Masturbation: How it Changes Your Personality.

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I feel so numb and harden heart and nolibido? Prob excersise better

And if i am lying... Do a test on how you feel before and after orgasm. Some people might feel nothing. For me... I feel tired as shit. And if i go again... I become very moody. That is why its good to have sex at night time. But again... Its how your brain is functioned... You could sleep and still feel tired (you havent got your energy back) and feel super lazy. Everyone body works different.

I believe... This is coming from orgasm... And not masterbation. Think about it.... When masterbating and not releasing... The person is keeping there energy. But once release... Oxytocin and other chemicals come into play where the person will feel tired and tooooo relax to do anything else. Excessive Orgasm for a man is a gift and curse because of the retractory period. I didnt learn about thia until reading a sexual education book. On average it can take men 12-24hrs to bring the levels back to normal... From orgasm. I would rather feel alert and with realness... Thab busting a nut and feeling tired as hell. Plus feeling moody all the time. Not having the energy to do anything. Us men do not have to cum (orgasm) just enjoy it but don't excessive do it.

for sure and cerebral and to fill the void but also because we were once hurt maybe by rejection but thought forms of lust are also created that push us to repeat the same defect in order to feed

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Hey doctor Trish! I am a 20 yr old. I found the root cause of my masturbation is loneliness specially when I cant find any solution to my problem and talk to anyone to fix it. what do I do please help. I cant share it with my parents and cant go to a therapist cause its expensive in my country.

Makes some people more out-going. Just wish they would do it at their place not mine.

Thank you for the truth 🙏 I am on my way on the right path. I was a 53 year masterbating expert and inslaved in hell.shame and fatigue and no self-esteem. Your counseling has revolutionized my life. God bless you 🙏 ❤️

literally explained my personality. i feel incapable of deriving pleasure from simple things so often that i always feel like im rushing through life. other people can be in engaging conversations, but i find no interest very often in engaging. my mind is always looking for some way to get sexual release.

Wooow... That makes so much sense.. Thank you so much. I have burbout now and i cant masturbate.. And im actually grateful. 6 months without it now. I feel much better
Thank you ❤

Now and days there are some things you have to do your self, because no body is going to do it for you. Ugh.

was chronic wanker then turned to drink now utterly mad

I keep hitting like in all your videos Trishy 🌹❤️💐

It has recently become much harder for me to sit down talk to my mother or my family. Now I know why

This is an absolutely brilliant point. "Self-soothing technique" is such an accurate term for many teenage males. Addiction to dopamine hits coupled with a sense of secret shame becomes a vicious cycle. Wow. Self care vs. self soothing is another great distinction! Thank you for this great channel!

Great video and information about this habit. Which has affected me for years. And I believe are connected with gambling addiction and alcohol as I've indulged in all three. Thank God I found you Dr léigh here in u tube. I never knew what was my problem or what was causing my problem s with motivation. Self respect esteem etc. I've stopped alcohol 7 months now as this was leading me to gamble way too much. I've slipped a few times with porn but now I know my problem and reason I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. To all you guys who are in the same boat as me hang in there it will get better. Thanks again Dr léigh for your help

I have a porn addiction the more I do it the stronger it gets I blame bullying when I was a kid I need help

Psa , and ra has helped push me towards escapism hourly

I was so skeptical at first but I told my high jacker to back off a lil and my love for science took over , happy thoughts about love and body are great and all but chemicals rule our universe , reality often sounds harsh

This is great information ma'am. Could you make a video on how porn altered sexual orientation?

Also, do you certify people?

I also want to make porn related content as you do but for my own community here in Uganda. What's the best way I can learn about addictions but from a neurological perspective?

I love masturbating its nice feeling

Thanks Dr Trish for your concerned medical advise.

So a brain without masturbating looks like yours? Nah, I'll skip that, thanks!

I’m 50 and I can honestly say it’s the single biggest issue of my life. I only wish I realized sooner.

"I just don't know which (name) I'm going to get." Is what the love of my life told me when we broke up, welp!

A big problem for me is...because I have masturbated for so long and it has affected my performance with women...I don't have confidence that I'll be able to perform so I avoid women all together so that I won't be embarrassed and frustrated if it doesn't work. This has ruined my life in many ways. It's best to never ever touch myself sexually or watch p orn and make having real sex with real women my ONLY option. Lust is insatiable. and it's impossible to love a woman as long as I am only seeing her as an object and not a human being.

