What Type Of Sex Is Allowed For Married Couples?

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I appreciate this video and the content within it. I think you articulated your message quite well and I do appreciated the lack of bashing inidividuals.

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Anal Sex in the Marriage it’s crazy satanic act. Literally, pushing shit with your penis. God made Vagina which is the sweetest thing ever. Thank you for your video

Well done Mate. The best this g that you said and captured my attention was: Pornography. How extremely harmful pornography be in marriage Couples. It is no1 manipulative of your brain. It is absolutely devil in between real sex and love of the couple.
Well done that was the most take away of this video. Married couples if they want sex and love longevity in their relationship, should by all means avoid watching pornography but rather than playing joyfully and finding outs each others games and pleasures during love and sex

Being a divorced (2 times) single male adult-57- this has tremendously helped me in so many ways. Thank You so much as I know that You are anointed and this was a divine appointment!

God has a design for his children, when we stray we get in trouble. 👍🙏

The bible says if our eye causes us to sin to pluck it out, so Jesus says not to lust after woman with our eyes which also means don't lust after woman that are so messed up they display themselves openly in something that should be so intimate which means porn is illegal for a christian. If the bible says cut of your right hand instead of using it to sin in the same passage of scripture then masturbation and sex toys are sin.

what a great explanation, great job.

Mike, that was one of the best talks I've ever heard in my 66 years of life makes all the sense in the world. Thank you so much for putting this out. May god bless you. As it will be

I'm a widower now but I learned that there is no sex in marriage. When the preacher said we could she said I won't. We did once in awhile. But trying to initiate it always sparked a fight. I'm 67 now. My best most verbal years were wasted on a wife who didn't want me

God designed sexual pleasure as a chemical reaction in the brain. The receptors are malleable. That is they shape themselves around an electronic impulse. Imagine a square block pushed into a piece of playdo. The first sexual actions creates an imprint in the mold. Where we get the term "imprinting" . This can happen with sight and sounds and smells even before Sex. This is why when you fall for your first love you simply cannot get enough of them. You are conditioning your brain to make them the one and only source of fulfillment. And so GOD created marriage to perpetuate this and block out any other stimulus as a way to promote monogamy for the preservation of the family. Any introduction of alternative sexual allurement corrupts the chemical programming. So people got married almost as soon as puberty and most were very happy for long marriage. But now the first imprinting is Porn. by yourself, with dozens of partners. The imprinting is a messy broken up piece of playdo that cant be repeated. To try to fulfill the pleasure expected, you repeat the mistaKE OF HAVING MANY VIRTUAL PARTNERS and deviant actions. Most go down a road of perversion that makes them miserable. The great news is that GODS design can still work, you can renew your mind just as it says in Romans 12. Stop the porn and start from scratch with your spouse. looking, listening, smelling. Dont have sex. Try sitting naked but looking at each others faces only. stair deeply into the eyes. smile, touch the face. dont say anything. do it for 20 minutes. then give a peck and say thankyou I love you. Then do the same next time. Then add a foot message, do it again and add a back message. Go one month like this. with no porn and no masturbation. Odds are extremely high that you and your spouse will find a whole new level of intimacy as your brains chemistry gets rewired.

twisitng and taking verses out of context to fit your agenda so pathetic

sex is a selfish act. no one is wondering if they are pleasuring their partner its about pleasuring themselves first

those of you that think Missionary sex is the only position in which sex is to take place is pathetic

its ironic that 99% of the preachers that preach against pornography are engaging in it themselves

no place in the biblke does it say what type of sex we can have. for you to say there is is to take scripture out of context and twisting it to fit your ridiculous agenda

So how do you deal with a wife who doesn't want sex. Force NO porn NO cheat NO masturbate NO what is left oh toys NO. Help me out

Excellent speech! I agree.

In the law, God states Man shall not lie with mankind as with a woman. That is anal sex and sexually immoral man or woman. Married or not.

That assumes the scripture in Proverbs means everyone has a wife in their youth. I believe this is a scripture referring the saint for masturbation. Your own fountains.

