It's TOO LATE to get your life together in your 30s

5 minutes straight just talking about yourself instead of giving advice

Yeah, it’s good to know that I am not the only one who has a life that is so messed up. Hahahaha. At this point, I don’t even know why I am still alive.

Im 40 though. Is it too late for me since im no longer in my 30s?

It is NEVER too late

Well I guess I’m a lost cause because I’m 40 and absolutely nowhere with nothing to offer. Neat. A bum..

My 20tys were for Rock and roll days 🎉

I spent my 20's as an addict and a gamer. I spent the majority of my 30's getting myself together. My 40's are going well.

45 and still went nowhere

I was married from 21 to 30 that was my downfall...

I saw your BJJ video about comming to accept the facts of the good and the bad,seeing this video and the comments also makes me feel alot better knowing that others also are struggling and triyng to improve themselves I resonate Alot with you all I'm about to be 40 soon and havent done alot, but pushing and keeping it moving , I think it's interesting that I ran into this video I feel much better! thank you Dorian! not sure if it means anything but you just got yourself another subscriber! thank you all again! and stay strong everyone!

Im almost 40.. you words might ring true 😅

At 28, I'm jobless, lacking any discernible skill or experience. I didn't spend my 20s partying. I battled depressive thoughts and past trauma alone, unable to seek help from a therapist as I can't bring myself to discuss my past with anyone. The last decade feels like a prolonged nightmare from which I've desperately tried to awaken, never fully living in the present moment. I don't have any dreams, ambitions, or purpose anymore. Even the thought of trying to change things exhausts me. It just feels like it's too late for me to start over from scratch now. But thank you for making this video. I'm sure it has helped many people restart their journey in the pursuit of their dreams. <3

alot of us silent majority are done blaming our parents, now were just looking at the daunting phase of starting somewhere, knowing we have the potential and slowly working our way up. thanks for the video, happy for you and the other men in the comments with success stories. too many havent made it

You look so young though! Thank you for this video.. i think its just what i needed to hear..

C v

Almost 30, almost to lose my job again (never managed to get a lifelong contract, only seasonals)
And I have no one to help me with money. it's hard and I don't know if i can make it this time. Wish for the best.

Spent my 20es getting the hell out of Russia, dropping out of PhD, and then slowly realizing over the span of 5 years that my marriage was super toxic and largely contributed to me recovering from depression way slower than I would have otherwise. My therapist + finally learning how to drive despite my husband's horrible style of teaching helped me find courage for divorce. Now me and my new boyfriend of 1.5 years are both about to turn 30. He's done lots of mistakes in the past, and still pays for these mistakes to this day, but overall the trend seems to be positive. I do know how to code but never was employed full-time in the official capacity in US IT. Fingers crossed that my boyfriend's dream of saving up for the house is not as hopeless as it currently seems. Can't say my 20es were totally wasted - getting out of Russia alone is already quite an achievement - but can't say they were super productive either. The first few years in particular I was turning into a lifeless vegetable on a semi-daily basis.

Hello. Thanks for the nice video. I am 31 years old now. I am Japanese. I entered my thirties without having accomplished anything. I am thinking of giving up on my dream and getting a job. I made up my mind when I came across this video.
I have never found a job, so I have been attending a vocational training school since last December.
It is a programming school.
I have managed to do my best until today, but I can't keep up with the pace of the classes, I feel I am inferior to the students around me, and I lose confidence every day.
I am scheduled to graduate in April, but I am not sure if I should quit the training school. Should I quit? Should I quit or should I try harder? I think I'm learning a little bit about programming if I take my time. However, I am not able to keep up with the speed of the classes. What should I do?
It is hard every day. Can you give me some advice?

There are things you will miss out on if you wait too long for them. But that doesn't mean your life is over, or that all potential is gone. Working out for instance becomes harder and harder to see results. Learning new skills requires more mental work. Injuries last longer. Mental faculties sometimes suffer. Old friends and family will drift away (or pass on) and if you don't maintain those relationships or form new ones, you can find yourself pretty lonely if you aren't careful. And if you haven't invested in skills that are marketable, careers won't just take off simply because you are older.

But again, that doesn't mean there's no hope. You can leverage your experience to help get you through things a younger person simply would not be able to navigate, and for many of us, we find the willpower and the purpose we lacked at a younger age. You can learn new skills, learn new habits, and improve yourself. And for me at least, having a solid sense that time is limited is a particular kind of motivation.

As a job seeker struggling to stay committed to the industries I've invested in learning about/working in throughout my 20s, it is interesting to see just how many institutions/options there are for getting into a new industry, if only I can learn to accept the psychological/intellectual obstacles I need to get past in order to compete with other job seekers for more meaningful work than the job I currently have

Ive wasted my 20s and now im 36 ive never had more money in my life than i have now

Alternate timeline where eminem is a delinquent and learns to code instead of rapping.

Thank you

I’ve just turned 25 and lost my job again a week before. I own my own home but not much else so makes it pretty pointless. I’ve been working on my bounce back yet again of course, but still find myself saying aloud “ I just don’t know what the fuck to do” big love to anyone else, stuck in a perpetual state of dissonance at the moment 🫡

It always doesn't work like this.

I am in the same place in my late 30s. I just want to hug you right now.

God this hurt…..
Did I waste my 20’s? Nope. In fact I’ve been working in Neurology since I was 24.

