Female AUTISM Checklist (The Ultimate List YOU NEED!)

Wow! This makes me question myself more!!
I check all of these!
I don't think I am super outgoing, but I get the introverted feeling that is outgoing. I collect kpop cards. I always want to become mute, but really have to force myself to not since I work. I used to think I was irritable, but now I think it's the masking to meltdown. Lastly, I am shy. I think I could control one-on-one reactions more so can hold myself together. It's so hard to not get anxious and shake when it's public speaking though... people at work tell me it's a 180 from when I am on the phone vs our public meeting. I tell them that the phone is a script in customer service which took me a while to get used to since it used to be very unexpected. Haha

one of the most talked about things about me from my fam members is that “selective mutism” thing to other people. like when they have a friend over or a relative or someone, or they’re just telling you memories and stories of childhood. one of the main things that’s always talked about about is that whole being super quiet thing. like the flip of a switch around someone new! also how i collect so many weird things, and quite literally everything else that you mentioned here! 👀 been trying to get a diagnosis for a year but i have shitty insurance!

Yea, this is exactly me 🙂
I was just diagnosed at 20 years old… I am relatively good at “masking”, I am too shy, I have extreme social anxiety, looking in the eyes is kinda hard, I believe that I have selective mutism too beacuse sometimes I feel like I just can’t talk, nothing comes out…
I have a really hard time at connecting to other people, altho I am a psychology student
I also believe that I have some attention defficit

Diagnose with autism two years ago. And doing the checklist to see how many I can check off.

monkeys are my special interest

I’m trying to get an evaluation for autism. All this paperwork, scheduling and organizing makes it really hard cause I’m passive in the extreme. I’m also scared they’re just gonna dismiss me and tell me I don’t need help. At this point I’ve given up on pretty much everything. The only reason I’m trying to get that diagnosis is because I’m scared people will tell me that I have no reason to be so tired, so I just have to work harder. I’ve given up on working at all now.

(I probably said too much again)

i apply to must of these including the “masking to meltdown” thing
everyday when i get to my grandma’s car for her to take me and my brother home, i like to listen to music and look out the window. and whenever this is disturbed i get really annoyed and sometimes angry because i haven’t gotten the chance to just be in my own world at school and relax
i know this may not be me applying to it and it’s very dramatic and stupid but i just wanted to go ahead and say this anyway incase anyone else is the same way :]

Finally it makes sense. Thank you for this video!🤯

I'm a female, wondering if I might be diagnosed.

I hate saying hello whenever I see my neighbors, I know I look rude and I hate that. I would like to pass by and smile, I wish that was enough. I am a very helpful person, but don't ask me to chit chat with you, or smile and wave, just come at my door and ask me for a cup of sugar I'm more than happy to help you. I'm the kind of neighbor that bake you a cake. Just let me alone!❤

I am a female looking to get diagnosed and I have an appointment with my doctor to discuss it Monday Oct 2,2023. I am very nervous, but if it comes back that I do have autism I feel it will connect a lot of puzzle pieces for me.

❤😊 i am fairly certain that i am on the spectrum and this vidio is me in a nutshell. I was not diagnosed and am still not diagnosed as ASD but ptsd and add.... wrongfully so. Not the ptsd. That is also a thing. Safe to say i have no idea hos to go about letting my super masking power just whipe down and be diagnosed and maybe get a little bit of help regarding everything. But i am 32 years old. And i am a mom and have a car. Partner and a cat. And to say i can see myself in my child struggling to find my place in this world is just sad. And instead of meltdowns after kindergarden we sit her infront of the tv and play music vids. Because it helps her deregulate the day. And we get some food in her. Just like my mom did with me. My mom suspected aspergers or ASD with me but was never taken seriosly they did have me go thruw alot of extra help with both reading and writing. And speach. But never saw beyond that in the 90's and by then i was allready actor supreme in masking and telling everybody i was FINE! (I was not) but as a mother now. I am not letting my daughter experience the same thing as i did.. so i have my feelers out for her. And i will be quick to get her in to diagnosing if at any point somebody backs me up. My husband is also there with me on this but she is 2 years old. And we will let her be her fantastic little self for a bit longer before putting any labels on her. We just love her so much ❤

I have felt alone and trapped by my occasional outwardly behavior for too long. Now I’m overwhelmed all the time. I didn’t understand why I feel or experience things “too much” - too often. Thanks for making my introverted yet social soul feel understood. Thank you!

