Jordan Peterson - How To Know When To End A Relationship

I do not understand why I have to be the psychologist of my partner. Especially when it is them who is telling me that it is all my fault and the reason I am being misbehaved by them is always me and I should seek therapy and not them. What is there to salvage?

Sometimes practicalities, money etc, after a long time can stop you making a final decision

The five questions transcribed for easier readability:

1. If someone told you: "you're a lot like you're partner", would this be a complement to you
2. Are you truly fulfilled or just less lonely?
3. Are you able to be (a) unapologetically yourself or (b) do you feel the need to show up differently to please your partner?
4. Are you in love with who your partner is right now as a whole, or are you only in love with their good side, their potential or the idea of them?
5. Would you want your future child to date someone like your partner?

my gf and have been doing nothing but arguing for three weeks. we have gotten nowhere and all the fighting sucks. ive tried to end things but im scared. idk hwy but i am. i dont know if we are too conflicting or we just need time.i dont want to be alone and i think i love her, but with how much weve been fighting idk anymore. its been a year. i would says we fight a lot. its just made me misirible(idk how to spell) lately the fighting has made me misrible

Jordan looks so healthy and happy right now ❤

It is hard to walk away if you are the kind of person who can only see the goodness in someone.

My husband Is a génius in convincing me or anyone that He Is thé problem.

Did he answer the question?

My husband and i go through stages.. wonderful/bad/ a few days of awful. They are getting further and further apart but lately hes been very argumentative, sad, and cranky. He says he doesn't know why but won't go to the doctors. Help

anyone can answer sometimes to all of those questions.

Yea that would only work when both partners are willing to change and work on things. Not if one partner thinks he has all the right answers..

Sobering stuff.

man... those 5 Qs :( "no, no, no, no, no")

Find out who is trying to end it since humans don’t have free will in this world

Oooooo this is good!!!❤

my teachers would rate my below average if i answered like that: off topic. Bro you can't spend 3 pages talking about something that wasn't asked..

Amen. 🫶🏻

Jordan Peterson is talking logic. And that's the problem. Women don't deal in logic. They deal in emotions. Let the hate begin 👇

I love what he said about the hidden soul. Great points

my partner is the best girl in the world

Wait... cherubs had swords? If they're going to use items from the future that hadn't been invented by humans yet, why not tanks? Why not shotguns?

Damn, all my answers to these questions are positive. Grateful.

My husband is my best friend. We went through hell and back but made rules in the beginning to maintain each other’s dignity. Did we sometimes slip up? Yes. Did it hurt? Yes. But we always apologized and took accountability. Sometimes it took time and we needed to separate and give ourselves time to think. Now, we rarely fight but we do have disagreements and we handle them with love and patience. I am always thinking about how I can honor my husband’s love and happiness and him for me. The other day he said to me that we complete each other, followed up with, “we’re like a pie, you’re one half and I’m the other, and we might be two different flavours but when you put us together, we complete the pie!” 😂😂😂

Overthinking it .have fun go on dates hook up . Guys date ur wife..

Wow

I think people wanting those five things and wanting your partners to be perfect is the reason why everyone finds it so hard to date these days. I think everyone’s searching for the perfect mate, which is probably only a one and 1000 chance, sometimes you just gotta accept your differences and be there for your children. I think if you respect your partner, that’s a start. And don’t lie.

Thanks guys!!!

The Titel is not right....

@2.50 what would you say to parents who encourage their kids to be annoying to their partner in a relationship, and when you mention it to the partner they flip out and start picking on you and playing misleading mind games?

Nice video. Som How To Know When To End A Relationship?

I used to listen to him a lot. Now I realise he's never to the point! What are you saying????!!!!

I want some hair

How about feeling the need to show up differently to please everybody? What’s that about?

Been married for 9 years and my answer to all those questions was no. 😭

I was so scared to click this vid but, again, JP speaks the truth! We don't need all the caveats about truly abusive relationships. I am SO grateful that I never threw away the opportunity to grow as a person by listening to someone I know loves me tell me something that hurt my feelings. ❤

Been married 33 years. God only knows how!!!

Great questions!!!

😮 eminem interviewing Dr. Peterson

2 and 4 hurt me more than id like. for me the most important is, do i see this lasting long term without real problems? thats usually the deal breaker

Weirdly specific question: What do you guys in the comments think about finding aspects of your partners accent/dialect irritating? Do you think it’s okay to tease/playfully mimic the aspects you don’t like in order to show you find it irritating, leaving it up to them if they want to try correcting or not?

Edit, I’m meaning very specific phrases, for example my partner is more northern than me (UK) and instead of saying ‘time’ she can sometimes say ‘taaame’ - to me this sounds really ‘common’ because throughout my youth it was always the ‘rough’ boys who spoke like this and no women did. ‘It’s lunch taaame’ ‘Ey up It’s Play Taame’

Amazing how words like love and trust and loyalty never seem to appear in the vocabulary of you guys, who only see relationships in purely transactional terms. Two ignorant men pretending to be in possession of the trust.

The question in the title does not go answered, great video nonetheless.

My partner told me to watch this and i got nothing from this

it's the manscaping ad at the end that does it for me

What makes someone like this scam artist believe he has any right to say crap like he does.

theres nothing to small to fight about o boy

Dear @JordanBPeterson
In the interview, you dealt with the question of what potential abandoners can do about their dissatisfaction in relationships. While your answer essentially boils down to a change in the partner's behavior, I think it would be more promising if the potential quitter himself changed his behavior: First, he could look for constructive explanations for the partner's unpleasant behavior (partner is guided by positive motives but suffers from anxiety or stress) and focus on supporting the partner (putting aside his own offended pride, thinking about how to help the partner). Secondly, he could focus on positive interactions or the positive evaluation of interactions with the partner instead of looking for causes for his dissatisfaction in the behavior of the other partner. Thirdly, he could consider whether he is simply going through a crisis of life or meaning that has nothing to do with satisfying his social needs in the relationship. As a person who has always been abandoned and is looking for alternative solutions for the potential abandoner, the question naturally arises as to where my error in thinking lies? Thank you for your insights.

Arguments and a thousand arguments are fine.. I drew the line when they'd yell and argue loudly in front of the child.. a child NEVER needs to see adults behave like that.. how do you think they will act????

Dude... this is one of the most insane and perfect 11 min on internet you can find. I LOVE this kind of Peterson, you throw something at him and he just make MAGIC and PERFECTION for 11 minutes. Dude... this is out of this world value. Everything is so perfect and in place. I almost never said something like this: I am 100 % in love with every one of TAKING this situation. THAT is how the fuck you take something and you said: you want to see my GOD LEVEL? well.. here it is

Impressive stuff. Impressive.