Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids with Dr. Laura Markham

This was an awesome interview, I feel it relates to the book Hunter Gather Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff that i’m reading right now. Awesome advices.
We have to give space for the child to feel a part of the family, to become a helper, do his part, have that connection and explain differently rather than give orders and punishment etc.

This makes so much sense my baby is 5 I want to be better. Thank you for this!

"It's not a mistake if you learn from it."

Thank you . Thank you for providing real life scenarios and how it should be handled. Very helpful ❤

I love Dr. Laura Markham and keep recommending her book to everyone. 9 years ago I read Peaceful parents, happy kids and implemented the strategies and I am so grateful for that 💓. The hard work and extra effort that I put in during those early years of parenting are really paying of. Now I am refreshing my memory in preparation to do it all over again :)

This episode was so helpful. One, for me, in remembering to be gentle with myself. I am now a single Mama. The 2 kids see their Dad, but he and I have different parenting styles. I am finally realizing that, instead of worrying/ trying to control how he parents, even just me practicing gentle/respectful parenting will help them. I will be gentle with myself when I have an off moment & will always come back to repair. They are two beautiful little souls, and I am so lucky they chose me for their Mama.🌟💛✨️

Pleeeeeeeeeeease, I would love a spanish translation of the video and books!!! There is so little translated for parents in Latin America..

Wonderful podcast.. Great wisdom from Dr. Laura..Thank you for this learnt alot..

Amazing, inspiring. I love how Dr. Markham goes into specific vivid examples that really bring the concepts to life. I'm watching this on repeat!

The absolute best podcast I’ve listened to on my journey so far!

This is such a good episode Ellen. Thank you so much for this exchange on such hard topics in parenting. 🤍

I needed this 😭🫶🏽💫

😭 My inner child and my 3 boys thank you Ellen and Dr Laura.

This is NVC. Non-Violent Communication, a model created by Dr Marshall Rosenberg. I came across Dr Laura Markham 8 years ago when my girls were 4 and 8. I LOVED what she was saying and KNEW I had found how I wanted to parent BUT in those moments of conflict everything she was saying disappeared from my memory. I couldn’t remember what to do. So I couldn’t implement it. Later I discovered NVC. Again, I loved it. I wanted to use it for my disagreements with my husband but, again, couldn’t remember what to in the moment. Lately, my husband and I have begun each morning reading from one of Marshall Rosenberg’s books each morning and FINALLY it has sunk in. Finally, I can utilise it in the moment. You may find it useful to explore NVC because it gives you four steps to move through to resolve a conflict. Dr Laura demonstrates them but doesn’t give them the names used in NVC. So it’s very hard to access in the moment. The steps are: 1. Observation 2. Feelings 3. Needs 4. Request. I loved this video. Thank you so very much for hosting and posting it. Dr Laura is gold. ❤️

This was such an amazing podcast!!!! For the first time listening to real examples and play out what to do when things dont go “typical”. Such a valuable bit of information !!!!!! Thank you for this!

Thank you for this. My family doesn't have the best connection or had even a strategy to help with sibling fighting. I have two children and I don't want them to have our dysfunctional same sibling relationship. I love my first born son but he does share a feeling of being not liked or loved. Thank you for this so I can repair my relationship with my first born.

What would you suggest doing when my son threatens to hurt me (slam the door on me or roll the window in the car up on my head) because he’s not getting his way (I told him I would need to come with him to walk him to the line for his first day or school but he wants to go on his own like his big brother. Even after telling him I can keep distance so I can watch him but he can do it mostly on his own. He didn’t like that and threatened me. He’s starting jk in September). Or in other instances, when my son is angry with me he will hit or squeeze me with his nails.

I’ve seen this picture: while mother is affirming - I see you want that speaker, and I wish you could have that and bla bla bla, the kid meanwhile totally destroyed someone’s speaker. 😂 That’s a nice example of discipline!

Wasn’t expecting how personally healing this would be to my inner child 💕

Love you Ellen you are such an inspiration soul❤️ iv been watching you for many years and you always make my day a better day love you all the way from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤

Might be my fav one yet ellen!

Just finished this ! And wow!! Thank you for having her on your show ! So insightful ! Loved this !!

You're very inspiring, Ellen.

This episode helped me so much. I sent it to many of my friends and family. Thank you so much! Ellen Fisher your podcast is 10/10.

I have a just turned 2 year old and am 39 weeks pregnant. I love the concept of positive parenting but thought it was more permissive and have seen first hand it being permissive rather than true positive parenting.
This was such a beautiful explanation of positive parenting, it came at the perfect time. Thank you for this 🩶

Wow! I think this is the best parenting podcast I've ever heard! I feel so much more equipped after listening to this. And I will definitely be looking more into her work.

