Do All Polyamorous Couples Think the Same? | Spectrum

Better to be polyamourous then to promise a mangoomoue relationship and cheat

Polyamourous people do what they do in an ethical way

That last question makes me curious about whether there's a fine line between the concepts of "polyamorous relationship", "open relationship" and "swinger".
I mean ... it almost seemed like some of them were more in an open relationship. ... and that last statement seemed like it could basically just evolve into a monogamous, but swinging relationship.

Sounds like “needs” means sex.

this is so weird… how do u tell someone they’re “out of your league” next to your wife?

How is both not wanting to have children, selfish? It’s just one of the two options I think. And it’s even better if you both agree

Polyamory is disgusting and not normal.

Dr. Justin is great, I would love to listen him talk and analyze about polyamory or anything else more

I would love if they did a follow-up after 5 or 10 years, so see where these people ended up.

I love cha cha, jimmy and summer I follow them on insta

I'm glad there was the question about cheating. I've experienced dishonesty, hiding of information, and boundaries/agreements of the relationship being disregarded, in terms of my partner hooking up with someone else. To me that was cheating. My partner at the time would've just had to be forthcoming to me about what happened for it to not be cheating.

I'm 3 months into a quad poly relationship. It's had a lot of bumps and bruises but def worth it. The only thing is my wifes family has completely abandoned us...literally shut us out. I told my dad and he was cool. At least we have him.

People in poly relationships should not have children 🤦‍♀️

When has this ever worked

the birth certificate thing makes me want to petition for tracking genetics on some new document. as someone who doesn’t know their father, the missing medical history is a big detriment in some areas of my life. glad poly couples can all be on the birth certificate but we need to adapt our documentation alongside this shift.

Opinion tiiime!~~
You can cheat in a poly relationship? :
When you first enter a healthy relationship boundaries SHOULD be set. These boundaries, while far more lax than say a monogamous relationship, have the same (or similar) repercussions of stepping outside of them. Someone defying them and willfully going outside those boundaries IS cheating.
You get into a relationship with someone. You determine the things that are okay and not okay for your partner to do with friends. Someone does something in the relationship that was previously discussed as not okay. How is that not cheating?

This was definitely an eye opener 🤔

*Dyadic, for the closed captions, not "diotic". Thank you for this great video! (And "cheating" means breaking the agreements of a relationship, whatever those agreements are.)

As a poly i believe that it’s not cheating if I love them all equally

When you have children who pays the child support when you guys divorce? It in which state is it even legal please be specific I live in malinois and I'm a father

And they think gay and straight is confusing imagine if you have a child? Would you want the same thing for them children are very influenced by their parents or whatever you call a polyamorous relationship person. And I mean that seriously I don't know the acronyms or pronoun or whatever it is and I'm not trying to be rude I really don't.

This makes no sense to me whatsoever it seems like you're lying to yourself about everything and all these new definitions no offense it doesn't make any sense to me I don't mean to pass judgment but this one I can understand free to choose do have a great life

I can’t imagine how complex a polyamory divorce could be

The throuple with the 2 girls and 1 guy is one of the most stable and healthiest poly relationship I've seen

Maybe religions aren't that bad after all

Quick reminder that bigamy (being legally maried to more than one person) is illegal and considered a felony. It's unfortunate that the law still favors traditional relationships and I hope this changes someday.

To me, breaking trust in a relationship is the cheating when it comes to both parts being poly

I don't think polygamy or polyamarous relationships should be normalized its not normal

What if one wants to break up with one of them but still dates the other... And the other dates the other one still...

a bunch of d genaretes

The throuple with the guy & 2 girls were so insightful! I loved learning from all these people

You definitely can cheat in ANY relationship, poly or not, if you disrespect boundaries or lie. So saying it's not possible to cheat seems like an excuse to not take responsibility for all your relationships.

I would like these types of episodes to be way longer. 30-60 minutes or more.

Nah, it’s selfish to bring children into this world when you can adopt.

Due to society views my mother had to say to her partners that she's "sexualy open", and ended cheeting on them, 3 divorces, and her children were here to listen to parents arguiging, crying etc.
If Poly-a was known and accepted when she was young, she could have a word to express her way of thinking, her way of loving, and maybe she would have been able to find partners who thinks like her.
Maybe my sisters, brother and I would have suffered less. If the woman who raised us had been free to feel. Not locked up thinking she's crap.
We'd live so much painful moments and i'm sure if poly-a existed, we would have had a most loving mother, and not a sad, angry and scary one.

That's one of many reasons I would say having a chil in poly-a relationship is not bad.
Bad parenting can happen everywhere. All it takes is a lack of love, a lack of respect, a lack of communication.
If a throuple is zen, peaceful, loving for their child : then they would be great parents.
The importance is the quality of love given to child, not the quantity of "how many parents"

but polyamorous relationships by definition is cheating...

A lot of them keep talking about their “needs being met.” As if people can just be used to meet their own needs. The people you love are not there to serve you and meet every single one of your needs. It seems selfish. It’s kind of gross to use people that way. It’s like “Oh you aren’t meeting this need I have and aren’t doing enough for me so I need to go get another person emotionally invested to fix this urge I have.” People aren’t like medicine you can take for all your different problems. It’s seems emotionally exhausting and selfish.

these types of relationships seem so healthy, as long as you communicate you can all be happy and find the amount of love and various needs from multiple people without the risk of heartbreak

I never feel like I'd be in polyamorous cuz I really don't want to "need" people to fulfill my needs. To me all needs in life, mentally, like love, courage, confidence should be attained by myself. The other needs like financial ones or substance aspect, I should be able to take care of them on my own. So basically I don't start relationships easily as I can mostly take perfect care of myself. Relationships only take place in my life when I see another girl (as I'm a lesbian) that does the same and sees me as me, not because of my social status, money, whatever. And to me what relationship really means is to experience, to grow and complete what seems merely possible in life in a pair. So polyamorous to me is to do the things above to different people at once which is impossible to me and I don't need it, and it should never be needs fulfilment to me.

Yo, when that guy said that the rest of his partners were disposable. Ingrid looked so sad. I wonder how she’s doing.

I clicked on this video because I find polyamory to be strange. I still do. That’s my opinion however. Anyone can do it it’s not effecting me. Unless ofc it was my ex that asked to cheat on me with someone else. These people remind me of my ex so much. I don’t want to think like that but it’s just there, you know?

Feel like with the first question they didn't understand the question. The question was "DO you get jealous when you see your partner with their other partners" and they answered disagree somewhat disagree and strongly disagree, but then said they get jealous but suppress it... So that isn't "not getting jealous" it's that they do get jealous but they know how to handle it..

Who got ingrid ig she fine

I understand it, i just don't agree with it.......

All people involved should be really enthusiastic about this type of relationships. Sometimes it happens that someone agrees to it just because they are obsessed with one person and willing to do anything to stay with them. And when it’s like that it’s really sad. (Not blaming anyone in such scenario)

Never even knew what polyamory was. Learning a lot.

Open relationships and polyamorous relationships are two different things.. also polyamorous people should not invite children into that lifestyle.

Justin sounds kinda like Pete Davidson, they have the same energy