I probably need to go to a psychologist to make sure because I literally have all those things, who knows maybe I've had autism for 17 years without knowing 😅

my obsessive interest is really expensive so im limited 😭 (its cars & bikes)

Masking to meltdown... wow, it totally describes some days.

You nailed it with the definition of an outgoing introvert. 😂

Hey! Cool! I’m Vegan too❣️🌻

We’re working to get our 18-year-old tested. We totally missed the signs.

when he was talking about being introverted by nature but also being outgoing, THAT IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL !!!! i finally feel so validated. i do like going out and doing things but it's so hard for me to do it because i get so socially anxious. and i love talking to my friends and hanging out with them but i get so reclusive that sometimes it feels like i have no one. THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS

People need to stop trying to convince Asperger's women to change. They are what they are and are happiest when allowed to live life on their terms. They have skills non autistic people will never have or understand. Understanding theirself is what is important and just excepting who they are. Stop masking, if people don't see your worth that is their problem not yours.

I’m 38, almost 39, female, one male child who is 12 and is diagnosed with autism. Four kids out of eight that have adhd. Something is like wrong or not right with me. I just can’t put my finger on it. I have anxiety, which leads to insane irritability. I just wanna know what going on and get some help. 😭

but i dont want to go to school :/

I'm scared of getting a diagnosis. My obsessions differ thru the ages. Now it's lingerie/neglige, stationery, music videos, animals, babies, angels, among others I can remember. 🤷🏻‍♀️ And yes, I get analysis paralysis. I'm also ok being alone coz I can enjoy my time more with what I like.

What about if the girl is loud, obnoxious, and doesn't know when to stop talking?

Checklist :

Lack of eyecontact : definitely, I've got anecdotes from today about it XD

Difficulty socializing : since childhood basically so... Yeah definitely XD

Introverted but outgoing : no, not really. I think I can be fun to be around, but definitely not outgoing. However I DO wish I could enjoy spending time with others, and i do wish I could socialize easily

Obsessive collector related to special interest : no I'm not, quite the opposite in fact. But I do have sentimental items like everyone. (maybe true vintage garments, but I wouldn't collect them)

Selective mutism : i do have that in certain situations, mostly when I'm overwhelmed. I also tend to escape situations in which I'm overwhelmed (when I was young especially, I didn't want anyone to go to my bedroom, because it's such a private area that it would feel overwhelming, or not talking to guests (even when it's my brother or sister), I remember feeling very BAD actually that there was my brother or sister at home because it was overwhelming, and that would mean I had to adapt)

Masking to meltdown : I guess that happens, although I have more "shut downs" than meltdowns because it's all concentrated within. But yeah, I'm exhausted from today, both because of the classes but also because I had to socialize and mask around my friends, I wouldn't have been as tired if I hadn't socialized, and this definitely impacts me negatively because I'm irritated or impatient

Shy and quiet : yeah definitely, I've always been. I won't talk to someone unless they talk to me. And even then I'll try to keep the conversation as short as possible because of how uncomfortable I am

I won't hide that I'm watching this for myself because relatively lately school and also other stuff has become so hard (for sensory sensitivities) , then I found some videos about autism and then done deep research. It's useless to say I check them all, except that I don't collect real stuff (because I feel guilty making someone spend money on me) but I download stuff, record data, and I'm basically an enciclopedia about everything I'm deeply passionate for. But thanks for the video, I don't really know what to do because my parents dismiss this hypothesis and I think I'll talk to someone safe because I really feel desperate.

Guys, I have no problem with maintain in eye contact but check all the other boxes, are they aspies that are like me?

My daughter is 22. Throughout her life we had feelings that she might be on the spectrum, but schools always said "she's fine, she doesn't meet the assessment criteria". Towards the end of secondary school, her friends seemed to go their own ways, leaving her without anything to do on weekends. This has continued which is truly heartbreaking. She has lots of these traits!!
Question is, how do we approach telling her and how can an assessment really help?

Thank you. Great vid

Late diagnosed at 43 myself. Eye contact is opposite for me, though. I stare too much and have to force myself to avert my eyes. And I'm introverted outgoing (INFJ). I have selective mutism as well. It's confusing to find the right words and I'm always worried how I come across to most people. I hate the shut down.

The part about collecting stuff sounded like me, but I didn’t know what I collected cause I was trying to think so hard about it then I remembered..




