How to Embrace Your Emotions and Find True Healing

God... I love Star Wars 😂

I'm so glad you did this video. ❤

Body Keeps the Score is such a good book. I was recommended to read it to better understand EMDR.

This showed up on my feed at the exactly the moment I needed it. Thank you for these valuable insights and reminders. I’ve been on a suppressed emotion spree and I’m sure it’s the reason I have felt so creatively blocked.

Very timely video. I've been struggling with pretty serious anxiety for the past few days. Anxiety that is purely subconcious and there is only so much I can take before my body is fatigued, in pain, and I've got a headache most of the day.

One really important thing I learned in DBT is that you can sit with your emotions but sitting with them too long during your day or sitting with those emotions all day, can cause your body to have problems.


Not taking the time to take a step back, get a breather, take medication if needed, can lead to the symptoms I mentioned and any number of other ones. Point is, don't drain yourself, take the emotions in stride, take baby steps if needed, don't ruminate for days or weeks ext.

Take it piece by piece and over time it will get better.

Thank you. Your work and dedication is valued and appreciated

Really struggling with grief over the unfairness of it all. I had a deeply repressive and traumatic upbringing that left me hiding myself away and feeling like a monster for decades. Everything I wanted to do and be was a sin.

Now I'm working through all that, I'm left so burnt out by it all that I'm still not getting to live- I still can't do any of the things even though I'm now allowed to do them.

And it hurts. It hurts so much to see young people getting to be free to be and do all the things that I never could. The unfairness of it all is utterly unbearable.

When do I get to live?

How do you sit with an emotion without falling into rumination and/or despair? That is so hard for me to do when trying to make space for my sadness and anxiety.

"You can't turn off the dark. You can only turn on the light." Wow, I love that quote, thank you 🙂

Also, advice for allies for those that are struggling: a downside of 'rushing to fix' the dark someone is going through is it can breach their trust in you. Because they know what they are going through is real and matters, so invalidating that just makes them feel more alone and like you're not on their side.

Many years ago, I was casually reading through a romance novel series when I stumbled across a quote that would impact me enough that I would get it tattooed on me much later down the road.

The quote is: "Sometimes things have to go wrong in order to go right."

I cannot emphasize just how taken aback I was by this. I remember little else about the book, but I remember reading that and immediately reflecting on my life. It led to me realize that for every horrible thing that has happened to me, or even around me, something good has also come out of it. It is this quote that helps me safely leave the "sitting with it" stage and begin the "learn from it" stage. It's not always that simple, of course. After all, sometimes the "right" doesn't show itself for a while nor is it always obvious, but it gives me that nudge that I need for me to be able to "move through it."

Also, random sidebar, I love the Hoobastank reference lol.

I wish this was helpful. It was not.

Did anyone else hear Alicia say ‘you are the best authority on your life’ and automatically think ‘no I’m not, am I?’

you are your own Guru, its so important to hear that! It heals

I love what you said about anger. So many people who struggle to manage their anger seem to struggle to separate anger as an emotion from the actions it often brings which are often unhealthy, unhelpful, and inappropriate. It's always ok to be angry just as it's always ok to feel any other emotion, but just as with any other emotion we need to be conscious of how we express and release it. Sure, you could express and release your anger by getting physically or verbally aggressive, but using your words appropriately to self-advocate, venting TO your loved ones (not ON, important difference), listening to some loud music, going for a run, or writing in a rage-journal are all much less destructive ways to express and release those feelings. Don't shun your anger, shun your aggression and malice.

Jono, one of the ways you directly helped me was your videos on Radical Acceptance. Could you please re-visit this topic? I think we all need that right now.

Emotions are adaptive, though. So when we deprioritise emotion for survival, our survival responses are malfunctioning.

Knew it was a story about him, but didn't know it was a Leggoed documentary

Thought jono said something else when said ship

I’m using parts work to help me move through my emotions. It’s so hard. I’m also going through all this stress. I’m learning to be easier on myself and sticking with my emotions.

jonathan, you should really watch this is us and make videos like you do with gilmore girls! it's a great show and i feel like every single character needs a lot of therapy lol

Thank you for this video. I will practice your advice of sitting with my emotions and letting them flow instead of inhibiting them.
I am going through immense grief over a past situationship with a narcissist. I cant understand how i was blinded by their sweet snake tongue. Time to practice emotional well-being.

Sometimes darkness can show you the light

Great video! It was a bit jarring in a good way to hear Alicia speak about her anger because it is almost the exact same journey I went through - my mantra for a time was literally "my anger is trying to tell me something"!! Thanks for this.

At the COPE UP, COPE UP CABANAAAA

When he said "It's coping time!" i felt that.

Truly a therapy of all time!

JONO!! YOU DID NOT JUST "THATS WHAT SHE SAID" 🤣

I use light and dark metaphors a lot (ex; my username). One afternoon, my boy brought home a school paper of "things I want to be when I grow up." Alongside NBA Player and President, my son wrote "a light in the world." If there's too much darkness, you can't 'take the darkness away', rather, there isn't enough light. Add more good. If there is too much bad, there isn't enough good.

We are like a ship in the sea except the sea is controlled by the oligarchy.

I have also beendealing with more and more emotional stress, and the final straw was a physical injury.

Three days ago, the power went out citywide, and my neighborhood was one of the last to be brought back online. When I got home night before last, I couldn't see anything, misjudged where the driveway is, & kicked the curb. I had to call my mom (my parents live in the main house on the same property) to help me stand up. Yesterday, my partner took me to urgent care because it was hurting worse and worse; no signs of a break, but hairline fractures can take awhile to show, so they gave me crutches & said to keep off it as much as possible.

Suddenly, I'm crying over everything, because I am literally (almost literally) broken. I can't even feed myself, or at least I have to stand in the kitchen to eat because I can't move more than a step at a time while carrying anything. Having to sit with it gives me the time I need to process everything, only the pain distracts me.