Signs Your Ex Is Not Over You

just want to say a big thank you Coach Lee for sharing all this great info with us.. your advice and answers about dealing with an ex all come from a place of understanding..kindness... Well balanced... realistic and respectful..

You saying that it is ok to still have feelings with your ex is beyond refreshing... and honestly that's one of the most important messages that everyone needs to know... looked up quite a bit of content about dealing with past relationships... and mostly they always recommend cutting everything off immediately...and pushing someone to just move on...

Credit to you and your channel...

I’m curious, If the relationship ended Why should anyone care whether or not their ex is over them? If we had a calm, articulate, well thought out conversation and I understand, take accountability and apologize for my participation in the failure of in the relationship… there is no need to revisit that failed relationship after it ends.

I’ve never been curious enough to look up, speak to or find out anything regarding an ex in any capacity, I know they’re living their best life out there. Breaking up with someone is never a mistake, it’s an opportunity for growth and maturity for both people.

Hey everyone watching this, I know you feel like your world is ending, but you WILL be okay. I remember watching Coach Lee videos with an obsession 2 years ago, reading the success stories of people getting their Ex back or getting over them. I just wanted to come back and say thank you to Coach Lee (even if it’s a couple years late lol). I got my Ex back and we are married now and have a baby.

In a weird situation I ended things with her but I instantly went back on it and tried to give ourselves the option of staying together but she wanted to stay apart so it feels like really I got broken up with but ig in a way it was mutual I feel like I’m in an awkward gray area and I can’t exactly pay for coaching calls being a college student obviously I know it hasn’t been long enough yet in NC but I’m just unsure of the position I’m in and if NC would be viable in my situation

She also talked about how it’s not worth if I’m not willing to fight for it but I clearly showed I was willing to even point blank said if I wasn’t willing to fight for us I wouldn’t be texting you

Also we were long distance

Where am I in all this?

My girlfriend broke up with me and I texted her once everyday for the first three days asking if we could talk and the day after I talked to her mom over text message and she ignored me but I’ve started no contact after the third day is is too late have I messed it up already I feel like I have cause she’s started removing me on social she blocked me on insta but unblocked me just isn’t following me anymore

She reached out after 3 months. Thanks coach Lee. Going on a date next week.
Thx

Exactly a week of no contact today after a couple weeks of going back and forth. We have dated for 2,5 years. I did the begging pleading taking her out for dinner because of her birthday and bought her gifts. Some emotional gifts so she could remember us. But she was never so sure of her choice untill now. We still have eachother on social media and in the beginning she was all posting in her private story all about living a better life starting jogging as a new hobby etc. But I have noticed that some of that faded away a little bit. I know she is thinking about me and she also told me that after the breakup but she is stubborn and wants to stay firm on her decision and that’s Allright. So I decided to do no contact. It feels a bit better now. She is still in my mind but I have control over it and I’m not emotional about it anymore. But i know she will be back because in the end I tried my best and was overall a good guy. But things started to fade away as doubts started in our head during the relationship. We have never been so apart from eachother for this long. She seemed cold and like she didn’t care but i know for sure that’s a way to cope with her emotions. But i have accepted it and in the end we will see what’s going to happen. The main problem was she had expectations of me to do for her. She was so attached and wanted reassurance but as time passed by it didn’t feel natural for me to do so. So I backed a little bit off because it was to much and that’s where it went left. We never fixed the problem only what was on the surface so in the end it all piled up with no progression. We needed this to know what really went wrong and if we really loved eachother (I did). What do you guys think? Will she come back?

What if your ex is asking your picture while you're not back together

Ive been in no contact after getting dumped 9 months ago 9 days before Christmas almost 3 yrs together. She sent me a criptic one letter text back in June fishing for a response i guess.

Coach can you make a ldr vid.

After 45 days of no contact , she sent me a meme saying it reminded her of me , I am replying slowly and being nice not mentioning anything about the breakup and I am trying to take it very slow this time around , I am actually not that invested anymore after doing the no contact and focusing on myself , if it works out good if not also good … thank you coach Lee without you I would have not had back my diginity and would have probably broken no contact many times if it wasn’t for your videos …. Stick with it guys , I honestly thought after 45 days there is no hope anymore and then it happened out of the blew , stay strong everyone

Oh yes He is , He wasn’t that into Me all along

Does this guy ever smile? 😂😂😂😂

Does no contact work if we broke up due to outside circumstances? She was 10 years younger than me and we were madly in love but her friends and parents dissapproved so eventually she said it was too much and ended it, we had a long 2 week breakup where we even met up a few times and still admitted we loved each other but suddenly one day she snapped and got really cruel and cold although she says she wants to stay friends for now, I have no idea what to do because it’s very hot and cold

My wife and I have been separated for a few months. At her wish, not mine. Was was screwing the janitor at her work. Recently she was dropping the kids off and glanced at my river tubes, drying in the driveway, for 1/10th of a second. No INE else would have thought anything of it but I knew exactly what she was thinking. That afternoon she texted me a bunch of angry stuff for no real reason. That night she texted my sister to ask if I went tubing with her. This is a woman who has been claiming to be free and single for 6 months, claiming she did nothing wrong by screwing her coworker while we were together. Claiming she doesn't care what I do. Having her check up on me felt good in some ways but more than anything it convinced me she is a nut job and I am better off moving on. I am very upset at what this means for my kids but no longer feel like I am losing anything.