However, I still feel like its all been wasted time. Looking for a new career start and no one wants the skills I’ve developed over 8yrs. So im looking to start over as well. 🤦🏼‍♂️

I know virgins who didn't get laid until they were in their 40s. I also heard a reddit store of a woman who didn't get married and find companionship until she was 37. She had a kid by the man, but wound up getting a divorce 4 years later. I'm pretty sure I can sit here and list on and on about how people only found success after they were older than 30. So...In other words, no, it's not too late.

I'm 29. Addicted to porn, never had a relationship, 0 social skills. The only thing I could do is that I'm doing a PhD and have a scholarship, but anxiety, procrastination, instant gratification, unmet social needs and learned helplessness are making me fall behind (I don't read as much as I should, I don't have the infrastructures, etc.) and feel like an imposter. There is no cure for porn addiction. Once an addict always an addict. Having a girl, attracting a girl, even talking to a girl without being too nice and polite seems like a thing from another world that someone like me could never do. I think I've tried everything, but I always backslide, and I'm in complete despair cause I can't improve, I have escapist tendencies, sabotage myself, have no self-control, so I'm completely lost. If I started working hard today I would succeed, but if I continue to live like this I will fail. I can see no future, frankly - I know myself - I've been stuck for 10 years, trying, crying, making stupid efforts just to end up doing nothing in the end.

Orphaned at birth to Soviet Union, single at 32 but grateful for life! Anyone else in similar boat?

It's not possible for everyone

"Watches video"

"Insert 'Guess I'll die' meme"

My problem was the choices I made, the kind of ppl I choose to date, spend my 20s dating, trying to find love and trying fix daddy issues girls that only take me to the worst things I lived in life, ended alone, and the chicks, just goes to another guy as never knew you. I moved on with one of these girls, we lived together for like a year, I lost my job, fucked my credit, she dump me, and I have to get back to my parents house. Drink, waste money etc. Got this family thing that your brothers are all married and you the only one that don't... I'm getting crazy.

Severe abuse robbed me of anything approximating a normal baseline life until about 32. If people want to complain about others being too old to turn their lives around, then they don't get to complain when their severe lack of empathy and their intellectual laziness gets their asses killed when the people they wrote off when they needed help most start suffering mental breaks and lashing out at them.

What was that old saying? "The child who receives no love will burn down their village to feel it's warmth." Or something to that effect.

The whole get it together by 30 thing doesnt apply in reality. Colonel Sanders of KFC failed at everything in his life until his 60's. His success came when he thought he was just making ends meet selling his own take on fried chicken. May not be what he wanted, but it came. Perseverance and consistency are the secrets to success.

Some of the biggest names in history started late 20's early 30's. But what do they know. Heh.

What an inspiration. Although I knew how to code and had job skills to get a job, I had no luck getting a job that I deserved and that could have made my 20s a decade which I accomplished my goals. I blame the job recruiters and the socieconomic conditions of the time. I got rejected perhaps more because of subjective reasons rather than objective reasons. God willing, karma strikes those job interviewers and my university counselors for making go through years of despair, stagnation, paralysis, and mental illness as a result.

Ironic now people feel like they wasting their time time going to college now that everybody is freaking out Ai might make white collar jobs obsolete

Life ends for a woman at 30. Life begins for a man at 30.

How did you manage to buy a house in your late 20s working customer service / odd jobs?

32 and no idea where I am or where Im going. Feels like rock bottom, failed 4 apprenticeship interviews. Idk what to do or where to go. I am also currently in a failed real estate career aswell...fml

And if you are just 50, have no friends, wife, or career?

For a such long time, i was my own worst enemy... Tahnks for this video, im brazilian trying to change my life

Yo, hitting thirty's scene, trying to make a change,
But folks throwing shade, calling you strange.
Said you could bounce back, flip the script real tight,
But some still calling you a loser, ain't that right?

Life's like a mixtape, beats all around,
Resilience like whispers, no need to frown.
Comeback vibes strong, at the thirty's door,
Yet haters linger, judgments galore.

But hey, hold up, don't wear that tag,
"Loser" from others, just a drag.
Progress ain't just what they see,
It's in the heart, where dreams roam free.

Life's a crazy story, chapters untold,
Each moment's a thread, a tale to unfold.
Progress ain't just on the surface, it's true,
It's in your soul, in what you pursue.

At thirty's crossroads, change the game,
Measure true, let go of the name.
Comeback not just in the race,
But in your spirit's unwavering grace.

It's not for nothing that some cultures said that life started at 30.

That would just mean 80+% of the world's population are this.

You have no idea how you helped me

How about 48? No, I'm screwed lol.

It all depends on your perspective. For some, spending all your time gaming might seem like something a loser does, but personally I like games more than real life. Reality is just... disappointing. I consider every moment I spend gaming a win and will do so until I die of old age or other circumstances.

Thank you for this video. I'm freshly 33 and still living at home with severe mental health issues, rotting away by playing video games. I'm finally addressing my ptsd and trying to get my life into gear. It's slow going but I've decided I'm going to volunteer to work on my social skills and then want to study. I found this while trying to give myself a pep talk and that I can't give up now even though things feel hopeless. I needed to hear someone else's story and the comments here have been so inspiring. I need to be kinder to myself and know everyone has to start somewhere. Wishing everyone else here lots of luck with getting themselves together for a happy and healthy future. 💚