What to Do When Your Ex Moves on RIDICULOUSLY FAST | Matthew Hussey

My ex started dating like a week or less after he broke up with me. We were together for 4 years. Talked about moving in together, getting married. One day he told me he doesnt feel like hes in love with me anymore and he has a crush on another girl. Those feelings of being replaceable, of having trusted someone and having that trust shattered, of being wrong about someone are so difficult to manage. I've never felt so horrible before.

The girl I was with for 14yrs left a few days ago and today I saw her bumble emails because her email is linked to our kids tablet. I was already broken but now I'm shattered and completely alone. I can't talk to my kid and he's all I have

My husband finished with me out of nowhere 12 years on our wedding anniversary after checking into a romantic log cabin and filed divorce 3 days later. We're almost divorced. Looking in depth with a therapist, msjor character flaws there i just accepted but shouldn't have done

The cringe and pettiness, girl. Congrats to them, a pair of works

How long is long to wait for commitment. Do not continue relationships. Have goal marriage.

I was with this guy for exactly a year now. He refused to label the relationship and even though we did everything together and our friends knew something was going on he will treat it like a joke and deny when they ask. His mom once asked if i was his girlfriend and he laughed it off. We see each other more than 4 times in a week and he continues to treat me like we were dating seriously. He made me fall in love with him and when i brought up about officially accepting we are in relationship he got angry and broke up with me by text. I accepted it and decided to go no contact. He has ignored me for 2 weeks and today saw him kissing and going to his apartment with a lady he posted 3 days after breaking up with me...

Delete every single photo, delete every email and delete every text message.

Throw away anything in your home that reminds you of them.

You have to be a little bit cold to get through this pain.

They threw you away like a piece of garbage; now it’s time to throw them away.

I think the term "closure" is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Why? It didn't work. Just accept that and move on.
Why do so many girls use the excuse "oh I need closure from my boyfriend I had 2 years ago" "I promise we won't do anything but talk"
Imagine seeing his car at her house 1 day after the breakup 😮

We were together 2,5 years and he broke up with my by text message…..

I really had to write down what you said,so I can repeatly read it and never forget it.
Thanks again Mathew

Hi Matthew, I broke up after 6 years and 4 months. Waiting for him to pop the question. He didn't marry as I was a vegetarian and he is a non-vegetarian. That's the answer I got!! Now, he is engaged after 5months of break up! How do I deal with this hurt!!!!!!!

I see a red flag in the woman cuz she s going to sign a loan after a 6m relationship. Thats not normal

My fiance point blank played me lol. We invited her ex into our r.s and now they are engaged and I was broken up with because I was told it was easier for them to fix the things in that r.s than this one. I realized all the signs and now we all live together and i wish to disappear... i do not wish best for them or ill for them.. i wish that everyone gets what they deserve. I gave six years, and i feel completely damaged, and we all live together.. so im trying my best to avoid them completely. I do my best not to say much, and when i see my ex, i shut down all feelings to protect myself.. ino, i deserve better. It's just hard to see right now.

Women don't move on quickly... she had another guy already lined up, was already cheating, and then dumped you.

I got broken up with over text after 5 years. Your closing sentence about the 6 months - 6 years really hit me. I am devastated and ruined. I dont know what to do.

My wife was having more than one affair, I had enough and left last year. I’m at rock bottom and struggle to get out of bed daily while she has already moved on with other people and mocks me to our “friends” it’s so hard but you can’t let them know you are struggling so much

i’ve always been kind, in my romantic relationships and friendships. i gave him my world, i put him first. he hurt me multiple times and i still let him back in. now he is living his life 2 weeks later while i’m stuck alone in the dark because for once i put myself first (breaking up)

My gf of 7 years broke up with me and 1 month later is seeing someone. Her reasoning is that she was emotionally done with me several months ago so that's why. Am I right for feeling like she is disrespecting me by moving so damn fast?

