7 Habits That Are Slowly Destroying Your Confidence

I would say it's better to be self-critical than complacent or delusional. I think people gassing themselves up is a way bigger problem than having an ability to acknowledge one's own shortcomings. But yes, there's a fine line between nitpicking vs genuine critique.

Most people's immediate reflex is to gravitate towards what's easiest because human beings are inherently lazy. We all want quick solutions to complex problems without having to do any of the legwork. It's part and parcel of our psychological orientation, unfortunately.

Life is unpredictable at times, so you can't necessarily blame the person for neglecting themselves depending on their unique circumstances. There are moments where we're forced to sacrifice our routine to meet a deadline or to attend to an unexpected emergency. But I do agree in principle. However, I loathe the term "self-esteem." To me, this is just an undeserved ego boost.

Procrastination is more so linked to the lack of discipline than it is to confidence. If you're unable to override your urge to stray from the task at hand, you aren't unconfident but undisciplined.

Modernity has caused people to lose the ability to practice gratitude and to constantly compare themselves to others. Life has become so easy, and we live in such abundance that we're now fixating on other people's lives rather than focusing on building our own.

We tend to overthink our decisions because of the paradox of choice. There's so many different options to choose from and so many different avenues we can take that we no longer feel satisfied about whether we made the right choice. It's actually more of a luxury than a problem.

Man is a social animal. I would say don't invest solely in the opinions of others, but don't shut them out entirely either. We have an innate craving of acceptance by our peers because we evolved as tribal creatures. If you only rely on yourself to validate your accomplishments, that can also be a gateway to narcissism.

Super important!! I love this simple advice reminding us what underpins success❤

That`s a good video. Thx!

We all have strengths and wacknesses

Hi Courtney,
Does your advice only apply to men? Don't you think women need confidence to choose the men they desire rather than wait to be chosen.Please advise

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I'm living the result of the bad habits. I can testify, it sucks, I'm pulling myself together after a divorce and losing 2 jobs in a month. Listening to old country songs just aint it.

I considered this a check list and some of these things dont even apply to me and i handle the rest with grace so i must be doing great lol go me

I like when Courtney start saying “welcome to my channel” her channel, her content, her decisions… none of us is here by force. Why some men think “well this is wrong I have to say this and that”? 🤔

Definitely over thinking

Self criticism, remember the late great Rodney Dangerfield? He got famous with self deprecating humour, though these were probably jokes, I cannot help but think it cannot be faked and there was some authenticity to his humor that made us laught, that and a bag of cocaine before the show. Haha.

Obviously and extreme version but yes solid video, great advice, Courtney.

Thanks for the content. Your videos have helped confirm some of my existing habits and highlight areas that can benefit from work and improvement. I really enjoy your channel and am also a fan of your partners channel too 😂

After seeing dozens of videos like this I'm starting to think that women just want the perfect man. "Don't do this" "do that" "improve this" "don't improve that"..
I guess the old "just be yourself" isn't enough.

I'm confident I don't care.

Hi there. Been watching your content for quite some time but I wish you could make videos regarding approaching women in 2 scenarios: 1) if the woman doesn't speak the same language as you, 2) if the woman is on the phone or listening something on the headphones

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Gentleman invest in yourself trust me you will not regret it. Today's modern western women are in most cases not worth it ( something this woman will not mention ) I have two friends who have gone overseas for decent wife material.

Hey, Courtney! I like your videos. There's just one thing that's a little jarring for me - it feels like you're being a little too... loosey-goosey with your English. It's not a huge deal, just something I've noticed.

Even though I'm a introvert I still try but when I get nothing back in return it's hard to keep trying and continuing. I have confidence.

In my teenage years, I often resorted to extreme “jestermaxxing” to cope with my low self-esteem and social awkwardness. This included using self-deprecating humor, downplaying my abilities, and making jokes at my own expense, all in an attempt to gain attention and validation from girls. However, if you want to earn respect from your peers, avoid falling into the trap of being a “jestermaxxer.”