I want to thank you for being vulnerable and speaking on the uncomfortable subject, and especially for taking a stand on specifically the subject of sodomy. I have heard teaching/preaching on sex in marriage, but I have heard NO ONE take a stand WITH Scripture and biological reasons, on sodomy or sex toys within marriage, but preferring to preach/teach that practically anything within Biblical marriage is between husband and wife and therefore acceptable. And I appreciate that you shared it all in a non-condescending, loving way—focusing on true intimacy. Thank you.🙏🏽

What an awesome talk! Great information! I really liked the way you talked about Scripture and the science that backs it up. Will you discuss in a future video about female orgasm and the use of vibrators to help them achieve it? And please talk about Jesus's greatest commandment and how it relates to male/female relations.

good teaching

Thank you mike. Ive been battling a porn addiction for years. And i just stopped porn/masturbating about a month ago. Ive been really proud of myself. Praying and talking to God everyday and turning my life around feels so accomplishing. But during this past week ive been lusting in my mind. This video is reassurance that im doing good and to keep up this mission. Thank you Mike and thank you God. May God bless all of you going through hardships, i pray for the best for all of you.

Is there a link to the kinsey research and conclusion?

I agree with all of this, God bless you for your obedience

Amen my sister I understand let God strengthen you and wait for God to send you the right man to marry.

Brave man.We need more people like this

Sexual inventory? I don't think that should be something you speak about with a pastor at all. Some things should be left unsaid. Types of positions? That should be left out of the church atmosphere. Giving them the tools they need for a healthy sexual relationship with one another should not include sexual positions. I wasn't trying to attack you in any way. I just wanted to shine a new perspective on this topic.

Married since 1987, still madly in love. Let me tell you, young man, life will put your theories to test. Over time, congestive heart failure, afib, stroke, diabetes, mechanical injury and age may challenge your teaching in ways you cannot now understand. Life doesn't always suit what or how we choose to believe. If God doesn't create a workable solution, what can we do? No, not venture into weird stuff, but make do with what you have. You may one day understand old age, or even just onset geriatrics. I think you confuse issues here. Porn is never even part of the discussion; no need to go there. Oh, friend, you have so much to learn still. I have been in ministry for 49 years now; I don't follow church religion but Yeshua. Even so, there are natural limitations you cannot understand reality of life at your young age. Again, drop the porn issue and alternative sex. Normality isn't equal.

Best video I’ve ever seen on this topic. If me and the wife do that, it’s only rare occasions maybe once or twice a year when we get super crazy sometimes. Also, an even harder topic to talk about would be the male prostate gland. That would take some serious guts to talk about.

😂 what kind of question is this? What kind of sex is allowed? Whatever the couple wants obviously. Whatever the two of them do behind closed doors is all up to them, if both parties agree you can't go wrong.

Pastor to Pastor, well done faithful servant. Your love for the flock and lost alike is clearly evident.

That's the only way to be fruitful and multiply no back door

Amen to Your message. Because of all that is considered to be natural today, there are life styles to be expected from those who resist the Holy Spirit while trying to sponsor a clear conscience. There's married and there's married in the eyes of God. It's those claiming to be Christians who've believed the nature of the updated lie "What's happens in Vegas also stayed in Vegas" who're deceiving themselves and some covertly around them. When we do, we too suffer from the same lack of perspective as does the world. People can justify anything they do in this world they're convinced no one can see or will take them to task for if they did, yet they'll forget Why God will not be mocked. Only later to claim God works in mysterious ways when they don't know how else to assess the impact of how they aided in the deception of others. People are more aware of what's wrong with everyone else today than they are what is right in the eyes of God for lack of reason. The question of Godliness has become a competition amongst believers who love comparing themselves on their best days to establish what they think God sees as the measure of evil in the world. People don't determine when or If the marital bed is defiled no more than the local church assembly does because, God does. In the pursuit of Righteousness, people can only agree with God or whoever they've surrounded themselves with in their Hope of God being glorified in the presence of God. Every soul that's trying to escape the hold Sin DID have on them should at some point expect to See themselves ceasing from same. If not what is Progress by "Way" of the Power of God that's only found in the Wisdom of God? One thing the sinful nature has in common is the draw of everything that is considered to be Taboo in Heaven and on earth. The beginning of Wisdom shouldn't continue to look like it did when it first was first introduced to the fear of the Lord. If the word of God is not convincing enough, people FEEL the need to change things Up.

