Heal Your ANGER Reflex BEFORE It Destroys Your Relationships

Dear Fairy, the "daily practice" is the best gift you gave to all of us. Prior to knowing your channel, I usually got angrier and felt more stupid after seeing my therapist. Even EMDR didn't remove my anger. I have been doing the daily practice since last year, and I can't tell you how much it helped me. It calms me down and brings me to a less desperate and depressive state. I still get angry, but I know it shall pass and this is not the end of the world. ❤❤❤👋👍💪

I am grateful for this video. Your background story is just like mine. I used to be bullied and get passive aggression so often, was compared, and always attacked by my shitty classmates for no reason, so it lead me to getting insecure, compete, compare myself to them, gossip about them to feel better about myself, and get so angry whenever I see or hear about them. Truly, I feel like i need someone to contact me or sit next to me and listen to me, i just want someone to listen to me because it makes me feel relieved. On the other hand, smallest things in life make me so furious for no reason, so i cannot even communicate.

I appreciate the techniques and hacks you gave us! I will try my best to heal on my own, maybe then in case it goes wrong or will not work out, go to a therapist.

I can not believe that you have been able to understand who I am. It can be so difficult. Thank you.

Working on releasing my anger from childhood bullying, social betrayal, and family abuse. Still grieving the loss of my dear Husband.

unhealthy anger just results in depression, disengagement from life, or an explosive reaction to a trigger invasion of your boundaries

People who get angry all the time & yell at others, are non-self aware & are often bullies who just haven't been punched in the teeth yet by someone bigger/better than them. People rarely get angry in front of professional fighters, apart from other professional fighter, and if they do, they won't ever again. Their anger seems to magically control itself. Funny that. People only get angry more than once at others they know either won't or can't beat them up. Your Mom only yelled at your Dad cos she knew (or strongly believed) your Dad would wouldn't hit her or at least wouldn't hit her with full force, & your Dad only yelled at your Mom cos he knew she couldn't hurt him that much. Being angry all the time is a sense of entitlement. That needs to be knocked out of us (in the most therapeutic way of course) to humble us.. Especially cock-sure young men. I also believe controlling one's temper comes with maturity, but many people don't lose the chip on their shoulder until someone makes them check themselves. Angry people are showing an arrogance that fear renders pathetic & gone (an arrogance that they have the right to be all angry). Like someone getting angry because there's a racket going on outside, storming outside to confront the noise maker. Then finding out it's a tiger...Are you still angry?

When my partner emotionally neglected me I always got disproportionately angry

My doctor told me anger is not a part of trama/ depression whats is that about anger is a major part in depression.

Thank you for putting what I’m feeling into words. I couldn’t.

Good morning, all!☀️
Just started honing in on this type of content, and I love your channel, crappy childhood fairy. I have found similar content on other channels, but I love your voice and delivery. I literally listen to you all night long and also when I get a chance to at work. I am 56 years old and just starting to heal from CPSD. Thank you so much for your healing words.❤️

thank you, I have cptsd

I didn't realise I had a lot of repressed rage and could even think some thoughts I never fathomed capable. The part about the unfairness of having to heal hit so hard, especially since I've been having a rough couple of weeks at uni and felt really disconnected from everyone/thing that I was struggling to put up a functional facade. I realised thats when the social anxiety gets really bad too.

Even before my traumatic experience, I was always a very angry person. Not sure why really. I guess I came into the world like that or something

Thank You for your free online help May God Bless you with a Blessed life in every way 🙏❤

Thank You fairy your Awesome help for me

When I'm really angry... I would clean and clean till I was exhausted. Felt like a myrter. Lol

I'm a very angry man

About being afraid of losing the resentment: I experienced that this morning. I was writing and weeping over the paper and it was pretty raw, due to a recent conflict where I felt mistreated. And when I was done, I wanted to keep it. I was shocked. I did not want to do what the prayer said. I did not want to release the resentment. I felt like Gollum with the ring. I was shocked at this response. I did release it and destroy it and go outside to sit and be quiet. And it was miraculous the difference. I could not believe how visceral this experience was. I like to think of myself as rational. It really directed my prayers to forgive and receive forgiveness.

THANKS BLESSINGS

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I would love to heal my anger but part of the anger is that I have no relationships. Ive never had a relationship for longer than 3 months and all my friends got married and moved on with their lives so what do I do? At 60 the best I can do is accept. I ve given up praying and hoping.

I also grew up in an Alcoholic household where I was never allowed to feel a feeling, especially anger. When I left the house as a young adult I had lots of rage and unresolved feelings. It's so unhealthy and it has taken me a long time to process.

