The Unfair Advantage That Introverts Have

I remember when I went to Thailand. The sound of silence in those Wats were so peaceful. I worked in a company and these loud men were so irritating for me. I realized I was an introvert. I have nothing to prove to anyone. I don’t like attention seekers. Thanks for this great video. Namaste

I've noticed this myself over the past year actually.

I used to try and take advantage of My happy moods when they would come up. Trying to be productive or have fun. However I would burn out essentially and then kind of be left bankrupt for lack of a better word.

I learned to sit with my positive moods and just be grateful for them instead of trying to use it as fuel and now they last longer

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You can make your own mantra: write down your goal in positive language (don’t use negation) and in past or present tense ex: “I wrote a book.” Cross out repeating letters: “IWREBK”, re-arrange if it’s too close to original and break up into smaller words: “BRI KEW” & if it still doesn’t sound pronounceable, add vowels: “BRI KEWA”

Now you have a mantra specific to your goal.

Oh lord so funny and honest. GET TO WORK, don't just fantasize about it. And don't wait until tomorrow to start. Today is TODAY! TODAY comes before tomorrow! I gotta drink my own medicine. Make it Ginseng.

I don't know if talkers and doers are mutually exclusive al the time. Elon Musk is a big dower and has a big mouth.

You're saying, extrovert is, "ALL TALK, NO ACTION!!!"

Disagree.

😅 I thought he said "Mumra" the first 2 times. Thundercats '85 kid here 🖐🏿

Masahiro Sakurai recently posted a short video about the same concept, but he calls it Internal Pressure instead

I like talking about what I have already done or has already occured that way I have energy for tasks while not draining my motivation. Rejection of a truth that has been proven in my eyes is fuel for the tank

This is something I’ve noticed and have been doing for a while now. I keep my hobbies and future a secret from absolutely everyone even family and I go out of my way to hide evidence of those hobbies and goals. It’s lowkey tedious but I still think it’s the right decision in the long run

Awesome video to sleep to
Didn't even listen at all what he said but pretty good for sleeping. Cheers mate

This is why women love guys who say "I love you" instead of the guys who actually take care of them.

Damn that's deep and I love it.

It is insane that I’ve been noticing this case a lot lately. Sharing what you’ll do diminishes the motivation of actually doing it. As an outgoing Introvert (Ambivert) I have experienced this countless of times in mostly art domains since sharing with others your creative ideas is key. But on multiple occasions I would start a project, work on it for a while, and then deem it worthy of judging. I get positive feedback, incredible support, heck even excitement for the final product. What happens right after? Bam, my motivation straight up vanishes. It took me a while to connect the dots but oh it is so real and now I’m keeping as much to myself as possible. It sucks, yeah, but I have gotten all the proof I need and as much as I love sharing my work in progress with my friends, I prefer saving that energy to actually complete whatever I’m trying to do in the first place.

As soon as you talked about venting out negative thoughts I understood that it goes the same for positive thoughts.

Fascinating! Suddenly I'm happy to be an introvert. Thank you for freeing me from the social pressure to become more 'open' :)

Introverts: focus on the task at hand, might get side tracked by themselves in-between projects.
Exptroverts: talks about the weather for 8 hours and then realize they haven't done any work for the day.

Can't tell me I'm wrong.

There are some people who feel the strong need to please others or to fulfill their expectations, in which case telling others their plans makes them feel pressured into pulling through, in case questions be asked the next time meeting them. Now, I phrased this a bit negatively due to my belief that this is rather unhealthy, but for the folks for whom this is the pathway to following through, this is a positive, a tool. A weakness they use to get ahead. It isn't exactly rare as far as I can tell.
It's worth considering speaking on this topic imo.

I've personally always felt as though speaking about such stuff rewards me prematurely without having done the deed, so hearing this actually be a thing, and it finally being spread by Dr. K. makes me quite glad :)

If I have talked alot will it disapere if I stop and will my goal energy come back?