Pride flags, I collect pride flags.

No. They don't go home to "read their favourite book". Why? Bcs they do not understand other people. They can not develop an interest for other people. Bcs they don't understand them. Alright? They create a world that is their own. And basically, it's kind of monstrous. Stop lying.

Im 51 and i am certainly autistic. I have never been diagnosed and always thought i was just a weirdo. I have every single thing on that list and then some

What if i have all the symptoms beside the collecting one

3 minutes into the video and he's still doing small talk and trying to move merch.

I've always labeled myself as an antisocial, shy, introvert. Now I'm rethinking myself 😮

Unfortunately a lot of the traits you're citing are also signs of abuse. I learned from a young age to not maintain eye contact for more than two seconds, some will take it as a challenge and violence ensues. The introverted-extroverted thing is also common because of trust issues. You want to talk to others, but experience has taught you that those things are going to be thrown in your face. Generally speaking we follow the "keep your head down and mind your business" mentality. You are out of spoons for drama so you just avoid social situations altogether OR the abuser is present and watching and listening.
I grew up with an ADHD and Tourettes mom and sibling. I know I am neither as I was also tested and came up as NT, but because of the abuse I began displaying many of these signs. I also started to do what I call "learned ADHD/Tourettes." My mom would catch me bobbing my knee while waiting at a doctor's office or something, put her hand on it to stop me, and just give me this, "No" look. It also made me an ADHD Whisperer- I know the traits and behaviors so well that I know work arounds. I babysat from a young age because parents could not believe what I was capable of getting their kids to do that usually caused fights. Lots of positive reinforcement, liberal use of the phrase "If you just do it now, nobody will bother you about it later. Just get it done and over with," and asking questions: "That looks out of place. Where does it usually go?" 9 times out of ten, the kid will put it there. With the older ones? There's usually stories attached to items. I indulge the stories and then say, "Well, that seems important. Probably best we put it somewhere where it won't get damaged, right?" I'm just very patient, I listen, and I try to be compassionate by coming to agreements we can all be happy with. I have my baggage (lots of mental disorders and epilepsy), so it's easy to have tons of empathy for others who are just (as mom used to put it) "wired differently."
All of us need to remember that with every "disadvantage" or hindrance, we are also given some kind of incredible gift. Life has a way of balancing things out like that. Seek out your gift/s and take refuge in them when the world gets to be too much.
So much love to you all ❤️

I'm a parent - I think my teenage daughter may have ASD - still trying to figure it out. Any help would be beneficial

My daughter has been diagnosed she was diagnosed when she was like 15 or 16. They didn't tell her when she was originally diagnosed for like months even though she had her diagnosis, my husband was diagnosed when he was really young well before I ever met him I have ADD, I was diagnosed probably younger than my daughter. She was diagnosed when she was like 10 with ADHD I was diagnosed before first grade, my brother ADHD, so I was checked early and I was insisting that my daughter

Lovely thank you

I started watching this video just to learn a bit more about autism but then he started describing me perfectly.....

(Trans guy but still bio female)

1. Lack of eye contact. Ditto.
2. Difficulty socializing; conflict between desire to socialize and having difficulty doing so. Uh-huh.
3. Introverted personality, but outgoing in general - Definitely for me
4. Obsessive interests and collecting - Check, down to the Beanie Babies
5. Selective mutism; chatter about favorite topic to familiar people but nothing to unfamiliar ones due to feeling overwhelmed. Yes.
6. Masking to meltdown; putting on a front is exhausting.
7. Shy and quiet; do their own thing. Ja wohl!

Your video was destroyed by the annoying subscribe adverts. Please don't treat us as so stupid. If you have to keep on telling us then clearly there is a lack of quality.

LMAOOO my mom has all my beanie babies i collected as a kid. I think i might have autism so hence why im here lol

I'm just curious about asd, but the more I read or consume information about it, the more I feel like I check more boxes than I'd expect.
I had to laugh a little with the meltdown- just the other day- the icing on the cake and notably the worst part of my day was not being able to find my antiperspirant roll-on. Something so small in comparison to the problems of that day, but it was a real deal-breaker for me.

I'm trying to understand if I check the list because autism or because experience, education and learnt attitude

I'm in the process of self diagnosis. Thanks for posting

I'm pretty sure I am. I'm 52 n I'm getting burned out

Thank you. Just, thank you.