Unfortunately I had to break with someone I loved the most because I felt like I wasn’t enough to make her happy, today it’s Been about 2 months since we broke up, 2 months later I was thinking maybe I can evolve and become better and get her back, so I found a new job, it’s far from home, I work almost Sunday to Sunday, I feel anxious there but I need it, today it’s been about 2 months since the end of my relationship with my love, and I got home tired from my second day at the new job to see a story on her insta where she is in the couch with a guy just like a boyfriend and girlfriend, and she posted it on her close friends and she put me on her close friends so I could see it, my new job is at the movies, cinema, as a cashier, it’s the only where we went to see many movies together, it’s the only cinema we have in town, so eventually I’ll have to sell tickets to them, and honestly I don’t know how I’ll react and how I’m gonna be able to work when that day comes, honestly I feel terrible I honestly don’t know what’s gonna happen with my life and now, I wish I could run away from all of this

I’m in my sixties and my ex left recently saying they are looking for a serious live in relationship and was already socializing. He must have been planning this breakup months ago.

Btw He broke up by FaceTime and text as well, and I did tell him that was very disrespectful given our two year relationship

He is now living out of province

Lol this girl is 100% aware she's a rebound re: the oversharing on public social media so the ex will see, and liking her posts is to expose the social media that's made public for the ex to see. Don't play these games. Find someone better that doesn't mess with your head

After 5 years of being together, 15-20, my hs relationship, first love, and the first person I had “s” w. He left me a month ago because he wasn’t happy that I wanted him to step up and push me to do better, stop making bad financial decisions, and stop watching corn, and just being sad bc he barely called me throughout the day like he used to. Finally left me last month and he’s already moved on and wants nothing to do with me yet I’m still here holding onto the fact that just a few months ago he wanted to get me pregnant and gave me hopes of becoming a family and getting married in a few years. Our relationship was draining but for some reason I just can’t let go and him moving on fast w someone that looks better than me has crushed my ego and made me absolutely depressed and now I have breakdowns almost daily, I’m barely eating and I’ve already lost a lot of weight. My pants feel so loose and everytime I try and eat I just get upset with life and ask why me? I don’t know what else to do but honestly been having thoughts abt leaving this world. I feel like a failure at life.

easiest way probably just to find a new partner for you, it works for me anyway

She came to pick up her things. Literally after 2 weeks after the break up she tells me she's already seeing already dating someone else. I don't think I've ever been more heart broken.

My bf of 2 years just broke up with me & in 6 days sent me a pic of him and his new girl!

My current situation. Not 100% sure but def a different him. He abandoned me and my kids after one wk of giving birth and left back to his mothers house. To have a few so call discussions/ arguments about how it’s all my fault and play the blame game. 3 yrs together and at the snap of a finger back to his mom there house at the age of 39 to be easily influenced by them to discard me. He’s too blame too - jus staying strong for me and my girls as now I have to move fwd and not let it sink in that it was all my fault as he is pushing it to be

Thank you for this

I found the video!!! I’ve never seen this video before and I’ve been rewatching all of Matt’s videos and I finally found a video that explains my situation almost exactly.

My ex hasn’t moved on to another girl yet but he did feel all these ways, and I was giving my all in the relationship and he was planning his exit. I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me.

We dated for a year and a half. He was there when my mom died four months ago. And I am so not over any of it but he couldn’t give me all the things I needed in the relationship and I guess I couldn’t give him the things he needed cause I was in grief but now I just want relationships where I can invest equally and won’t feel that betrayal again.

He gave me more closure then necessary and yk. In the end he didn’t choose me. And I’m not necessarily ok with that yet, that the guy I was dating for a year and a half bailed on me when it got hard. But I am ready to move on to something that won’t do that to me. That won’t hurt me just cause he can. And yes I’m grieving. I’m miserable. This is a horrible horrible situation. And I feel awful. But at the end of the day from someone that has caused me this much heartache and pain. They don’t deserve someone that was willing to compromise that much into the relationship for them. And I didn’t deserve to be mistreated that way. Guys it’s life! There’s better things coming. You don’t want to be with someone that isn’t sure about you. Being stuck in a relationship that’s not right for you is nice at times, until you realize the truth of how they feel about you.

There’s a point where it just clicks and your brain and you realize the reality of the way your relationship was going. And that it’s probably for the best

Honestly that hurts but for me. It hurts more when all our friends and family still talk about him and bring him up. It's been 2 years. I ended the relationship and lefted. I don't regret my decision. I still don't want him back or miss him like that. I miss good times at some point but I'm over it. How he hurt me is way more. So I wondering if I'm doing something or not showing everyone even that I'm moved on and has been working on healing and working on myself and my peace.