Oh my god!! This is like finding free gold. Wow. Thank you so much. ❤️
P.S. I would love to see an interview with destini.Ann who has a really similar approach.

This is amazing!
I'm pregnant with a baby girl. Something that came up with me and my friends is the topic of sexual abuse. 1 in 3 women are sexually harassed or abused in their lifetime. I'm so excited for a girl but I'm already scared of putting her into the world.
I'm really curious about how we can raise awareness and children and what we can do to protect them and give them the tools to know how to protect themselves. This would be a great topic for a podcast! Because even if you are a perfect parent, you can't always guarantee everyone will treat your children right. I'm wondering how I should approach this with my girl as she gets older. Much Aloha! 💛

Amazing podcast Ellen and Laura ♡ you are both so radiant and loving ! Thank you for your advice ☆

I'm a strict parent, and I'm definitely seeing the behavior in my teenager. It's been rough journey 😔 it's hard to change.

This episode is so beautiful - was very therapeutic for me as someone who was raised in a “conventional” way and hopes to raise my kids in a more gentle way. Thank you Ellen for all the positivity and love you bring to the world

Amazing video! Thank you! Invaluable information 👍

So spot on Ellen and Dr, thank you so much for this. I believe that you really do get better at parenting 🤗❤️

I'm not even a parent, but I did just start a nannying job and I found this so enlightening!!

I love Dr. Laura so much and literally google “[Whatever parenting issue] Aha parenting” all the time haha
I love that you normalize the fact that these scenarios get significantly harder with each child you add to the scenario. I felt like I knew all the things and then adding a crying baby in the background, once I added my second son to the mix was roouuugghh! Basically it’s learning, re-evaluating, and practicing self compassion all the time ❤
Also I keep editing this but I love what she said about getting more relaxed with each kid-made me lol-and I have never heard that before about the oldest child having it the hardest with all your neuroses being worked out first with them-so interesting!

I have been following Ellen since she had Elvis so pls consider me a huge and loyal fan.
This is not out of spite at all, I'm sure/hoping Ellen knows this already, but everything on this episode is referring to Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen, which i am very familiar with as I've completed the course and read her books.
It's a shame and confusing that there is no mention of her whatsoever and this doctor teaching her approach is taking a lot of credit for her. Fantastic presentation but if anyone is interested in the original and much MUCH more, do look her up! Highly recommend the 52 Positive Discipline Tool Cards especially.

I have read Dr. Markham's Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids book and always love and appreciate her advice; I enjoyed every minute of this podcast, thank you!

This is so important. I hid EVERYTHING from my parents when I was a teenager and felt more afraid than connected. I craved that connection and really went down a bad spiral for many many many years. I used to beat myself up over the choices I made but now as an adult I see I was just searching for that connection…anywhere.

I’m a mom of two toddlers now and all your episodes are extremely helpful :)

Ugh I wish I could pick Dr. Markham’s brain. She really does offer some of the most practical solutions. The situation she talked about with trying to juggle dinner and fighting and meltdowns would be very triggering to me. I would love any advice Dr. Markham had about how to handle the energy and noise level of kids if you are very prone to feeling overstimulated. I would just have a mental breakdown in her dinner scenario.

I would love to hear Dr. Larry Cohen on the podcast, Ellen! I have found he has some amazing advice for every situation too. Very practical like Dr. Markham but always focused on how to make life more playful.

Lovely 👪

This was great! I've listened to other podcasts that talk about this same approach to parenting but not cover nearly as much information and not go into as much detail. I've really liked learning about this style of parenting, but was still confused about some aspects of it. Dr. Laura made it so clear and easy to understand. I'm definitely going to read her books

This is incredible.

Siblings without rivalry is a great book to get into more depth about siblings. To add to the conversation- comparing siblings is what magnifies rivalry. There are occasions where it’s good to explain to the kids why the exact treatment cannot be given to every sibling at every time.

The absolute best parenting podcast I’ve heard in a long time!! Thank you!! No I need to re listen and take notes!

I got so excited reading the title of this ! I loved her book . Grabbing some coffee and listening . Thank you ❤❤❤

This episode is a gift! I’m sharing with everyone! Thank you!

Oh Ellen, you did it again. Such a gentle approach to talk about something so important. Thank you for bringing Dr. Laura Markham to the show, I am amazed and overwhelmed. To me, the biggest take out is: the new era is made at home. A new era of loving, caring, gentle, honest and conscious beings will exist when we get down on our knees and be just like that to our kids. And with that we might even cure our own inner child. I saw myself in the many of the examples mentioned on this episode, and how I wish I had had space for my feelings, and felt so safe around my family... So much would have been different... But its not late for my 2yo and my soon to be born baby girl. LOTS OF LOVE AND MANY THANKS TO YOU <3