Making Marriage Work | Dr. John Gottman

So how about if you turn look acknowledge but it is pretty much the least interesting thing you could think of seeing and the partner wants you to be absolutely amazed but you just aren’t completely enthusiastic about computer coding or say cooking shows daily, you have expressed this numerous times, now what? You do however have plenty of other things in common that are interesting.

Try this with your relationship with yourself. Life changing.

Iv'e been married since last Tuesday, this is exactly what me and my wife needed.

Instructions unclear, finished divorcing my gyraffe

This is is insightful. 🙏🏿

If you have distain and contempt for your partner how do you fix it? It is hard!

As soon as he said he studies LGB couples, I knew this would just be more godless psychobabble. Without understanding and respecting God's law, trying to study human behavior is futile.

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Unfortunately, you don’t really know someone until you move in together. By that time, it can be too late. Remember, you also marry the family. Finance is a big stressor.

I think it all comes down to the shared meaning and gridlock. You just can't adapt to some set of conflicts and in some relationships you will not find any shared meaning. If you find someone that satifies these two sets of conditions, the rest of the work will be worth the labour.

Fabulous! Wise, practical, researched, educated, useful! It almost makes me want to be married again!

Medicating with psychiatric drugs is a recipe to totally destroy your entire being.

Of course, all this goes out the window when one person in the couple has a cluster b personality disorder and/or is a sociopath, because they are always the four horsemen. Just saying to those of you in that relationship ... don't waste precious years trying to fix what can never be fixed. Save yourself.

I married just once at age 18. He was 22. We are in our 35th year. He is Neurotypical & I and both of our sons are Autistic. We are struggling, but we keep working toward a better place. We are now both in our 50's and we BOTH survived my natural Menopause even though no physician was able to know it was Premature Menopause. I have to wonder how they diagnose things that NATURALLY occur; I'm only pretty certain they can not.

So simple and based in science. Awesome!

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The caring in change and knowing the imperfection of connections yet efforts resound the flow up and down

If I wore that shirt in public my wife would divorce me.

Guys Best way to make marriage work in your favor, just dont get married!!

I think this is all beautiful wisdom but it changes from case to case, from personality to personality as it can be interpreted and misinterpreted by different personalities. There is no one shoe that fits all feet.

Often people who are codependent, dependent or passive stay in marriages forever, yes first 30 years they deal but the rest they just don’t care it’s just time being served. When you have a partner who is narcissistic, sociopathic these would be difficult to apply and sadly those folks probably drag partners to couples counseling etc.. this is why not every couple would respond or even in long term studies the effects I would want to see

51-52 percent of modern countries and USA divorce, often due to marrying without knowing self or the other person, jumping into marriage before knowing the partner is a bad idea.. so honestly depends on case to case..

How old were they at marriage, was one partner more wealthy than the other? What’s the education level of couples? Do they have children and how many?

Many things that maybe thought of in the study but since it’s not discussed here, it just makes it too magical.

But for the average couple with normal issues if normal marriages, or issues I do believe it’s lovely and helpful

thanks

Nowadays issues, apart from all mentioned..which is all great. is lack of values... people admiring only themselves and so relationships never start for real. People are looking to take advantage in any sense from other people and couples even friends. So good people are getting wiser and are being more careful and finding harder to find people with honest intentions and afinity. It got over complicated. Now the issue is that there is even a lack of real dates. Real interest. Etc.

I’m half way through and I approve.

It does that's where the psychology lessons he's uses comes from he didn't make them up himself all of the stories in the bible have a purpose behind them to teach us lessons on how to live life healthily and faithfully no matter how painful and bitter or nervous. Job Jonah Esther Moses Exodus Matthew❤😂😂🎉😊

Sooooo I’m getting divorced

don't marry a fat emotionally distant narcissist... and if the family are nuts... run!

Bob Wiley and Dr. Leo Marvin.

My issue is I never know what to say and always choose to say nothing at all, only deepening the hole I am trying to get out of.

Me and my fiancé which we have a Daugther and almost 6 years together and we are going through a rough patch right now and I hope this helps me and well us I have hope because I do love him.

Very good , concise , 👍👍

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This is the BOOM!!!
Worth listening over and over again to capture all the true nuggets that lay in this presentation.

This video sound interesting,I've learnt a lot from the video

My only complaint is that Gottman didn't link any of his research studies here. I would love to see his actual data

I’ve been stone walling TF out of my wife, and this is eating me up …this is what I needed! She’s not perfect..but she’s worth it.I desire to love my queen with all of my heart! 👑

I’ve dated more avoidant partners … it’s makes it hard to ever feel close. most my bids seem to go unnoticed.

Pure gold! I need a pocket-size Dr Gottman to guide and protect me!

Dude has the data!

two minutes of fun once or twice then have two rats who you look after for 18 years maybe

This is magic! Awesome!

LOVE MAP of the next five years?? Lol, my hubby can't even commit to going on a date on the weekend!!

takes so much humility

This is a superior lecture. The speaker does not present his theories of what works. Instead, he simply presents the results of his research, which just involved observing couples. In the presentation, he reports on the common behavior of successful and unsuccessful couples. You can’t beat observation.

We need wisdom and knowledge and understanding to successfully build a home. The wise man says, “Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: and by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches,” Prov. 24:3, 4.

I like the fact that you said that is the same type of work for the seal to be up and down. so why is it that the ladies can't lift up the seat for the men when they finish, rather the men are the only one that is doing the work. Men can put down the seat after he is finish and she can do the same for her to put in down after using it as well and that is equal for both of the couple.