Low Self-Esteem: Signs You Have It, How You Get It, How to Increase It

No my parents were great but l was bullied for years. I was called ugly by boys and l didn't have boyfriends plus l struggle in school..

Do you have a vid on imposter syndrome?

Im afraid to fail so i delay delay untill its to late or i half asd try

what if I dont think im good enough so I dont try... but im also the lasher?

I feel like I’ve missed so many opportunities to improve my self esteem and confidence. I’m 22 and it just feels like I can’t overcome my inner struggles and it will stay like this forever. But I wanna be more confident so bad, I sometimes can’t stand the awkward situations that arise in daily life.

The behaviours and attitude you have with low self esteem can be quite hard to spot at first. It’s laid there in plain sight but your low self worth usually camouflages it. Only recently did I realize how critical I was being to myself all the time under the guise of just being honest and realistic. The more digging I did the more I found these toxic little beliefs that blocked me off from enjoying just being myself and progressing naturally. It’s really interesting how the brain will run in this deeply flawed circuit just because we see it as our “normal”

I like to be hones with myself though, I know i suck why gaslight myself into thinking something that isn't true?

Like the editing

Such a good video

Thank you for this. Very straightforward and genuinely good explanation and advice❤

You have a lovely voice so makes it easier to listen to you

It only lasts a few months then collapses.

Sing Doc !

Abcd

When im alone I’m better than beyonce. When I’m around others im a shy little girrrr

The concept of self-praise being the foundation of self-esteem deeply moved me. I am making an effort to frequently acknowledge my accomplishments, fostering inner strength and confidence.

Easier said than done it. I can perfectly understand those explanations, but can't feel safe enough to change my behaviour.

Everyone ive ever trusted betrayed me. My parents barely noticed i was around. If they did notice me it was to let me know what a loser i am. But at least being an ugly stupid loser has kept me from marrying some poor girl and destroy her life also.

I'm very thankful to have access to all these great videos. So useful, thanks for sharing

Wow I love this

I have low self esteem all my life . My dad was verbally abusive to my mum and broke things from his temper . My mother had a mental break and she was too protective of me . Then I got married and my self esteem became worse . I was always helping people and people pleasing .

At early age of 10 years old I have started to work. The place I was working was abusive towards children there was a lot of children working they would slap the shit out of you if you have done even littlest thing wrong. Knowing that I could be slapped for anything that I do wrong, I looked whatever I was doing with doubt. Whatever I was doing I was always in doubt if it is right or wrong. One day after another slapping event, I delibrated running away from work and telling my mother that I was being beaten by the others. I deliberated I don't know how much but I took the courage to run away to my family, to my mother. I came to her crying in corner of the room telling what happened. After a while the owner of the shop that I was working came and asked to my mother to send me back to work. After telling my mother about my situation what do you think my mother has done? She send me back to that hell.

This happened while I was a child. Unto this day I still strugle expressing what I think because of being wrong. Always questioning myself. That is why I always look towards other people's support if what I am doing right. And if I am trying something original that comes from me like writing I always look at my creation with doubt and without acknowledgment of others I discard whatever I am doing.
It's real hard questioning yourself at every step that you take. Looking whatever you do with doubt.

Call a cop.

Man this is deep 😖😣😔

Bonne vidéo ! Personnellement, pour booster la self esteem je conseille le livre "CONFIANCE EN SOI, ESTIME DE SOI", de Nathan Stone. Y a tout ce qu'il faut savoir, c'est clair, pas de discours superflu, le top. Je connais beaucoup de personnes de qui ça a changé la vie !

Just listen to the judge

NPD/IED parents sprinkled in with ODD school bullies for good measure definitely took a toll on my self-esteem. I still struggle with it unfortunately as I’m still stuck in the environment that reinforced it.

❤ I’m grateful you took the time to make this video. Thank you!

Thank You! Dr. M

Doctor, after watching your video, I feel like you are watching me in my entire life. I saved your video, and then I can watch it again again . Thank you.
Comme on le dit en français tu me psychanalyses dans 8 mn.

Dr. Marks can low self esteem or low confidence keep you in a state of anxiety when you struggle with things like OCD or can OCD (anxiety disorders in general) cause low self esteem or lack of confidence?

Cold hearted narcissistic mother still trys to force her views down my throat repeatedly,no matter how much i tell her to stop shoving her fear down my throat. Trys to force me to do what she thinks is right for my life.

Toxic Boomer parents

Mine has increased since Menopause. I am currently working through, so I can be a better me ❤

I can relate to that, my parent mother more. She is now in her 80 and I m pass age 60 and I could see clear she doesn't change. I m sorry for children and adults who have careless mother.

I wonder if too much praise and approval from parent(s) can cause low self esteem. My mom has always prasied everything I've done. EVERYTHING... with WAY too much emphasis and emotion. When I was a kid I could've drawn a circle and she'd have said "oh... my.. GOD. THIS. This is BETTER THAN THE MONA LISA. You're superhuman. You deserve to be KING OF EARTH for this UNBELIEVABLE CIRCLE!!!!" ..I'm paraphrasing.. and maybe embellishing.. but I've always HATED being praised by anyone for anything. I've also always (as long as I can remember) had low self esteem. I feel defective, inferior.. all the things you listed in the video. I feel like I'm a "textbook case." I've never really understood why.
I did have some trouble making friends as a teenager, but who didn't?

I had debilitating low self esteem throughout my entire 20’s. I hated myself and the way I looked. This was due to bullying in school and I never had anyone in my family to help me build up my resistance. This cause me to deal with men that I looked up to but took advantage of me. I refused the guys that actually liked me. Now in my late 30’s Ive finally gotten to the place of loving myself. Its a daily struggle but i’m healthy now.

Jesus can change anybody. He is in the business of making things new. Try Him 😉 if you don't believe it. Trust and receive—then you will know the Truth.

I hate myself so much I feel like I will always be this way and I will never be able to be happy.

hey the thumb picture ... you were wearing a super hero uniform that is false advertising....lol
oooooh good video doc.

Why low self-esteem?????????

Kuch bhi nonsense

I appreciate you doc and I love the video thanks

I devloped very low self-esteem thanks to my wife's gaslighting over a long period.

What is it when I find myself as a good person and things, but I believe people cannot value those things based on experiences, not necessarily feeling bad but believing others cannot truly value you.

There's just alot of valid reasons for me to have low self esteem. That's the issue. Yeah sure people shouldn't compare and should accept who they are, but as long as I have awareness, observational skills, and ability to judge myself from 3rd person view, I will always have self loathing because I know Im not good enough. It's not conditioning, rather just observation and conclusion. Sometimes, life is just the way it is regardless of how much you don't want it to be that way.

Brilliant, deepest thanks for your compassionate, so clear and accurate work. Dr Tracey, you are a blessing.

My low self-esteem started at an early age. I carried it for a long time. Afraid to take risks.

I need to book a few sessions with this woman.

Thank you Dr. Marks for this video! It helps a lot!

It's not necessarily just childhood. By that logic, this can't change. I think my issues sprung from early teen / twenties. Make mistakes / get negative feedback / have bad experiences enough, you start to lose trust in yourself. This manifests in life / interactions and spirals. Get caught in it long enough and it will change you.