Hi Coach Lee, my girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me about a month ago. We were engaged for the last 3 months of those 7 years, and in the last 2 years, we were living in different cities due to our jobs. After the engagement, we had unnecessary arguments, and I dragged them out for no reason. I wore her out and left her feeling alone. I thought she wouldn’t leave me no matter what. These arguments led to a coldness and lack of communication between us. For 3 months, we were very distant and hardly communicated. I didn’t realize it at the time, but these 3 months really took a toll on her. She grew distant from me, and her feelings for me gradually died. Eventually, she broke up with me and said she didn’t even want to stay friends. She said she didn’t feel anything for me, and if she did, we could have continued. She broke up with me on July 15th, and for a few days after, I tried calling her on video. At the end of these conversations, she told me to get out of her life. Later, on July 26th, I went to the city where she lives, and we talked face-to-face. During the conversation, she seemed like she still had some feelings, but ultimately she said the same things: “I don’t want to build a future with you, I don’t trust you, I don’t feel anything for you, I don’t love you.” We haven’t spoken since that day. I haven’t written or called her at all. On August 8th, I couldn’t resist and called her once. I told her that I saw her in my dream and wanted to check if she was okay. She said she was fine and asked how I was. I said I was fine and, not wanting to bother her, I wished her a good day and hung up. I’m not writing or calling her at all.

What I want to ask you is this: I wasn’t in her life for the last 3 months before the breakup. My absence led to this breakup. In this situation, is “no contact” reasonable? What should I do? I love her very, very much and I want to marry her.

My ex had done the first thing with regarding keeping and carrying on connections with my friends which was more mine now I’ve just noticed she’s commenting on their pics. I know she’s doing her best to try and bait me. I’m sitting back smiling and laughing but I’m not going to break no way!

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

Is it the same situation for me? Im the dumper. But we still had close contact, because of the sick cat. We went multiple times to the vet, until i had to put her to sleep. During this time we had also initmacy contact. I want him back, because i know it was a mistake. But he said he doesnt have feelings yet or respectively couldnt build new up because he had not enough time and only felt pressure. So we decided to go in no contact because everything is so confusing. We are in no contact now since 2 weeks. Miss him so much :(

Coach lee, we broke up three weeks ago, and last week, I asked her if she will wait for us together again after we graduate. She said she might. Will it really work out? Do I really still have a chance if she doesn't find another guy?

Keep an eye open for obvious shit. Thanks coach.

What happens if they want to be friends and still have sex with you? Probably a bad thing …..huh?

I’m just leaving this comment to see if there’s any stories where someone’s ex did come back.

- how long did it take?
- did you take them back?
- if you did are you still together?
- if not, is it because you yourself decided “you know what? I’m good” or something else?

I'm pretty sure that she is not over me yet. We have been together 19 years, we separated in may. I have done all the wrong stuff I could and way too long, but I founded my dignity few days ago and started intelligent contact. We have two kids, dog and summer cabin so full no contact ain't option. I actually started to feel better after that. I was kinda tired to keep fighting for our family all alone. Well. I decided to give her what she wants. Life without me. Now I just keep working myself, try to be the best dad I can. If she ever wants me back. It's her turn to beg and plead. I know shes sad and stuff, but 40yo crisis or fomo seems to be pretty powerful. 😂😂😂

coach lee is db cooper in disguise he gotts to pay the bills 😂😂

You helped me in the most hardest point in my life coach. Thank you for being there for me when no one was. Divorced with my ex of an 8 year marriage, your words helped me. Now i have never been happier. i wanted them back in the beginning, but you soon realize in time, you are more valuable to someone who cares. Thank you a million <3

I love coach Lee...he is an excellent coach...relationship fixer...because every time I watch him..I learn something practically new.

