Tips on how to handle a NARCISSIST

I cannot walk the thin line. I've been pushing for two years and decided to finally withdraw from the entire situation.

Would love to see a part 2, this was great!

When you're in a group setting, what are the underlying causes for acting differently?
My coworker diagnosed with BPD does it as well, and I've been guilty of it myself on occasion though I suspect the reasons may differ across the respective CB disorders, and even between individuals.

I think "reading people" (as well as potentially misconstruing "motives") also runs across all CBs. I'd say it's the hypervigilance that sharpened our senses to it.

I wish I had this knowledge earlier so I could have dealt better with conflict. Thank you for creating this video, Jacob.

Great video!

The wounded animal analogy is brilliant... and great video, super useful!

Yeah... that wounded animal thing. That analogy is perfect.

Such an incredibly intelligent way of putting all of this, I'm amazed every time!

One of the most frustrating things for me is the self-splitting when trying to address problematic behavior. Bring up the thing and the NPD (or BPD, HPD, etc.) goes into, "I'm a horrible person! I'm sorry for everything!" or "I'm hurt because I hurt you!" both of which derails the whole conversation because it's now about the PD person being hurt, not the thing you wanted to address. What do you do with that? I'm at the point where I have very little patience for it. My approach lately has been to tell them that if they continue that sort of behavior to avoid the issue, that I'll walk because I want to deal with the problem, not baby their ego.

The last words my mother ever heard from me were, "You know what? You are absolutely correct. You are a horrible mother and I hate you. You win. You get to be the martyred parent. I hope it was worth it." I found out shortly after that that she announced to everyone she knew that I was being written out of her will...something I'd asked her to do multiple times. The only reason I feel bad is that I knew I was giving her exactly what she wanted, served up on a silver platter.

Very insightful

Thank you for these videos... very helpful🙏🏽

Wow!! Such a important and useful video!! Thx you!!

Quite fascinating to hear about your relationship with your friend, thanks for sharing with us

You are killing it with the metaphors today - "like kings of two different nations"

Thanks for your great content as usual 😊

I'm in the hovering is over phase and it sucks at work.

Invaluable. TY Sir. 💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🎯🎯🎯🎯✅🙌💋

I’m wondering if you can shed light on any personal experiences you may have experienced pushing romantic partners away. For instance-The phases of “ love bombing” (is it real or manipulative). Devaluation and the discard.

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I̲̅ w̲̅a̲̅s̲̅ s̲̅o̲̅ t̲̅i̲̅r̲̅e̲̅d̲̅ o̲̅f̲̅ t̲̅h̲̅e̲̅ l̲̅i̲̅e̲̅s̲̅ a̲̅n̲̅d̲̅ r̲̅e̲̅d̲̅f̲̅l̲̅a̲̅g̲̅s̲̅,̲̅ n̲̅o̲̅t̲̅ u̲̅n̲̅t̲̅i̲̅l̲̅ I̲̅ w̲̅a̲̅s̲̅ g̲̅i̲̅v̲̅e̲̅n̲̅ a̲̅c̲̅c̲̅e̲̅s̲̅s̲̅ t̲̅o̲̅ h̲̅i̲̅s̲̅,̲̅ m̲̅e̲̅s̲̅s̲̅a̲̅g̲̅e̲̅s̲̅,̲̅ t̲̅e̲̅x̲̅t̲̅s̲̅,̲̅ c̲̅a̲̅l̲̅l̲̅ L̲̅O̲̅G̲̅S̲̅,̲̅ e̲̅v̲̅e̲̅r̲̅y̲̅t̲̅h̲̅i̲̅n̲̅g̲̅!̲̅!̲̅ T̲̅h̲̅e̲̅n̲̅ I̲̅ c̲̅o̲̅u̲̅l̲̅d̲̅ s̲̅e̲̅e̲̅ i̲̅t̲̅ f̲̅o̲̅r̲̅ m̲̅y̲̅s̲̅e̲̅l̲̅f̲̅!̲̅ T̲̅h̲̅e̲̅ n̲̅a̲̅m̲̅e̲̅ o̲̅f̲̅ t̲̅h̲̅e̲̅ p̲̅r̲̅o̲̅f̲̅e̲̅s̲̅s̲̅i̲̅o̲̅n̲̅a̲̅l̲̅ i̲̅s̲̅ M̲̅A̲̅X̲̅W̲̅E̲̅L̲̅L̲̅P̲̅E̲̅T̲̅E̲̅R̲̅S̲̅O̲̅N̲̅_̲̅C̲̅R̲̅A̲̅C̲̅K̲̅ O̲̅N̲̅ I̲̅G̲̅

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What is your zodiac sign may I ask?

I don't understand how narcisisst can't feel guilty when they for example cheat. Your partner is yur closest friend, almost a part of yourself. I'd keep thinking about what I did, couldn't look that person in the eye anymore. But it's a very interesting condition and a good channel !

Very interesting video. Can I ask you a thing? You said, you respect a person more, who shows no fear around you, but what specifically do you mean?

Do “normal” people tend to show some fear or uncanny valley reaction around you? Or do you mean “walking on eggshells-behaviour”?

I’m actually dating a guy who mentioned this also to me in a very surprised manner “oh you show no fear around me, interesting”. He also shows narcissistic traits but always treats me respectful (till now). But this comment gave me a weird feeling.

And I don’t understand what it means (I’m autistic lol)

Newsflash: you’re still deeply narcissistic

I trying to find a point, what i can use to do help, but i try to convince myself i can't save anyone while i want. 😢

Best is to go no contact. Especially when there is abuse.

You know... hearing your testimony is like hearing the confession of someone who has hurt me, it sort of eases my pain...

How would you propose to handle a narcissist that is in a position of power over you?

What do you mean by “don’t back off”? What does “backing off” mean in this context?

Thank you for sharing this, I needed to hear it , very helpful 👩🏼👍🏼🫶🏽🍁👋🏼

The best way to handle them is ….Don’t‼️It’s best to leave them be. You’ll ruin yourself tryna connect with them or “save 🙄” them. Save yourself it’s actually self love.

Funny, how a narcissist will date a group and not a person

This is a beautiful channel it’s brave and really useful information. Especially for me who has had multiple narcissists in my life finally understanding has been really helpful. Thank you.

I've found that if you stand up to thies people, people that you are around long term, others are shocked that they still talk to you,is about respect that you call them out quietly.

I’m just business like and if there is a NPD tantrum or manipulation-I do what my doctor said to do with a tantruming child- step over them and walk away to do other things. It works. ( I think this is what you mean by not backing off.). Unfortunately in the love department, women don’t want someone to treat like a child and that they have to fight for their consideration. Women will follow a sacrificial man anywhere. Those men are High quality and top shelf.