Love the part about power. As I get better, I could only brush my teeth about 2 or 3 times a week, now I'm at 4 or 5 times a week, and Im grateful, and I want to keep going.

Thank you!

Thank you Fairy ❤

If you reject people like yourself who 'have problems' because of complex PTSD, aren't you just treating them like everyone else treats you (i.e. like you're worthless)? Aren't you rejecting yourself? Aren't you losing the opportunity to share very important common experiences with others?

Anna, you should be a politician; we need helpful, mature, wise, healing people representing us..

I recently broke up from a 5 year relationship because I was being triggered and flew into rages. I suspect passive aggressive behavour by my ex partner but I am not sure, which I know is typical of experiencing PA behaviour. To put a finger on it, it would be an undercurrent of anger very close to the surface, like snapping, over reacting. Stone walling / quiet treatment was used regulary which made me feel awful. Also cutting me down by saying 'Stop talking now' when I disagreed with her viewpoint. Its confusing because in many ways she was very loving and these few examples dont sound huge in the complexities of relationships but I was constantly triggered and I felt like I was being controlled without being to articulate exactly how and to what extent

This❤

When you said "the fear of getting kicked out of the igloo" really resonated

Weather for God doesn't take care of I don't worry about. Doctors have given me all these bleak forecasts and I'm still alive

I’ve been told I come off as aggressive sometimes. It always feel like gaslighting because I mostly feel in those circumstances I was annoyed and frustrated and not angry. I feel like some people have been so privileged that have never experienced true anger. I can’t stand yelling and screaming and I also consider myself a peaceful person. I try to communicate with others but I acknowledge I fail at that sometimes. I can be sarcastic and passive aggressive, never aggressive aggressive.

Im gonna publish my journals someday need to chronicological order them and change names and im slowly republicizing my vlogs and top viewed videos. So my truth can be back for people to relate to.

Thank you so much! So thankful I found your channel! I can't wait for life after divorce 😊

Thank you for sharing your gift with us.

Your videos are amazing !! 🎉 I can't believe how much help I get from listening to you. Thank the universe 🌎 for YOU !!! ❤😊

Thank you.

Thank You Anna! Yes, of course you are SOOOO HELPFUL! These are your God given talents/gifts and I for one am grateful for you!

Shouldn't there be just one time we allow ourselves to FLIP? We've BEEN restraining and suppressing c'mon say "Yes! Go for it!"

I just love you so much ! Ever since I found you, I have not been able to stop listening!!! I listen to you in my sleep even !! 🩷👂 I find you to be so comforting !😊

Fun fact, when you throw something from a moving vehicle, it becomes a "deadly missile" in the eyes of law enforcement. But nevermind how I obtained this information 😂

Nothing can make me more angry then a unbalanced world or being criticized 😂and the lack of fathering really made my psycho but was to wise to not act up clogging anger up to 5-4 years till I started meditating

This is SO interesting and helpful to me. I feel like Anna, the Crappy Childhood Fairy just showed up driving a school bus with a way out of hell. For me.
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Are you saying that people with actual diagnosed health problems can heal their chronic, debilitating, painful diseases if we heal past trauma? I get shamed enough, by an alcoholic husband bc of being physically disabled for the past 10 yrs. PLEASE please don't make people who are sick feel more shame or guilt.

Maybe you triggered me bc of the emotional abuse I've dealt with for 30 yrs, which ramped up when my husband started to drown his sorrow with beer every night. Now I have no ability to leave my spouse. I apologize for my ANGRY response, but it's doing a disservice to people who suffer true painful chronic conditions, to give the impression that all disease is caused by trauma from childhood.

Mrs. Fairy, I love you, I thank God for your help, thank YOU!!

I was a spoiled tyrant when I was a kid. Treated my parents as slaves and beating up my little brother. I even wanted to flay the flesh off one of my uncles for waking me up at a certain hour. Also often ignored or exploit my grandparents since they didn't speak English. I was more aggressive towards my own family than my enemies or rivals. Now I spend my days sleeping and drinking. Living off passive income from shareholding and real estate.

Haven’t been through even 5 minutes, but I am bawling. For the first time, I feel like someone understands….mainly because I have been overwhelmed, not knowing if I can ever stop my angry/hurt “outbursts” which are just so damaging/abusive but comes from a place of just wanting to be heard and understood !!!

I feel sh*tty, terrible, horrible, ashamed, like I’m just so inherently flawed and terrible and alone. And i don’t know if I can get better. I have been desperately looking for a support group/ with peers, to somehow find connection. I don’t think I have a temper problem but when I’m activated, I get into this extreme flight/fight mode. I scare my own self. I don’t trust my own self. And I’m just so overwhelmed

You’re awesome Anna!! ❤