Honestly, me and my ex wife both failed each other. She thinks I’m the villain. Fine. We failed each other. With communication, mostly her on that, but we both failed God as we’re both Christians. I’m not a mind reader. When she sent me a song to show her emotions, and said she has a connection with that band, I could have sent her a song that had meaning to me but didn’t have anything to do with “US” and when she couldn’t even talk about the feelings face to face, she monkey branched to a guy who is most certainly a several steps lesser than me, according to her own friends. She couldn’t even face me when she filed divorce. She hid in a different room and told me she filed divorce over text. To be honest, I don’t want that kind of woman back. I just want to know how to forget her and move on. Forget that emotional insecurity and low self esteem. But I’m having a hard time moving on. I don’t want her. She monkey branched to a new man. I don’t want her. I just want to forget her and move on. Why does she own a part of my mind rent free. I even have nightmares about her. I just want to let go. Why is it so hard? We were together for 18 years. It’s not easy. I hate her and love her at the same time.

It was a long distance relationship for about 12 months, she broke up with me in the midst of a tonsillectomy she had (the 3rd day after the op), with the excuse that I didn't contact her which is not true because I messaged her everyday and I told her that I'm coming to her city and she refused , so she gaslighted me then ghosted me for a month, then blocked me, I called her then and kept shutting down the call then sent an SMS telling me she hit engaged and I should stop contacting her.
2-3 weeks later apparently her engagement fell off (I don't know the reasons) then she unblocked me but I didn't reach out (she doesn't know I know about her failed engagement)
2 months later I was in her city and asked some people about her, few weeks later she messaged asking if I came to her city, I lied and said no then she replied with a 👍 reaction.
Few weeks later saw her in my city, I tried to resist for 2 weeks the urge to contact her after seeing her from afar in the street, then I did and told her I saw you the other day, she replied "where?" Then we had a casual Convo (kinda dry), we didn't bring up anything related to the relationship, she suddenly started replying with 2 words only so I left her on seen, then the next morning she sent another message a picture in a café studying, then we kept talking about our careers then once again started replying with a word or two, so o left her on see again.
A week later she sends me a "Hey", I replied and she asked me if I was in my city (she came to visit her aunt and her cousin), told her I was out on vacation, we kept chatting once again, she send updates about what she's doing occasionally, because she was showing willingness to meet, i was okay let's meet.
We met, and I could feel she was not present mentally, and she keeps avoiding eye contact, always looking elsewhere most of the time, I took the meeting as a friendly meeting so took her to do some ice skating (it was her first time) then took her to dinner to a nice restaurant with a nice décoration, in both places offered to take pictures of her cuz I know she liked that, but didn't talk at sll about the breakup and the past relationship, although i was acting casual and relaxed she didn't seem present at all, then the middle of dinner she was telling me why she was out of her city for 3 months either visiting her cousin or staying in her apartment in the city where she attends university, basically talking about some families issues back in her town, then said "well, i don't know if should tell you this but i was going to get married but some problems happened" (a reminder, she doesn't know i knoe about her failed engagement), i only replied with "ah ok i see" and changed the subject, I didn't wanted to be the one to open the whole breakup discussion anf because she didn't apologize or show remorse , i said nothing about it.
Although I tried to make it a good experience for the both of us, she left without saying "thank you" or "it was fun" and even after going back home she mentioned nothing about the meeting, and kept texting in a very monotonous way, sending a "good morning" text every day, I only reply to her messages without asking much about what she's doing.
The question is, why she wanted to meet then shows zero engagement or will to talk at least casually? Why contacting me if it's for nothing?
I'm not pursuing her, and I'm not showing signs that I wanna get back with her, the going out thing was her move and I don't mention anything about either the relationship or the breakup.

Btw, we only communicate through Instagram and since contacting me she didn't add me back, basically she's just messaging everyday without her following me and me following her.

PS: I was told by a friend she did post a video about the ice skating thing that I took for her, but zero mentioning ofc.

I want your opinion, and I'm not referring to the obvious "she's bored", "she's playing with you", because I already know that, but since I'm not the one pursuing her now, and she keeps reaching out despite letting her on seen, why is that?

My opinion is she was not present in the moment of our date cuz she was still thinking about the guy who left her and broke the engagement.
Guys I need some help and advice, I'm really going through this completely alone without no one to talk to.

Ugh, I just cant believe my husband left me after 18 years, he just left me.he doesnt even want to talk to me anymore. Ive tried everything possible to get him back, but nothing seems to work and I cant stop thinking about him Im frustrated I dont see my life with anyone else. Ive done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I cant I dont know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just cant stop thinking about him

If his father's birthday is a day before mine, would it be appropriate to send him a text message given the good relationship I had with his father?