Bullshit. This is nothing more than shaming others for something that is natural. This sounds like a sermon not science. Propped up right wing bibble babble and I doubt your credentials completely. Doctor my ass. An actual neuroscience would discuss the neuroscience of it and guess what chickie poo....the neuroscience is still out on the topic. We don't carve up brains to actually know and the studies that could lead to anything being found out about it are actually not in high funding. These kinds of things would be expensive to actually scientifically study and you would need a large sample size. Sure you could do a semi-rigorous sociological study of people's behavior and if it makes them mal-adapted, improved upon, or determine that there is no connection. But those studies aren't actually being conducted are they? Ever seen a large formal study anounced and being discussed and shown on the news?

Where are your scientific journal articles? Where is your data? Where is your scientific rigor? Where is the neuroscience to back this up? Where are the linked studies and the peer review on this?
Where is your degree and show it to us. Give us your educational background and show us the hypothesis you tested, the number of test subjects, and who funded the study.

Right. You can't and you won't because you are pseudo-science pandering for a right wing faction. This is academic and scientific dishonesty and propaganda at it's finest. And I impune you to actually back up anything you have to say. Any of it. Show something that is proof or data or analysis.

Hogwash in it's finest.

Same kind of tripe when people were attacking things like a roleplaying game called D&D and other things like Rock & Roll. Same old "refer madness" bullshit.

I'm calling this a flat out lie. It's a made up issue to bring people into your fold by having them do "testimonials" and buy into the hogwash on the right.

It's also extemely unhealthy for science in general for you to posture yourself by making broad and unbacked assertions about things. That is a thyper typical of christiantiy in general.

I'm calling bullshit with a capital B that anything you have to say is even remotely scientific or even backed by medical data. Don't throw any "anecdotal" evidence from a few examples at me. That is NOT science. Back it up lady. Show us the medical harm.

Mostly all you have is nonsense and the NIMBY mindset. You want to shame others and GASLIGHT THEM.

So yeah, a good wank at some dirty pictures won't kill you.

If you want to be a Catholic and shame masturbation just be a Catholic chickie-poo.

Porn and masturbation devastates our personality and turns us into a sexually disabled person

I also have mood swings when I‘m hungry or sleepy… how get rid of that

Thank you

Yes trish ... I believe sometimes environments play a role in that .. I still go through it, but i have been Masturbation free siince January 2020!❤🙏

I actually started before I can remember, it was already a regular habit by kindergarten (of course, it was physically a bit different then, but it was the same habit). I started using images (clothing catalogs and such) around age 12 and then "graduated" to real porn when I got a computer (late teens). I'm in my 40s now so my brain has been hooked on this habit for a very long time. It's always been a coping mechanism when I feel bad and simply a craving even when I feel OK. I've tried to quit countless times. It's hard to even imagine what your life would be like without it when you've been doing it your whole life. I'm single, no kids, I don't know what my future will be. I don't think I could be in a relationship even if I succeed at quitting. I empathize with anyone struggling with this, it's extremely addictive.

Please, please, please stop automatically blaming families. Yes, some families are bad and may well set up the children growing up in them for all for all sorts of addictions and other harmful behaviours.

BUT NOT ALL FAMILIES ARE DYSFUNCTIONAL!!!

You have to define family dysfunction so widely as to involve very, very ordinary and NECESSARY behaviours, e.g., "yelling", "shaming", "guilting".

Since when are any of these behaviours ALWAYS a bad thing? If a child does something wrong, shouldn't he be shamed, part of which is bringing about a feeling of guilt in the wrongdoer? It would be an error NOT TO tell the child he had done something wrong. And you really believe that children can be raised in environments where they NEVER yell at each other? You would be setting children up for huge falls with this coddling mentality. Even parents yelling at their children are sometimes justified. Or should they calmly utter the following, "Timmy, darling, high voltage electricity running through wires at even moderate amplitude can be awfully harmful to a person so, be a dear, and at least curtail the speed at which you are running toward those fallen power lines"?

As for where masturbation addiction comes from. Well, as I said, maybe genuinely bad (dysfunctional) families increase the risk, but it can hardly be said to be the only or main cause. The main factor is the new phenomenon of easily available porn and a nervous system that is evolved to seek available sexual encounters and seize them when they appear. Showing pictures of the best looking women in their youth, in huge numbers is a good start to kick starting this habit. And why would a man's nervous system abandon this new strategy once the habit is entrenched (something, you, Dr Leigh, point out)? We can all access more beautiful women than even Genghis Khan did, way more. Then, when that burns out our Coolidge Effect circuits, we just move on to ever more bizarre kinks, and the internet will do its best to serve. That's a lot of weight given to the bird in the hand, no wonder men are not seeking the lovely, real, but more ordinary, bird in the bush.

