the 4 stages of personal style

let me know of your very own rule you stick to, to build your personal style!

God i HATED the opening of the video with the cheering screaming children 🤢🤢🤢🤢 literally never do that again

tuba ur skin and makeup looks especially amazing in this video 🤩

source for the study ???????

My rule is that the outfit should look good in actual environments that are filled with other people, and still look good. Because sometimes what you wear might look ok in a mirror selfie, but will look plain and boring when compared to other people.

I have a fairly primitive approach to identifying personal style and keeping a clear sense of it. I look for those sparks, where you only see something once and immediately identify with it. Whether you see it in your mother’s old pictures, on the street, or on the runway - if it only takes one look for you to get excited about it, then it’s probably authentic attraction to the piece or what the piece represents.

I also examine what things I have loved throughout my lifetime and why I’ve loved them. Some things I’ve loved because they helped me portray myself a certain way (motivated by fear and comparing myself to others), and those were unauthentic expressions of my personal style. Whenever I’ve loved something with my heart and soul instead of a motive, it’s more true to me. Like true love.

As I learn more about art and fashion, I hope to develop a more detailed understanding of my style. I’m trying to learn from people who know a lot about fashion, and I’m trying not to get oversaturated with soulless, uninformed fashion content, where influencers are really just competing to show how “on trend” they are, never developing individual fashion identities.

I’m curious why you would use Discord instead of Twitch??

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hearing you talk about these things makes me wanna study and become a more refined individual

hello i love your earrings!! where are they from :)

I actually have a pair of Margiela wedge boots, and the bottoms are glued! For the price point this was very disappointing.

I think for me something that is helpful is to go somewhere and be by myself away from people (even just for a day or two) and get myself dressed. I find that when I have time away from others, I get dressed very quickly and purely from an intuitive place. It's never stressful or difficult. The outfits that I create when no one perceives me feel authentic to what I actually love wearing and I just make a quick note of those outfits to look back on as an anchor.

You aren't too ugly for your clothes even if you feel you are/don't be afraid or ashamed that your clothes are prettier than you, most clothes worth having are/ your current self deserves beautiful comfortable inspiring and well made clothes too, don't waste your life waiting for a future self that may never come (weight-, acne-, career-, success or self steemwise) although be mindful that the way people perceive you will shape your life and could potentially put you in danger and prepare accordingly (or change your environment to a safer one if you have the privilege to do so). Be as happy as you can be now. Of all the miseries in life why suffer for the clothes you choose to buy/wear. Clothes don't own you so don't serve fashion/clothes/trends/societal expectations as if it was an unforgiving master/ You are not a mannequin nor a hanger/ Your clothes should serve YOU: your purpose, your joy, your self-expression, your comfort and your soul. They are not a goal within themselves and shouldn't be purshased just to please people or fill a void/ Retail is in fact not therapy/ The clothes alone will not fix your life id you want a significant change then change significantly/ At the end of the day they are an accessory we throw in the washer... You your thoughts and lived expirience are far more complex and worth a lot more than the clothes you wear/ Clothes take space both in irl and in your brain, don't overfill it. Moderation is key and fashion can absolutely be your drug of choice.

My style rule is to allow the outfit to suit myself and my occasion.

I find it helpful to have a small wardrobe. I came across the wonder wardrobe method in like 2019 and ever since I have been keeping a small and interchangeable closet. It’s crazy to think that almost 5 years have passed since then now. I definitely like my wardrobe a lot better now than I did in 2019. I also enjoy thrifting, window shopping, and searching for gems in the sales section. Having an interchangeable wardrobe helped me figure out what my go to color palette is, how my lifestyle looks/what clothes I actually wear, and how to have more discipline when shopping. Knowing you color palette and lifestyle type makes shopping so much easier. I would recommend the wonder wardrobe method to anyone trying to figure out what your style and lifestyle looks like. Also, you don’t have to have a minimalistic wardrobe with this method, it can be trendy and fun too. Sometimes all you need is one pair of shoes, a necklace, or a bag, etc. to turn a classic outfit into a fresh and new outfit. Outfit repeating is not a crime, it’s called having personal style! So don’t be scared by the idea of a small wardrobe. 4 bottoms and 5 tops will get you 20 outfits! And accessories will make it easier to make your wardrobe grow and change with you and your tastes

Alone on an island I’d dress like a slut 😭 but I understand what you mean.

