The Path to Reconnecting with Yourself and Living Your Best Life

We hardly seldom pay attention to ourselves; instead, we focus on things like work, relationships, etc. For so many of us, trying to please people or acting in a way that we think is necessary to obtain their love, respect, or acceptance is an ongoing struggle. The true question that we should all be asking is how to reconnect with ourselves.
If you haven't discovered out how to connect with yourself, living is a difficult and frustrating game. Because contentment is not a function of what we get or how people see us. It shapes our identity, manner of life, and moral character. Others may take away all of your "things," but they cannot take away who you are. You must develop self-love if you want to live a happy life.

It is allways about being disconnected with the trueself. But it is never said how to reconnect? Do i miss sth.?

I was really hoping for something profound here.

The authentic self is never lost . Change is the one constant in life .

Gabor Mate is a rescuer to my identity crisis. Just love this man, also Carl Jung, Bob Hoffman and Robert Greene. They have helped me alot.

Wow. Incredibly eye-opening! Thank you Dr. Gabor. You help so many. You are a lightworker.

Kind of difficult to even discover who you are when medical issues have , for years, forced you to rely on someone else for pretty much everything. And getting worse.

When I read these comments, I realise how truly blessed I am by God, because he gave me the most wonderful parents. They always loved me unconditionally. They cared for me by tending to all my needs, physically, spiritually and emotionally. I was the fourth out of five children - a girl who came after her three brothers. The fifth child was my sister who ended up being a long term drug addict. I think she could have suffered trauma from another source that we were not aware of. She initially had ADHD type learning problems. Then she showed symptoms of emotional lability (?manic-depressive bipolar mood disorder). At college she came into contact with cannibis, the gateway drug to other stronger drugs. Although she finished her studies successfully, she did not pursue a career.
She used drugs daily and started living a sexually permissive life. She didn't marry but had three lovely children. All this time our parents provided for her and the three children. My parents purchased a house for her, more than once. The three children were placed in foster care by (others initially) and then by me. She learned to survive on the streets to support her drug habit. She was taken in by christian ministers to help her to come off her drugs and to develop another lifestyle. At one stage she just leaved!

She also stayed with her financially struggling daughter and husband for a while. Her behaviour caused separation again.

Most of the time we don't know where she is or if she is even alive! The cellphones we have given her were either stolen or probably sold for money. So contact has become less and less.

And now the second generation victims, her children, are young adults. At the time that the three were living with us in foster care, one disappeared by running away on a regular basis. The other one left us just before writing his final matric exams. Both "found love" in their boyfriend/ girlfriend's lives and parents' homes. They could not recognise or accept the love and care my husband and I had given them all these years (10+ years). We didn't have other children so we treated them like they were our very own children, and fostered them with love,fairness and equality. They knew they were welcome to stay long beyond the official foster care age of 18 expired. In our country, foster parents placement usually only lasts 2 years or less before the foster parents or children give up, but there are exceptions, as in our case. The oldest of the three stayed with us until she was a working adult getting ready for marriage, from 12y to 23/24y. She moved out to become more independant and married about a year later.

Now something interesting has happened. I think married life with children was not all she made it out to be. It was tough as neither one of the couple was earning a stable income. They depended a lot on the help of close family on both sides.

It is now 6 years after they got married and three lovely children later. The couple decided to take their children and leave ALL family on both sides behind, and go live elsewhere at an undisclosed place, changing their cellphone numbers and keeping NO contact whatsoever! They said we may not try to follow or contact them, or there will be consequences for us, meaning that we will not be able to have access to our grandchildren. They have done this to my daughter's mother in law for many months.

This is heartbreaking, as we have not only lost contact with our oldest daughter, but also our three precious grandchildren. We are missing them terribly! All hope we have is that they will make good on their word when they said they might contact us in 6 months from them leaving.
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Thank you so much for explaining this. Very good timing.

If you need another human being to reconnect with yourself ,must be something WRONG.

Dr. Mate 's insight is awesome , so Enlightening... 🙏❤️💕💐

My addiction counsellor guided me to Gabor only yesterday, five solid weeks I am tortured by body pain due to trauma held within…..20 years of holding my breath and staying silence and I’m manifesting my trauma in my body ……unable to heal and be authentic is the most pain I’ve ever felt ,
my body is hard as a diamond….and I’m not treating it with compassion!


I listened to Gabor for a tiny little 3 hours last night and my first ability to drop my shoulders finally hit the right part of my brain 🧠

I’m finally travelling “home” to my true self and somewhat comfortable by being aware that it is killing me ……only looking forward to healing and freeing my mind ……I simply could not thank the stars above for this start to real recovery……no hurry felt …..pain slowly lifting and honesty with loving compassion for the self willingness to learn and surrendering …..I’m grateful 😇

Foster homes don't yeald friends, y I have none , weed ! & ty 💝

The problem is corruption in all colours in the post-1945 world. veto to ghetto! ban coca cola and all toxicities (nutri/med/plastic/nukie etc.)! long live democratic pantheism!

Thank You ❤️🫂🙏

My husband tries to tell me to change. That I’m supposed to be the way the Bible wants me to be. That he hates my personality and I need to change it. I’m not changing my personality to be likable by him.