I’m the king of negative self talk and comparison.

Great advice!

I lose confidence every time I look in the mirror lol

I started crying when you talked about trusting myself. Although i have accomplished so many great things over the last couple years and things look great from the outside, there are some things from the past like failures that still haunt me even though i am not thinking directly about them. I need to work on this

I think, your channel was given by AI two or three days ago. So I learn little by little, day by day watching your episodes. I didn't heard most of the ideas that you have described here.. Amazing personality..simple but gorgeous appearance...today I can say one thing. one day I will be your top 1 fan.

Confident men place no faith in women. Only in themselves. You can be a tall, rich, world famous quarterback and your wife will still cheat on you with a jiu jitsu instructor. Confident men maintain the ability to walk away at any moment, anywhere, for any reason.

I struggle a lot with self doubt. I just feel I am never good enough. I always look at my faults which far outway the the good points. Many people also frequently reminds me of my past mishaps and faults. So I am not in a good space at the moment. No women would want someone like me anyway.

To the men complaining that female rejection hurts their confidence: THE CAT DECIDES WHAT MILK IS GOOD. If you want women to want you, become irresistible to them.

The Thing Is No Matter What I Try And Say To People It Doesn't Seem To Work, Might Have To Move Back To Plymouth. I Need A Girl In My Life To Change Things Up And I Think I Might Only Get That If I Move Down To Plymouth. I Don't Understand When I Mentioned About Sagittarius Women And My First Girlfriend Why It Seemed Courtney Might Of Taken Offence To It. Very Strange. I Need More Sex Than I'm Getting With Smoking Hot Girls, Like For Real. This Is Stupid

Social media is the downfall of good solid relationships, and marriages. Because of a the high standards everybody is looking to be taken care of and not loved you have to be 6 foot 7 make 500k a year look like Chris brown and have a 17inch penis those are the narratives that social media has pushed on a lot of the women

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My self worth comes from Christ and Him alone! Nothing in this world can compare to the worth I have in Christ. Nothing can fill the void like Christ does. Praise Him! :)

I'm only just recently realizing I don't trust myself. Learning to do so seems a herculean task, and it's adding to the overwhelm.

Muhammad Ali: "I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion'."

"I am the thinker of the thoughts, not the thoughts themselves"

Hi Courtney. Being easily swayed and setting too high boundaries for myself are my current big flaws. From consistent mind changing to getting down on myself over very minor things, I’m sure this damages my confidence and it’s my 2025 goal to work on being more independently minded and not so easily downed.

I'm in my sixties. Every time I watch one of Courtney's videos about being your best self, I'm amazed at the wisdom coming from the mouth of someone so young. Listen to her, guys. More important, listen, and then act to follow her advice. Another fantastic video, Courtney.

Confidence is appreciated if you are Chad or Tyrone. There is a reason why 6 feet tall, wealthy men have their way with women. Now we can't all be 6 feet tall, but we can put forth the effort to make as much money as possible. This is what women truly want. It sounds harsh but it is true.

Wonderful.

Hello, Courtney!
Thank you for good useful information.

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Thank you for making this video. Really enjoyed your insights into the topics you discussed. unfortunately, i can see myself in some of those though this year i have been trying to change who i am a bit by first taking a course to refresh myself and back into the workforce. Obviously, it is stil a work in progress but a goal i look forward to achieve and succeeding at!

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A lot of ppl are avoiding these altogether regardless of circumstances which I would claim is just as bad or perhaps even worse! Everything in moderation as a old wisdom says.

Exercise & working out builds my confidence.

I’m guilty of 1 and 3-6

I agree its a bad sign if a guy is putting himself down all the time. But a bit of self deprecating humor is a sign that he is not an ego maniac, and he accepts the fallout of his actions. Inflated egos always blame shift and will never make a joke about thier failures.
Ladies, you should avoid men that are full of themselves. Women frequently mistake arrogance for confidence. Excessive confidence is actually a sign that he has few real skills and he's trying to hide it.