I was today years old when I found out about Tuba Avalon. life forever changed.

I love that you said it’s always more interesting including fashion into childhood trauma stories— one of the main things I remember when my trauma started when I was 8 was that my mom would make fun of how I wanted to dress constantly. It was 1998, so that was baggy jeans and platform shoes— she called them clodhoppers. Now that those things are back, you can imagine I’m over the moon about it 🥹

Where is your computer desk from? It’s so beautiful!!

do we know where is her cardigan from?

A rule for me is that I only buy pieces that move me, pieces that have soul and integrity as objects (quality and intrinsic beauty). I only thrift and buy vintage designer which allows me to play and experiment. Often I buy a piece because I am moved by jt - the I have to work to learn how to style it in a way that feels like me which is a wonderful learning process. After many years of doing this, I do know what silhouettes/colours suit me and my style for me - and I will still override for a piece that makes my heart wobbly.

Stick to your favorite styles and allow for fluidity beyond that. That means, I will forever wear wideleg pants and western booties - but I also have other categories of more frivolous things that get worn less or cycle in and out of my wardrobe (a lot of it secondhand). So I think it's important to embrace two things: 1. Parts of your style will never change, they may sometimes feel boring to you, but it's worth sticking to what you're always comfortable and confident in. 2. Accept that findind your style is never a finished process. You will evolve forever, the world around you will, and so will some of the clothing that you want to wear and the stuff you surround yourself with.

Just discovered you through this video, and I am blown away. You are brilliant. WOW!

This is so good Tuba!! Thank you!

I would be cautious about the latest Miu Miu collections -the brand is overhyped. This is clearly seen with their latest sneakers. It's a troubling sight when styling dominates the product.

What about inviting designers, both “new” and in your “top 50” list (of those, obviously if still living) to have a brief or long exchange with you in your channel? if not now later, when your channel is still more huge, ad it will be if you continue it). I think certain designers would adore your sardonic, deadpan and intellectual comedic timing….the content and the delivery! (First 1-2 minutes and you’ve done it again in this video, which I revisit a 3d time.) It feels unforced, completely natural. Tom Ford- is HE on that “50” list? Maybe not… I didn’t appreciate him until HE commented on his own fashion work, his road to designing clothes (as a trained architect with few experiences comparatively with clothing), etc. I suddenly appreciated him more (or for the first time?), after I heard him speak about himself…realistically, sympathetically, with intelligence. It was precisely the time he self-funded (all or most) of the film “A Single Man,” saying filmmaking would be his primary focus if he can/could (may/will?). I think he believes he’s a better film director than clothes designer. Similarly, Lagerfeld was intelligent, wrote well, and was dismissive of designers who made grand philosophical statements about the meaning of their collections. Lagerfeld famously said, while critiquing designers with long show notes, and “theories”: “I’m just a dressmaker.”

Your 4 guidelines are brilliant. What really uplifted me is that we are not a product we have emotions and that we have dreams and fears which can be used to influence how we dress. .For a long time clothes just covered me and I used it to appear normal however I'm not (who is) - I love the critical thinking and then the beautiful,chaotic,emotional outburst that you bring to your vlogs - lm now thinking more about shepherds, l'm following you and I predict that your voice and channel will continue to get bigger......keep challenging the fashion world, we need you and they need you.

❤ for the algorithm

I want your cardigan so much, love your style Tuba. My fave silhouette is wide high pants (especially dark raw denim or linen in Summer) and fitted top on top. Of course there is a female gaze, towards other females, who doesn't check out what their fave female colleague dresser is wearing or what other women are wearing on the streets.

It’s not that serious

My uniform would be an oversized white button down in a natural cotton or linen fabric, a black denim miniskort and black, glossy leather mid-calf boots with a chunky heel.

