Managing A Narcissist | Ann Barnes | TEDxCollingwood

Narcissists are there to teach us hard yet impeccably important lessons. I don't think this woman has actually managed or worked with a narcissist before in her life. They are energy vampires who refuse to change because they refuse to acknowledge that they need to change.

Weak management finds themselves with no one to manage except the one narcissist despite multiple massive pay raises.🤔

It started to get bad when cell phones came out and reality tv.

Managing a Nacissist… 1) Don’t give them power over anyone! 2) Document the endless drama they cause through their baiting, gaslighting, and pretending to be the victim. 3) Fire them. Narcissists are toxic to families, organizations, and entire nations. They need to seek psychological help but they won’t because they can’t admit there’s anything wrong with themselves. Pretending you can somehow promote them without it bringing down your entire company is delusional. Once they have power, they will wield it against everyone around them for their own personal amusement and narcissistic supply. They will promote other narcissists until the organization becomes so toxic, it implodes. I found this video to be hopelessly naive. 😂

I’m leaving my work for a narcissist college. She acts just like a baby. I am expecting a baby soon and can’t afford to have 2 babies.

Sounds good in theory, except narcs are cunning, manipulative wolves in sheep's clothing. Pampering them won't change their vindictive nature.

Managing seriously

Narcissism is a disease no one can cure that disease. but remember with proper therapy they can understand who they are. they can't feel empathy but they can understand it.

It's an American trait

I got divorced two years ago and didn't even know what a Narc was. I thought she was just unhappy and I couldn't understand why?? Nice home, made good money, I did all I could as a husband and father but she just looked at everything differently and drove me to the point I was lost. Now with reasearch and videos like this I realize what she was about. She would always say she will not work for anyone and now I have no idea what she does, I have barely any contact other than to be with my kids.

Leverage their strengths? No thanks, that is called enabling it... It will lead to a toxic workplace. Always. They won't be bossed around and told to be involved only in "their island".

She characterizes them well as weeds and invasive species. They have no place in society.

Aaaand then she insanely recommends “feeding and watering them.” No. Fire them. By any means necessary. There is no good outcome where they are concerned. They are not fixable and you and your team do not bear the responsibility that they would love to dump on you.

no. you don't feed the narcissist.

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Sorry, no. You can't cure them. Get rid of them and you will have a peacefully running business without energy waist.

Sprinkle some Holy Water on them and yell "Demon Be Gone! while holding a crucifix.

My brother in law is married to one of these. I never really understood how messed up and torturous a narcissist is until this one came into our family. Absolutely Unbelievable

The cohort 30 years after the first are not millennials. I’m so sick of everyone young being referred to as millennials, they are gen z and really hard to manage in the workplace.

This is the stupidest advice I have seen. Don’t feed a narcissist . Fire them.

Such a shallow presentation.

They manipulate, they destroy plans and processes, they poison team environment. If you find one, no doubt get rid of them. Compensation package is nothing comparing with costs you are having to get them working!

I am in the process of dismissing (firing) a narcissist at work after years worth of issues.

My biggest regret is that i treated them with too much empathy and that i tried to resolve things informally instead of documenting the numerous occasions where they have underperformed, been insubordinate or confrontational. This all could have been over months ago and far easier than it currently is.

Absolutely uninformative.

Praising them and give them raises and constantly acknowledging them just feeds more into their narcissistic behavior. They are almost impossible to deal with. It takes a DIVINE act of POWER to deliver them! God help us!!!

Don't hire fire them your are offensive enabling them intra species predator of human beings

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So many of them in 12 steps groups.

The two narcissists I know are so extreme they are actually unemployable, so this doesn't apply to them. It's my father and brother. My father sponges off his wife for a living, and my brother works for himself. They are both perfect and everybody else is always wrong.

My parents brought in a narcissistic millennial 22 year old back 10 years ago onto the farm and he nearly ran the farm into the ground. He pulled the wool over my parents and sister and brother in law eyes.

Being an Gen Xer I feel that the millennials will take control of everything and end up destroying everything.

Narcissists often lack empathy and have an inflated sense of self-importance, which can lead to a disregard for the feelings and needs of others. They may also manipulate and exploit those around them to fulfill their own desires.

A female boss would be a big trigger, it's not natural

I have at least 5 people just in my Dept alone that are Narcissist. One went from Comptroller to CFO. One went from a Cashier to my boss - she knows nothing of what I do - but because the CFO who I use to report directly to put her in his place its like dealing with a 5 year old. Its very Toxic in my Office and Dept. I aint going to help them out.

Most Indians are narcissistic. It’s in their culture.

five years later....

Dealing w/ a narcissist at work is not only stressful but it can cause you physical ailments. I’m bedridden now bc I wasn’t taking care of myself. I was distraught last week due to the behaviors I was encountering. The narcissist’s behavior left me feeling
confused, worried & upset but I’m not sure why. They put a lot of work on me bc I’m a diligent worker. The pressure got to me bc I don’t want to disappoint my manager. I don’t want to leave my job. I love the work I do.

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Just realized my internal client/director is a narcissist and playing with me for the past 5 months of projects I thought we were working together: stealing my work credits 100%, blaming everything including me for anything that isn’t working, not respecting me but just need me to do his team work, not accountable for anything for him and his manager (his manager is a mini version of him), love to show off and BS on anything for executives/management, using me as his filter for work and scapegoat.

My win win approach at work obviously doesn’t work here. Re strategizing to deal with this Narcissist…. Unfortunately, my priority to get projects done is no longer a priority. Ensuring his accountabilities, making sure management knows work I have done, and protecting myself at work are my priorities now.

I had narcissistic traits had a humbling experience and knowledge is power

what about if a country has a former president that is a narcissist and he isn't held accountable for his narcissistic behavior? How much will this impact the further increasing of narcissistic traits in people in society at large?

I work in a profession that attracts narcissists by virtue of the status and power attached to the role. It’s exhausting when you are there for the right reasons, trying to make things better for society, and you keep butting up against these individuals who can to tolerate any challenge or perceived challenge to their fragile sense of self. The stakes are really high - if we don’t start understanding the impact of narcissism in the workforce we are in trouble - this is exactly where structural bullying and discrimination is germinated, because it is difficult to build resilience at a corporate structural level within management layers to challenge behaviors that will incur a vociferous kickback the moment you try.
I look at the tragic death of George Floyd and I see the consequence of unchecked, unchallenged corporate narcissism. That’s how high the stakes are.

Just ignore.. they can not stand the fact that they already do not exist!

Narcissists are like psychopaths, but without self esteem

at first this sounded good until I realized this speaker was a narcist.

"He" is a Malignant-covert narcissist. Very nearly destroyed me; my health, my mental health. Threatened to end my life 3xs. So, yes. I escaped and got rid of him. ... and he still won't leave me alone.
He actually has NPD and is a pathological type. His last text was that
" You'll be lucky if I talk to you again."
Ummm, yeah ... I've been trying to get you NOT to talk to me for over a month.
Blocked him, changed my #, still he found a way to get through.

You sure sound like one

Don't waste your time trying to change a narcissist. Just run. Run for your life.

They always pretend like they are the victim and never accept their fault. They always have excuses for their wrong doings.