You specify what Jesus didn't. Difference in priorities. If Jesus' followers put first things first (Jesus' priorities) the rest comes much more naturally.

For your vulnerability and honesty I have subbed. I really appreciate what you are doing here pastor.

Excellent straight forward teaching , it’s a shame that more Pastors don’t have these discussions with their congregations

From your opening. I'm gonna say that while many modern churches celebrate married sex, they have established their own repression - giving all the power to a wife, laying all the responsibility on the husband, establishing rules for godly sex, creating AMOG c*ck-blockers in the form of that pastor or teacher who really knows what its about and you don't measure up to that.

Good job explaining 👍🙏

Yep we need to come back to the word of god, thanks for breaking the word down for us , I’ve always had a hard time breaking down what it means, that’s why I watch pastors talk about how it’s applied

I gave up sex a long time ago -- I got married 😂

Best explanation of anal sex Ive ever heard...thank you for having the knowledge , guts and maturity . You shared this with grace and dignity

This doesnt need to be 30 minutes. As long as its between just the 2 of you, go for it.

Also from Song of Solomon 2:7 I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or the hinds of the field, that you will not arouse or awaken my love, until she pleases.
Premarital sex, estramarital sex and masturbation, are not to be practiced in order for the couple to enjoy sex only with one another. This will ensure the most satisfaction in the marriage bed and the memories will not be a source of dissatisfaction in marriage.

Adam, Eve, and God - forgetting the 4th one - the snake.

Sex has become the biggest scourge on the Earth because sacredness and truth have been stolen. Christians are not exempt...through suppression they are possessed by it. Bringing it to light and redeeming its virtues is paramount. This man's courage and love for God's people not to perish but come to a full understanding of the Truth to set them free, is most admirable. My first video of him, i will watch and pray.

I agree with all but the last 3 reasons against anal pleasure. #3 and 5 have been completely debunked and #4 is far too vague of a statement. Additionally, biology proves the tissue (especially prostate) is identical to and contains massive pleasure receptive nerves. There is also a lubrication mucus throughout the colon and rectum, however additional lubrication is needed and thus prevents tearing, the same as a dry vaginal canal. Yes, STD's are more easily transmitted, but that will or won't happen within a loving marriage regardless of the act(s). I know all of this from intense study to heal from multiple male pelvic floor issues as a result of decades of trauma. Even my sigmoid colon has been affected.
I'm not trying to make a case for anal receptive pleasure but point out that all 5 reasons are misleading, AND that it should not be assumed that only females can have pleasure from anal stimulation. The whole crux of anal pleasure for both, is all in the how. Anal pleasure is where the deepest most intense intimacy is required and obtained. ❤
To clarify, anal pleasure does not only mean a man entering a woman with only his dry penis. Cleanliness, communication, and preparation to stimulate a major pleasure area is required for the anal area more than any other area and has rewards that are unbelievable when done right.

as a sexologist, and an actively practicing Christian, I will strongly disagree with you on many of your topics, 1 oral sex is ok, a mouth and tongue do tricks the vagina can't, and the best sex begins and ends with Oral... communication... a good talk before about what you want and desire and how it went after is really good... too and during... to hard to soft to fast to slow should always be part of the act... 2 Not all porn is pornography, it can answer many questions people have and yes CAN go off the rails, for many people porn is a way to fulfill fantasy they would never do and shouldn't do. watching it is like watching and playing fantasy football, or soccer, it's not real you think you want to be on the field but do not want the pain or put in the commitment it takes to get on the field. 3 Masturbation is a way of copeing, and in many sexless marriages porn and masturbation can be a way to cope with the rejection, or inability to enjoy the orgasm many people need and want from a non-willing or able spouse. One of the things most marriages fail to acknowledge is the higher desire partner, if one has a higher desire than the other what are the options? so much of our society shames the higher desire yet it keeps men in the marriages. if you or your spouse desires sex more or less than your partner you have a sexless marriage and you need to talk about the alternatives to rejection.

Thank you Pastor for taking on this highly controversial and muted topic. God bless you richly!