Well it's really complicated, the things you are raising bother many people.... Let me tell you my story please. I just feel like I can be heard here.
I was the one who broke up with the guy. It was an online dating, we had been "dating" for three years. He asked me to start seeing each other in the real life, he moved to the area near my town and he was waiting. He always told me he didn't want to force things but it's important to see each other in person. I was too afraid. I mean I couldn't let him enter my real life. And time went by, it's already eight years after I broke up with him. We had no contact during the years. And I decided to write him. Honestly I had no hope he would reply. But he did. Although he said he didn't see any reason for our conversation. Well I tried to tell him all the truth about my decision and my feelings. We had a few sincere conversations this year. A few times he told me he would block me, cause I annoyed him, I stole his time etc. But he didn't block me, neither he said any sorries for his rudeness. He told me he had no girlfriend, even though I didn't ask him. He also tried to speak about sex life etc. But I avoided it saying it's not my business and I didn't want to discuss private things. So the point is, he has been telling me a lot of times that he doesn't need me, he is annoyed by me, he is busy and I am bothering him. But at the same time he seems to be afraid that I will totally disappear. He still doesn't block my number. Even though he says there's no way for us to have anything in common.

So could the pet thing also be a work thing? My ex is my employer and he doesnt fire me. Even if my task in his company came to an end and there is nothing left to do for me anymore and he looks for new tasks so I would stay?

It's been 13 days and I feel the pain in my chest all the time😢

I brougth my ex ring before she left should give it to her or no my son said i should i dont no what do you guys think

The two greatest words a dumped person will ever hear...NO CONTACT👌

My ex brokeup with me after 14 years of relationship.
And she blok me on Facebook, but still have my number!? 🤔
I delete everything from her, because I know that she ain't contact me anymore. Sad but true. She have another guy, and he is her world.
I moved on and try to heal myself from everything. I ain't gonna beg or contact her. So NC and live my life.

My ex literally unblocked me haven’t reach out like some post I didnt nothing act like I didn’t see it I think she not comeing back so wouldn’t it be best if I blocked her

60 days of nc and still nothing :(

What about a gap of 18 years she reached out then blocked me

Been in no contact for a month. I reached out today to wish her safe travels as she’s going on a trip. All she said was thank you and I replied enjoy! … I’m so confused… she watches my snap and instagram stories frequently without even having me added… idk what to do… we broke up due to her depression and we were together for 7 years. HELP PLEASE

Last time I was visiting my ex, who lives out of town after he broke up, he told me that he’s not even considering me as an option, only as a friend. But he did visit me in my city last month and repeated that he only sees me as a friend

So if they says things like that, we have to believe them

If they broke up with you my friends, they have to come back and contact you…..
Otherwise, move on with your great life…
If they come back, cool, and if they don’t come back Cool….
Live your Awesome life….

lol... I'm blocked... can't see crap. And I'm not making a smurf account.

What about if your ex mirroring your actions or energy?

I messed up, she did the 1st thing reached out to a mutual friend, I got excited and and called her and we met up she was happy to see me, she cried and told me she loved me . But then she disappeared again. I texted her days after and she said she's seeing someone now. 😮😢

We broke up in May, and had 9 interactions over the past 3 months. I realize I have never truly given her the presence of my absence, with the longest stint of NC was 24 days. I hope I didn’t destroy everything by not being aware of NC sooner. We've been in each other's lives for 12 years. She told me in our last conversation she still believes we're soulmates, but that she's done and it's over forever now. NC is the only thing I can do. On day 4 now...

Idk if I can even watch this bc I’m already discouraged enough. Almost 6 year relationship, engaged, and a very intense relationship. I made a lot of mistakes and have been focused on addressing my issues. She went from crying during breakup to then saying after she will never give me a chance again and blocking my #. I begged on and off for about a month and then broke NC again two months later at 3 months post BU. It’s been 5 months now and I will never reach out again bc it will be the only way to ever regain attraction but I do believe she’s going to try her best to move on from me completely. I am still so gutted the pain is unreal I love her so much

But even if you see none of these signs it doesn't mean all hope is lost ive heard of exes coming back years later so theres no deadline for how long to wait but also i feel that reaching out to them after 4 months is just gonna give them validation again. so you should never have to reach out to them even if you go past the 4 month line because all thats doing is helping them not to miss you after 4 months and like i said some exes come back years later so let them contact you. if they really care about you trust me they dont need reminding that you exist

My ex blocked me everywhere after we broke up.. I was chasing and being a simp, so I don’t blame her. I moved to another country, and my glow up REAL 😎. One yr later she unblocked me from her personal profile (it’s private) I never messaged her… 4 days ago she unblocked me from her business profile, watched my stories then commented (a negative comment) on one of my instagram posts. I ignored it and haven’t reacted or messaged (1yr 8 months after the breakup). I know she’s trying to get a reaction from me, and wants me to message her, but I’m not going to, haven’t watched her stories or anything either. I feel like she wants to reach out but she’s being stubborn, maybe I’m wrong. Anyone has an opinion?