Harvard negotiator explains how to argue | Dan Shapiro

What do you think of these 3 steps to conflict resolution?

One year on , how things change.

Ty muj komunisto....... Ted.jsem.tam volal, proc se chováš jako komunista....

Nic jsem se nedozvěděl....

I thought the title said "Ben Shapiro" and I almost had a heart attack

Nikdo s vama neargumentuje :D

Naopak :D

Vsechno je oravda :D

Ukazte, co váš mrzky intelekt s paranoiou dokáže...

Music is so disturbing not able to focus on the topic

tell that to a flat earther: yeah, that makes sense! and you are phucked!

That's not reality. That's fine for classroom. Reality is that sometimes you meet someone for the first time and you decide that you don't like them; simultaneously, they have made the exact same decision. Then, tension builds and an argument is ignited. What's worse, is when they are a gatekeeper and you need them more than they need you, so you raise your voice. You can see where this is going.

I- i didn't search this up for debate, i just simply want to win over a stubborn bully who insulted me but maybe i can use this somehow

Огромное вам спасибо

why are you arguing

I appreciate all your efforts you put in curing my herpes infection Dr Igudia, you have proven to be the professional doctor that you are. God bless you as you go out there to cure the sick people. Gratitude.

I wish point #3 was more expanded upon, its easy to just say that but some real life examples would be helpful,

Dan?

Very good lesson

Idk bout this, id rather push my point than merge ours together

the music is really distracting.

The thing is, you need to both do that, or its just a lost of time, trust me, i tried for many years, its just impossible when they will just not listen, either they dont care or accuse you of things you never said, cognitive dissonance is hard to overcome 😅😢

Связка хорошо работает, как и всё, что рекомендует автор

"How to argue?"
answer: Don't argue.
wth

If you argue with a foolish person they will call you a fool

Really good video!

So the best way to argue is to have a casual talk.

Thank you👍
1-Identity
2- appreciation
3- Affelation
If the people keep the communication with the presence of a third part, who is accepted from both sides, there's always a solution.

Actually that’s called folding 😂

No one argues about politics. They just exchange rants.

How are all the Shapiro's the best speakers 😅

are you related to ben shapiro?

I just realized that I have taken more notes from this 4 minutes video than most very long videos, great value!
Thanks for sharing

This is all fine until you enter into an argument with someone who has been so completely brainwashed or is so ignorant that "Jewish space lasers" seems logical.

by all means do not tell a mf he makes sense when he do not. Nothing worse than telling someone they're right when theyre not. This is why we have a problem with misinformation.

Of course a SHAPIRO is obsessed with how to argue

To solve a conflict, invite your Opponents to eat meals on the same table and talk abt weather and life. Done

Lekker video mate. Keep up the good work 🎉

I tried this approach at work with my team and the antagonists in question did as I predicted. Some people belong in the “beyond help” box because they won’t ever share with you what has them acting the way they do because of their pride and self image.

Nice ad ahahah. and nice rewording of sun tzu: know yourself and your enemy)
a real "Big Think"

I enjoy watching movie scenes and the actor, actresses expressions. Who ask some people to enact whatever I watch? I enjoy watching cute spontaneous expressions even my niece and nephew.
If you take it in the wrong sense, what can i do? The root cause of misunderstanding is lack of communication.

What an incredible video. About time I stopped picking fights with people who disagree with my point of view.

I love how authentic the editing is

What’s the name of the music

The music is so fucking good

Although we didn't like Ben Shapiro, we could benefit from his knowledge guys. No conflict

Its not about arguing its about how to calm the opposition 😂

I more then thankful to you for an useful and short lecture 😊

Conflict gives me anxiety not because i don't know what to say, but because most times your dealing with an irrational individual.. most my life growing up I've dealt with verbal conflict constantly, the constant need to be right instead of resolving conflicts. But I strive to be able to position myself in a way to have some form of response to every situation, and come out not feeling like i wasted time you know. I wanna come out of an argument feeling in control of my emotions and choices of statement without the variables of someone else's ego or frustration altering my own.

frustrating
core aggravating
felt nonnegotiable
my hunch
a tribal trap
stifle
1. Identity
2. APPRECIATION
3. AFFILIATION
threaten
get hooked
wholly
pride
stance
midst
logic
rationale
truly
recognize
rams butting heads
find common ground
adversary

Know who you are, know who they are, and find common ground

People nowadays like to argue not to get into a resolution but to prolong it and create more conflict

This is so important I've seen many couples being against each other rather than going against the problem they have

to my mind, my family life's mission is to obtain the mastery of arguing :)