Very insightful, however I cannot understand how someone who has so deeply considered the human condition scientifically can still believe in some form of god. God is a human creation which, like any dependence, is a way of coping with human anxieties and fears.

Well I think if you have lived an authentic life for 30 odd years it's even worse to suddenly be expected to conform to lies it's impossible as far as I can tell but the first casualty of war is the truth.

I find all of his talks very interesting bc i can relate to most that he says. Im told you can blame your parents for your problems even if they did things messed up and caused you trauma. I then took the same trauma that wasnt delt with and has my first child at 20 and my second at 22. I was forced to get married at 17. I didnt realize it then but my children picked up alot of things i wish they hadnt but once i started to work on myself, learn, heal, etc. I can see it more clearly and i carry guilt bc of it. Im trying to do things different and better with my two younger children so they dont struggle in the same ways. I wasnt taught emotional regulation, accountability, or many things bc i was abandoned at 15. Its hard to find therapy with my ins if your not coming out of the phyc ward or they always want me to see the phyciatrist to put me on meds. Thats what caused so many problems to begin with. I was 16 and on 9 different medications taking 22 pills a day. I was completely over medicated to the point where i lost memory, would pee the bed, and was like a zombie. I learnt to take a pill and you wont feel, deal, or heal. I didnt kill myself but i got so lost and never dealt with anything. So fast forward 10-15 yrs and i realize i have no healthy positive coping skills. I went off of all the medication at like age 19 but i developed an addiction to other drugs. Im grateful to be 6 and a half yrs clean. I still struggle but im fully aware of whats going on and im in control of my body to where as before i wasnt. Im rambeling but best of luck to anyone sick or suffering. I pray you get the help you need and dont give up. Things have gotten so much better.

gut feelings are our treasure😊

Thank you.. awareness in this dissociative state has been easier the more I connect within.. community though.. so hard to muster the wanting of breath, let alone life, without community.

You're amazing

Wish I heard these words 20 years ago. 😪 Thank you

I knew there was something wrong with me. Glad I decided not to have kids so I dont pass this crap along

Love the name of the channel❤❤❤

The placeholder images are so annoying. It would have been so much better to just look at him delivering the speech.

The background music is so annoying. It's giving unecessary emotions on some facts spoken by mr.gabor making it cheesy

😭♥️ thank you

Perfectly put thank you Gabor Matè 🤣

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I chose authenticity, I chose me, at a very young age. For some reason, I have always been incredibly sensitive, aware, conscious of me, of everyone and everything. It has cost me dearly. It has cost me many relationships, including family members, friends, jobs... I have felt very lonely for a the longest time, alien, weird... and yet, at almost 50 years of age, I am glad I chose me, and proud of myself.

Thank you ❤ ego seems terrified to be authentic self, never remember being that, think i was younger than 2yrs. Lost 😢

This is a game changer - I hope it reaches all those in need to hear and comprehend this message. We are powerful beings, being gifted with the ability to work on ourselves and make those necessary changes to evolve into our true potential. Wishing wellbeing and the Strength and Courage to become the most authentic version of ourselves. Much Gratitude for this one, Namaste 🌈🌟

Nagyon szeretnénk magyar feliratot is 🙏 Köszönjük ❤

U said Lack of Information ..insecurity. ..nobody ever gave me Information 4 years. ..Isolation. .its the cruelest years of my life. Abondoned.

Thank you so much for this ❤

The biggest stress is to be who you are not.

Dr Gabor Mate , is a gift to us all . Thank you ⚘💐🌺

Thank you Gabor ❤

What if you have an adrenal tumor? that causes blood presser problems? I have that fight / flight responce when I have a minor issue... I have become a recluse, because of the stress hormone. I need your help. they will not operate to remove the left adrenal in Australia.

I have been on this path (of Recovery) for many years. And Thank You Gabor, you are the most dynamic (cut through the rhetoric ) “right to the heart of the matter” Teacher - I have ever heard. My adult son is suffering from the same malady I grew up with - Generational Trauma. I’m glad I can share the information with him - but he “can’t hear it from me”. This puts me in a heartbreaking conflict. I want to Help - but I can’t help…..how do I live with that ?

It's all well and good but it seems to me like dr gabor keeps saying "poor victims, poor poor victims" without ever giving people the impulse to change. Truth is, changing bad habbits requires a lot of time and energy and most of us are just unwilling to put in the effort. Feel good psychology like this is thin as tissue paper.

It took me years to start separating all of the mess from childhood. These days. Each hurt has its bin.. if Trash or a growing pain. I love your teachings.

Thank you

God bless you for explaining addiction and addicts..the judgement and callousness of friends and family keep the vicious cycle on going…no compassion for the why the person chooses to numb or escape is a cry for help…it’s a disease…the harsh judgement makes you feel unloved unworthy and perpetually keeps an addict stuck. If you’re truly concerned for the addict know this be of service have compassion. Thank you again Dr. Mate ❤❤❤

Change is the one constant in life ❤

Everything is an opportunity

Be yourself. Every one else is taken.

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