I love how a video about personal style makes fun of people wearing skinny jeans! I say this lovingly, but it always amazes me how deep the need for validation runs in the fashion world, even in videos that claim to be about rejecting trends and doing your own thing. I’ll wear skinny jeans whether they are trendy or not because my body is shaped right for them. People follow trends that don’t work for their body shape, and skinny jeans look bad on a lot of people. Boot cut and baggy look bad on a lot of people too. I wouldn’t wear anything with a long squared-off vertical shape because my body is petite hourglass and curvy. I don’t want to look like a man or a flour sack so I stick with clothes that skim my body and follow the lines of my body. I love my curves and don’t want to hide them. I’m not into the “Grandpas clothes” silhouette everyone is wearing today. If it’s shaped like a cereal box it’s not going on my body! I’ll keep my skinny jeans, thanks! That’s the point of personal style, it’s about what looks good on your body and what you like. All the girls who look awful in squared-off style lines will come back around to skinny jeans. They already are! I’m seeing people on videos saying they miss the silhouette of a streamlined look and they are pulling the skinny jeans back out of the closet. Some people just intuitively know that tapered shapes flatter their bodies. In the flip side, I’ll never look good in a bootcut ever! It cuts my petite curvy body off at the knee. It’s awful and I’m ashamed I ever wore them back in the 90’s.

Can you please tell me the brand name of that sweater and what is made of so I can look for something similar but in blue, gray or pink? The rust color picks up the warm orangish color in your skin and looks great with your dark hair. You look divine in it and the earrings. I don’t have pierced ears or I would be covetous of the earrings, too.

My rule is that I love, love, love color and pattern. So many fashionistas don’t understand color and are afraid of it. I don’t understand why.

I came to a point in my style now where it's 90% set, I know what I like and what looks good on me, I know what I don't like, and I leave some space for experimentation which is now shoes. I feel like shoes are the thing that's holding my style back since I can't seem to balance comfort with aesthetics, especially having reaaaaaally sensitive feet. Even sneakers give blisters 🙄, so it would be great to have some tips on finding quality shoes and how to wear them in

Knowing yourself should be our number one goal in life; it's the key to achieving anything authentic and original. A related fact is the aphorism 'Know thyself,' inscribed in the pronaos of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi in the Ancient Roman mosaic featuring a skeleton alongside the Greek aphorism 'Know thyself.'

It has been there for thousands of years and its one of the most challenging things to achieve in life. While finding your style might take less time, knowing your true self is a never-ending journey because we are always changing and evolving. So, don't be too hard on yourself; you're doing the best you can.

For me, knowing yourself isn't only about understanding your current state but acknowledging that I'm always changing, learning, and evolving. The awareness of this constant change, to me, is the essence of knowing oneself.

where are the earrings from? love them

My guideline is will I still like this item 5-10 years from now? This statement keeps me from buying trends that don't fit into my wardrobe.

Wonderful videos! Thoroughly enjoy your point of view. 🤘

You need to make sections for us to scrub through

My style is very moody like me, it's like playing characters, a form of disguise without betraying my truth. Today, I'm in a biker aesthetic, tomorrow I might become a working woman in corporate world. I don't know if even we can call this style, it just makes me feel good and/or helps me get through hard days

Yes to the male gaze video ❤

love you sweater and would love to know what it is if you can share!

the most impactful video i’ve watched since i started my fashion journey

I’m so curious to know why you dislike mood boards. It’s such common advice to make them.

Know yourself, know your lifestyle. Be honest to yourself about the life you live and what your clothes need to do to function in your life. Cliché but for me motherhood helped me let go of the need to perceived as sexy and I have allowed myself to focus on more interesting aspects of myself style.
Buy interesting silhouettes, even simple things can be interesting and with a point of view.

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number 1 rule.... experiment. Wear something that you would never wear...

first time watching you and love your content!

the uniforrm for my life would be a full rick fit im sorry p.s twin flame gang!

this video is god's work