You don't need a history of family dysfunction, you just need to have a normal brain and access to the internet. Here's an example.

I know a man who grew up through being very popular at school, college and university. He had two siblings who are also bright friendly people, as is his mum and dad. They are a picture of a loving gregarious family, with a wide circle of friends, who have always pursued healthy, outdoor activities. He had a beautiful girlfriend who he had been with since 15. They were both decent athletes. He was a medal winner in his cohort at a decent university (i.e., he got the highest marks of the whole year for his science degree). He moved city to pursue a postgraduate degree. The new social group contained people who enjoyed cocaine. He tells me he just tried it one night, after some drink when his rowing team had placed second in an important competition. They were celebrating doing so well, against odds all season, but were of course disappointed not to have pulled off the ultimate coup. It was that simple. From then a decade and half of addiction to cocaine and alcohol. He lost his beloved longstanding girlfriend and became a shtty, miserable hedonist, totally squandering the opportunity his great brain granted him and his conscientiousness had earned for him.

He finally recovered through the 12 step Narcotics Anonymous (NA) program, and became a father at 40 with a woman he met at NA. He now has a modest small business, which he held together through the despotic, Big-Business-friendly lockdowns, without falling apart and lashing out or snorting charlie. At no point will he tell you that his addiction had anything to do with his family. He will tell you that that this is not just a 12 Step, NA tenet of accepting responsibility, even for bad things done to you. He has examined his life in the exquisite detail that the 12 Step programme demands (step 4, I think), and he has nothing but gratitude for how loving and wise his family have always been for him - you think they didn't yell, shame, guilt and even bully him when his addiction was making him into an un utterly obnoxious arsehole? The answer to the cause of his addiction was his gregariousness, openness to new experience, agreeableness and a nervous system that contains mechanisms of reward - oftentimes this is all that is needed. Cocaine highjacked this.

Gabor Maté makes the same mistake, it's all about childhood trauma. It sometimes is, not always. We should stop doing families a disservice; there is no perfect, we can only try our best to be optimum. Families are the optimum way to raise children.

Oh yeah. I most definitely have this problem

If we were dealing with the Cartel pushing drugs (that destroy lives) into the country, we would all be enraged at the criminal element that perpetrate such destructive actions. Yet, we tolerate Porn to some spurious end. Nothing good ever comes from this hideous industry. Lives are ruined on both sides of the camera. And like the Cartel who push drugs, Who are these individuals that profit from the addiction and suffering of so many people? I realize that this horrid industry will never stop. However, those that generate such material and its destructive nature should be exposed to a greater depth.

Long time addict! My sibling became a successful doctor while my life went through extreme ups and downs due to my personality changes. Was even arrested and had to atten d anger management clases but was not aware of the cause behind everything.

I was 11 and trying to stop just from when my dad passed away when I was 13 it go worse just you talking about it’s turning me on 🤦🏾‍♂️

I like thai ladies watching me till i cum on face chat. But no porn. I am divorced and my wife would not let me maserbate.
So now i am loving life. It feels so good. I also take vitamins for healthy/more sperm and erections. I shoot real hard , it is great. But i do it too much and my penis hurts.

Porn makes you objectify people more.

is no pmo effective even we are married and have sex sometimes?

My personality Type is Ecentric Sencing Thinking Feeling Judging the overseeing type! I have looked at porn and masturbated the past year in moderation one too three times a month to every other week. Do you think this is healthy in integral sense? What can i do too transmute my sex energy discriminatly. Why i feel so terrible is I think its cause of being on too many anti-psychotics which dirupt your brain chemistry in the long term. Especially SSRI's and ant-psychotics which inhibit dopamine amd serotonin function which cam cause alot of pain in a person.

I have been struggled for long time. Your vdo change my life. Thank you so much. ❤

Masterbation doesn't change your mindset just stop lying to the people just stop it you don't know what your talking about

How do I deal with sexual frustration

Why do I get frustrated and angry when I don't masturbate/orgasm

NO worry. Just dont ejaculate and watch porn. Tantric is for pros like me.