The guys sounds like he love bombs

This saved my heart, there is light at the end of the tunnel

Ive just found out my ex of about 5/6 months has started seeing someone new. I was a little upset at first, but actually realised its quite liberating. I don’t have to spend all my
Time wondering if there is still something there, or wondering what they are up to etc.

The truth, however difficult, will set you free

My exbf broke up with me LAST WEEK and this week he's already talking to the friend "I shouldn't worry about" s3xting and making plans with her, I don't even know how to feel

Going through this at the moment. Only thing is, we have a child together. Hard to get over when you have to be constantly reminded of it/her. Through the exchanging of our kid, having to still see her every other day. Life can be so cruel.

If they moved on that fast, They probably had someone already on the Wait-List. They checked out along time ago mentally.

after 3 days sent me a pic of her back saying just nutted in her life is not good rn 2 years :(

Very precise analysis and optimistic. Thank you

Who cares. She ain’t worth it.

The question sounds like it's from a 17 year old 🙄
I'm out. Lol

“He corrected his behavior until it happened again”

Translation: he didn’t correct his behavior.

I can't give up on love. But women stop playing games and if you don't like a situation leave us. Don't play around with us as a bookmark in a book.

What exactly is wrong with dumping someone after 6 months over text? I was dumped after 2 years over text and it hurt, but I want to understand what sort of person would do this? Does this mean they lack character, lack communication skills or what? I still can't wrap my head around how someone can say I love you face to face and ditch you 20 minutes later over text.

I had one year relationship and next day he had a girlfriend..

men go through same woman are great liars, men don't want to get married we get screw used and left empty hearted and empty bank account. It's hard to invest. I'm investing in God his is the answer to everything.

Someone choosing you is the bare minimum in a relationship by definition. If they don’t, it’s the ultimate dealbreaker.

All of those tips are great, especially try not looking them up, be it in a form of a conversation or simply checking them on socials be it their posts, stories, followings, activity status, those things can seem initally harmless, however they can be quite dangerous and damaging to your mental well being and healing, in fact the more you do such thing the longer you prolong your own pain and healing, for several reasons you can thing that you need to do those things but honestly none of the "reasons" your mind comes up with isn't truly good enough and worth it. In fact your peace shouldn't be based on what your ex is doing or not doing, how they are feeling themselves, I understand that certain thoughts or scenarios can be very upsetting, dissapointing, even disrespectful, but honestly it doesn't matter, and sometimes it can even feel like you've been lied to if they have told you such things such as "i want to be on my own, i want to figure myself out" "relationships aren't for me"
but bottomline is that regardless if their actions and behavior matches the reason of them walking away, they decided to walk away, and not putting in the work for relationships was more important to them then all of the things they'd have to let go off by walking away, they chose themselves, their needs, and pretty much their selfishness, so don't in anyway after break up try to remain "connected to them" by checking their activities that do not concern you, and if you ended everything in a "civil" way and are still friends on socials simply mute them and their activites and don't go to their page, because while it can feel reliving or even make you feel you are in control, in most cases such activites are just gonna cause obssesive and intrusive thoughts, in facts you are gonn be overthinking about them and what they are and aren't doing, how they can possibly be feeling, so just stop, i know that it can feel soothing to know that the other person is struggling too, or they haven't started anything with anyone yet, but honestly at some point they are gonna be moved on in all senses possible, wish them well if you can, but most importantly don't prolong your healing, move on, let go of them completely, even let go of some breadcrumbs, you'r ex shouldn't be the reason you feel comforted, especially after putting you through a great discomfort. Focus on yourself, don't think or try to get info on what they are probably doing now, save yourself all of the anxiety and overthinking. None of their actions define anything related to you, they don't conern you, you don't concern them, it''s over, accept it trully, don't try to hold back some bits and pieces, and let go so you can truly move on and heal.
Take care of yourselves.

I had the same, but for two years... It is crushing... You feel tricked and dehumanized...

I just got dumped after 7 months now she has a new relationship after 1 month ... It's painfull but thnx for the video your right .. she wasn't willing to give me what I was willing to give her .. I just got yo push through the pain and grow I guess...

Just got off the phone with the girl I was dating for about over a year. Did over a month of NC. Gave in and checked up. We talked over an hour and found out that she really likes this new guy she’s been dating. Shit fucking hurts but oh well. Life goes on. I just need to continue working on myself like I have. 😕