday and the years before that.

Funny. My boyfriend is greater than the wildest dreams I hardly even dared remotely hoping for

Romance is pure fantasy, platonic love is eternal 🤌❤️

That's what I needed

This literally has nothing to do with romanticism. This video is about romance. Go to school.

Weird story happened to me it made me remember my primary school crush who's also my neighbor and she has the same name as my grandmother's, but the girl is 23 probably married or something but my head just loves creating fake romantic scenarios in my head , it fun but it gives you the same sad feeling like when you finish watching a good movie , our problem is marriage is a basic need that everyone deserves to have but it's expensive and many of us if not most aren't good for that responsibility and modern dating is like eating from fast food or trash till you get poisoned or get a heart attack.

what has our society become really..?

That was the most confusing thing I've ever watched

Romanticism is better

some pepoel are afraid of romance , but also they say they dont belive in the concept! this is to me a very beutiful fact.

Wait what😊

This video is bogus

Honestly idk what to think about that i think the romantic movement was very beautiful and I love it's ideas but i didn't think that it could've brought to the world what i hate the most the idea of sex in a relationship as a must and now it's just so ingrained in society

so you're telling us we should lower our standards?

Just realized I am out of time..
I should size to exist...
Thank you for seeing this

You antiromantics... 🙄😒

Monogamy is a fat ass lie.

Real love is extensionality. Extensionality in essence is the ability to extend another person’s mind or life or possibilities. Wouldn’t that be nice? To have or be that person to another who will make you realize your possibilities and let you understand the world a little better? I thought, that IS love.

Love has been overly romanticized in movies and fairy tales; like love is some sort of magic that makes everything all rosy and shiny. It sets an expectation so high about what love should be that eventually sets us up for a  glaring disappointment in our relationships.

Love is never steady. It fluctuates. Like you love yourself sometimes, other times you don’t. You’re lovestruck with your partner one time, another time, you’re just ok. And sometimes you just hate them for the littlest mistake they made that on any other day wouldn’t have bothered you at all. But it doesn’t mean you love them any less. It’s just the way it is. Therein lies the wonder of experiencing these fluctuations in love and life, for that matter; it makes us appreciate those moments of sheer happiness because we have experienced those moments of sheer desolation. For how can we know the difference if we have not experienced the other?

This is a great video.

I think what should not be conflated is "romance" and romanticism, or romanticism with affection. A marriage can still have romance, and couples share affection, but romanticism is a totalitarian mindset that consumes the concept of marriage.

We're more obsessed with the happily ever after theory than the actual idea of love. Love is really mistaken for the desire of companionship, psychological fulfilment and sexual highs. The whole idea of having that someone who completes you is sick. Love has no prerequisites!

Getting other people involved will for sure ruin its best to keep it just between 2 people.

lmao next time try citing Time before you take their entire article

Romance isn’t dead. Love bombing is. And I’m all for love bombing’s death.

Imo whenever someone is “trying to be romantic” that’s not real romance or an expression of love. Because they’re TRYING to get something. In my view, when you love somebody it naturally bubbles out of you and you’ll find ways to express it. Most of the time on accident or just organically. That’s genuine love and “romance.” And it looks different depending on the situation and the people involved. Because love and romance are by definition intimately personal.

ive always felt skeptical of romance movies. even though i still enjoyed most of them, everything's just too good to be true. this video pretty much sums up all my doubts!!

Being super romantic is as bad as not being romantic at all. Try to find the right balance and you will live a happy life.

@The School of Life Do you have any book suggestions on this?

ned fulmer.

"Romantic love is a dangerous illusion"- school of life. Yes I agree. 💯🎯‼️