THIS breaks your trauma bond to a narcissist

Thanks for this

❤ exactly! And I am much better now!

Nice

I’m in the hate.

Thanks, Danielle. Coz it's so hollow......

When I slide into my moments of rumination and ennui I like to dig a little deeper. Rather than just accepting, "Yeah, I'm just thinking about this person. There it is." I like to take another step forward and ask myself, "Why?" I don't get down on myself and say that I shouldn't be thinking about them, or I regret this, that, or the other thing, I just ask myself, "This person is on my mind, why? What is happening to me right now, emotionally, psychologically, physically, what have you? Sometimes when I am having pervasive thoughts about my ex I dig a little bit and realize that there is something else going on with me that's real and most likely has nothing to do with my ex. After suffering through the mess of narc abuse your wires get so crossed and it has happened so consistently over a long period, your brain can start simply and automatically associating the anxiety, depression, loneliness, hunger, etc, you are actually feeling at the moment with thoughts about your abuser. It makes sense, their abuse and behaviors have negatively affected you over a sustained period to the point where it is easy to equate every negative feeling or thought you have to your abuser. Instead of ignoring, rejecting, or even accepting these thoughts, dig a little deeper and see if your mind, soul, and body are trying to tell you something real but are focusing it through the negative association you have about your ex.

This is so hard to do. I’m a month and half in from 12 years married with kids. Seeing her when sorting out child exchange is so hard

What is "PD"?

Thank you for telling me it's OK to feel how I do. The narc left me, saying, in effect, I wasn't good enough for them and was holding them back in life. I'm getting on with mine better than the narc is with theirs.

There's some awesome advice scrolling through the comments in this post! ❤
Many have been through it, and are telling how they did it, and what to expect, offering tips and some very helpful advice!
❤ Thank you!
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It's like the toddler that craves attention so he acts badly because "any attention is better than no attention". 😮
So if you refuse to give attention-- they see that those kinds of tactics will not work, (at least not on you.)

yes yes yes - thank you so much

So good. So helpful. So needed. These videos are a gift. Very thankful I found them! ❤🙏

I see I’m not alone in this healing journey. 🤗

Could you do a video about gaslighting and how to overcome it.

My narcissist just reappeared after 25 years, stirring up all the old stuff. I found this video intelligent and helpful. Thank you!

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Very poignant and relevant words for me thank you for sharing it helps reduce the self-doubt after 6 years I've been in a relationship I didn't realise what was happening until it really damaged me. Life is good and just getting better now I'm free of her. Thank you for posting this video.

Thank you ❤

Thank you. This is the most helpful video about leaving a narc that I have seen in a long time.