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Another great piece. Completely agree with the point on 'fizzling motivation out' by engaging in any form out external communication. One could argue, this is in part due to partial reward we expect from peers due to commiting to a collectively respectable goal. This can in theory hamper the anticipatory reward amount. Kinda like, scooping into your desert before finishing your main course vs saving it for the end.

That being said, a counter also has merit for discussion. That is, declaring / talking about your goals externally has shown to help towards maximizing chances of success if only to save one's face/live upto your word or expectations of your peer which in turn feeds into your self-identity.

To resolve, the answer as always seems like "IT DEPENDS!". It depends 'to what END' you're engaging in external communication. If the goal is to sap micro-gratification / appreciation towards supposed respectable / lofty goals, it will hurt more than help while a healthy engagement to establish some version of external accountability can help more than hurt.

As always, thank you for the thought provoking content!

Keep your poker face strong and keep your cards to yourself. As a fellow introvert my mind constantly thinking. Think twice speak once. Listen twice talk once.

As an introvert, I usually don't tell people about my goals because if I fail and they ask about it, they'll be disappointed. Instead if I told them a year later for example "yeah so I learned a language" the thing would already be done and I would skip that unbearable valley of 'I have to do the thing I told everyone I would do, now I'll fail and be so embarrassed'. This works for me. I do tell my husband usually because he's not easily impressed and knows what's up lol

I was in a college writing class a few years ago, and I would always get really frustrated spending a whole hour or so being on Zoom (this was during the height of the pandemic) talking about writing and writing strategy because I always felt that I could be using that time and energy more efficiently by actually writing. Now I know why I felt that way.

Well... At least life has given me something...

The people who took away the most from this video, did not stop to comment.

It's now kind of a paradox.

What great advice. Those tantric gurus must really know what they are on about.

This explains people like Elon Musk, who talk and BS about how they are going to do everything but never actually do it.
Eg: flying sight seeing trips around the moon by 2018 and having a base on Mars by 2025. Good luck with that.

This is great! Thanks!

BTW, verse 56 of the Tao Te Ching seems to have a very similar message.

Wonder what my problem is then... I rarely talk to anyone, especially about my goals... most days I still lack any form of motivation. 🤷‍♂️

I literally process everything by talking about it. And I actively barely do anything. This is wild. But how do I process negative thoughts and also still keep the good thoughts in

Wow super insightful, subbed so hard, cheers dude.

Even better when you have both traits and can switch between them.

This would be so easy if people didn't give af about what I was doing with my life. Either in social gatherings or even just family, everyone always wants to know, "So what are you up to?"
Like I don't wanna talk about it, but of course telling them nothing means, "Oh so you've got nothing going for you."

Does this apply to talking to yourself as well? Sometimes, well very often in fact, I talk myself through what I need or want to do because hearing things outloud (at least for me) can help me find faults or problems in a plan.

This video reminds me of Houtarou Oreki. 😊

I was expecting something more like "an easy out to any social situation or conversation" I am terrible at leaving when I need or want to

Save this unicorn at all costs!
As an introverted person drained with all this noise, "shut the hell up" was priceless!
Thanks Doc.

I have noticed that at times i have talked about something then suddenly i don't feel like doing it even if i was talking to myself yet if i think about it i don't lose motivation but instead i gain more motivation

Eventually the build up makes one spring into action and do what they were thinking about

Wow, I noticed this too. Great video, I couldn’t agree more.

I talk about my goals because then it puts pressure on me to follow through so that I don't disappoint the people I just hyped up with my big dreams

Whoever comfortably uses the words introvert or extrovert in their daily lives as if it's eating and breathing am here to find a hoby. There's nothin gratifying about any of this please find something to waste the rest of your life on

قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم استعينوا على قضاء حوائجكم بالكتمان

“It is part of a Hadeeth (Prophit Mohammed’s saying): Literally, it means: Seek help to accomplish your demands (needs, requirements) through confidentiality. The meaning is that you can achieve your demands if you kept them confidential.”

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