Eliminate these Crass Words from your Vocabulary! | Speak like an Elegant Lady

There is nothing wrong with these words. The problem is they're over-used by Americans and as a substitute for a wider vocabulary. Read some books. Consult dictionaries, but don't tell us some perfectly decent words are unrefined or inelegant.
Just don't overuse those words. Find sufficient words to express yourself more accurately and more clearly in a range of situations. It's a bit of hard work that's unavoidable if you want to make a good impression. But don't try short cuts like this.
Another offending word is the overuse of 'like' or 'your know' as some kind of joiner word between sentences or a starter phrase. They are perfectly decent words all of them, just don't use them as a filler. I hope this helps.

I love your vocabulary and how you articulate yourself. I am on my journey to refinement and your videos have been extremely helpful.

'shut up' is really so annoying

Yes Vivienne you are right. The word LIKE is waay to overused, and alot of young people are simply to lazy to use proper grammer!!..

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The "maths" phrase is new to me. Texas

Born and raised in California in the USA and I definitely have never heard the math is not mathing lol

Thank you for the great advices!!!

Thank you so much for YOUR elegance & a nice manner of teaching!

Black people talk a lot of slang and use strange ghetto accents to sound a certain way. I wish it would stop.

Elegance is a lost art. Society is trashier than ever

What we do at home and in private will inform what we do publicly. Thank you for saying this! If you practice good manners and speech at home, you will NEVER embarrass yourself in social or professional situations. Elegance is neither stiff nor formal. It's simple and easy and really quite an enjoyable skill to learn. I think anyone could do it.

One can speak elegantly, but if there is no substance or meaning behind the words, it’s just a facade.

If you want to hear the word like used ad nauseam, watch the bachelorette or the bachelor

Profanity is very offensive and a deal breaker to me in a guy.

I am learning so much from u

Im 21, I have been working on my journey towards femininity the last 2 years. I hope to keep growing more beautifully inside and out. Thank you💕

Silence please

Thank you, Vivianne. This was very useful. Another word in thos category is apparently!

Whenever I hear people use the word like peppered in their speed, it reminds me of Valley Girl speech.

thank you!

The two social classes who curse the most on are on opposite ends of the spectrum. I’m a 60 year old American woman, who grew up in a lower to middle class household, and was raised not to swear and have good manners, in my youth , and probably up until my 40’s , I was quite taken aback by what I considered to be vulgar language. What I’ve experienced though , is that the true upper classes , throughout Europe and these days also in America , have no qualms about frequenting peppering their speech with curse words. I’ve been told by members of societies’s upper echelons, that my disdain for such language, is just proof of my very pedestrian middle class sensibilities.

Also crass; pronouncing
"button" as buh-en",
"frighten" as 'fri-en,
"cotton" as "cah-en"
etc. etc. etc.

Hello again from Canada. You are helping to replace cloud with sunshine. Your view of the world is bright, enlivening and healing for the soul. Cheers.

I've watched several of your videos. Every one is excellent. You are a breath of fresh air. Thank you for all your outstanding content.

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Thank you! It is a good practice to get back to proper speech. The slang words should be dropped in majority of conversation.

I've just discovered you and I'm so grateful for your videos...thank you for sharing 🩷

Dear Vivienne, I hope you make a part 2

I want to rip my hair out when I hear someone repeat the word 'like' constantly

Besides “chill”, I very much dislike the phrase “calm down”. Both are often used in my culture to bully others who aren’t excited, but simply disagreeing. It’s condescending, and implies that you are in control, and/or they have no self-control.

Thank you for this great list of words not to use. I do wish to point out that the use of Oy vs Oi. Oy is short for Oy Vey which is a lovely Yiddish expression of exasperation or annoyance . I am not familiar with the use of Oi. They sound the same but different meaning

I get lots of people saying "Oh my god", (rather than than the letters). This is when my teddy bear talks to strangers! He replies. "I am not your god. I am her teddy bear", nodding his head towards me! Or, he says. "No, I am not god. I'm the next best thing but not god"! Then they repeat and so does he! It's very funny!

Literally sounds very trashy.

Math is not mathing is used in kenya

"Some people can't make a sentence without ending it with i'n'it," similar to me with "eh."

"Innit" sounds very American. "It's a good mornin', i'n'it? "Nice weather i'n'it‽"

Number 4 has me in a chokehold I feel so called out 😂

Hello Vivienne,

Again, thanks for the informative content.

However I beg to defer on how to address people in different situations.

For eg.. meanwhile forgive my punctuation as I'm typing in a rush

When addressing staff.lets stay mechanics on the field every morning or while trying to hold impromptu meetings it would be a little akward to address them as ladies and gentlemen

Hey guys, here's are focus for today - engine removal and transmission repair on suchlike and such


Or addressing the soccer team in a locker room

Guys listen up

Like a previous comment I read here
One weighs the situation and people your addressing.

Accents even across the UK differ.

While working with the army it was considered appropriate to sign of or greet in Scottish English


The Scotts Even in uniform are are a proud people. I wouldn't expect them to dismiss their greetings in the name of elegance 'aye'

Again just my two cents

Vivienne

Great content although as one who is Kenyan and grew up in the UK early eighties, you slipped with the word ASK

You constantly mispronounce this as AXE

Please correct yourself.

Found a few glitches here and there but found your videos

Fun
Educational
Meaningful also a bit hilarious

Said with love
Mcan Kenya

The math is not mathing is not popular in Zambia.

I hate when people say "what's up?" Or "What up" as a teen myself. I say "Hiiii" or "Hello" instead

I heard the maths is not mathing online only 😭

Sounds like Anna Bey. Interesting substance.

What about people that say right right!

A waitress that calls you HONEY ! Wrong wrong !!

Thank you,as an adult..im learning a lot...be blessed!

Very useful, I'm 60+ and your lessons remind of the finishing schools for girls in America years ago which covered, speech, posture, walking, table manners, dress code and other areas... you are a breath of fresh air 😊.. thank you

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