Overcoming Post Graduate Depression | Haydee Alonso | TEDxUTEP

I graduated elementary with no problem but high school was different I was kinda depressed months after graduation, 2 years later the same depression came right back but I am slowly trying to loose it

this has clarified some things I am currently going throught . I am glad I found this

This video is totally relatable

Wow. thank you for sharing your story - we don't always anticipate how post-grad depression can impact us after such a structured experience - we might not even realize it until time passes. As you mentioned, it can manifest in a way that may not appear to be depression; until it does. Thank you for sharing this 4 years ago; I'm positive that this speech is immensely valuable now for those who graduated during COVID. It has impacted me and gives me a lot of hope

I just feel like I lost the point of living after graduation… everything suddenly becomes so gloomy and hopeless

It's hit me I'm officially 4 years out of high school - so I'm as long out as I was in. It's gone so fast. I feel like a part of me was lost - as if I literally lost a piece of myself in high school, and I couldn't get that piece unstuck. I think it's mainly due to the fact I've started to realize how much I regret. I had lost my mother when I was 13 (about 2 weeks before my 8th grade promotion) which sent me into a spiral during high school. Only sleeping 3 hours a night. Most of that time is now extremely fuzzy and I can't even see the time line. I question if I even went to school during my freshman year, because I truly have no memories. I just hope I can truly look back one day and be okay with where I ended up, because I can't seem to shake this off.

I'm a recent graduate with this depression. I have been applying for graduate schemes, jobs, and internships for over a month now and have just been rejected. I feel hopeless that gonna end up a waitress forever even with my degree...

Pretty similar experience. Have been studying at home because of an incident at my boarding school. Feeling of Uneasiness that I have no future. No stable path. Everything. Mayby it was just depression getting to me. Could be other things. I don't know. I will try to make my self useful enough so I could work in an IT field.

After graduation, I really felt something different. It's hard to describe but at least, after watching this, I realized that I'm not alone. It feels like breaking up with a relationship.

Thank you for this. I appreciate your story telling and reminder we’re going to be ok.

I am going through this situation.Recently graduated from architecture but every moment I feel I will be a failure or not suitable for this or will never find happiness or success.

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I am going through this right now after having received my masters degree. I had no idea I have been going through this until now. My program and all the people in it were so close and amazing and I’m scared that I’m never going to have that closeness with anyone and another program again.

I graduated from college in 2021 and i got a job and also got admission in higher studies... But i can't sustain both so i dropout from higher studies but after that i was bored from my job and leave it.. Now i don't know what to do i, m extremely demotivated and depressed. I, m trying for funded scholarship but i don't know how because i, m from a remote area..now i feel a little better after this video and some comments i thought i was alone... But still no idea what to do..

So happy to see that this problem is experienced by so many people......will get through it slowly❤

Just graduated yesterday. Here we go. Definitely feel lost right now, even with graduate school possibly in the future, not the same certainly a little lost after undergrad

Just graduated highschool

I thought I was the only one experiencing depression after graduating from my master's in design.

I am going through this now. I graduate with my Bachelors in Biology and I am extremely passionate about ecology and sustainability. I am terrified I won't make it in my field. I want to make a difference in the world. After graduating, I feel lost and unsure of how the next steps are going to happen. Feels great to know I am not alone in this

They need to make a new college where it literally teaches you how to do real life skills like parenting, cooking, organizing, job stuff, how to make real friends, etc because as silly as that sounds I think our education system is missing a lot, however once you graduate you get to work on ALL of that :)

I'm about to graduate in two weeks and I feel like I have no direction on what's next. All our lives, everything is planned for us and we just do what is set. But now you have to figure it out on your own and sometimes with little or no guidance on how to make a life for our own selves

Thank you so much

some places can be even more barbaric after a scholarship.

I don't even know how to begin looking for a job in design. I graduated a year ago, and I have been a freelancer for that long in a family event. I need money, and I feel like the family job is replacing me with my (favored) cousin who is an intern. I'm paid so little, and the family keeps asking about my job. I feel so much shame for being unemployed.

Imagine grinding for years, and then it ends abruptly, and a year later you still can’t get a job despite sacrificing your relationships, money, mental and physical health, youth, etc.

I’ve been feeling like after I graduated so lost……

Thank you for this video and making me feel that I am not alone in this. With every passing day of my post grad course, I question if I even took the right course..was flying away from my country and making this choice was wrong? This gets even worse when all I get is rejections for jobs that I apply. The fear of future being unknown is real. I wonder if I am wasting my efforts, money, time and every other everything.

i just finished undergrad this past weekend. took me six years and i’m 26. finishing undergrad was my main priority. i put it before everything. I already work a decent job. i now feel like the excitement i was anticipating from graduation is over. it was literally just a moment. really don’t know what i want next.

I graduate in february an im already feeling depressed about it. My whole family is in washington state and my university is in florida. I was always so eager to graduate and be done with it but now its right around the corner. I'm going to miss the environment , my beautiful school and the people I've met. I dont know what to think of it.

still battling 2 years after college graduation

Graduated last 2019. Been on and off looking for jobs. Its such a social pressure because in univ we had this vision of ourselves when we graduate. "The definition of success evolves" is what hit me. Success is relative, success changes. It means that success is dynamic, not an end destination. Success is a process of a series on trying and failing, of hoping and getting back up on your knees. Post graduate depression is something that should be discussed more.

Getting degrees wastage of time, money & energy

Im graduate with disapointment. Expected to have decent salary, housing, cars, spouse that i could think of just to be end up underemployment. I was stuck on what to do next,what my future looks. The requirement to get a job changes too quick. Even highschool level of workers can make more salary than I do.

From now on 72% of highschoolers avoiding going to college because of our recent result. Now all I got is student debt.

Im 6 months post graduation and this hits a lot. I was lucky to land a great job but it landed me in a city far enough away from home where i was rarely seeing my friends, the same ones i lived with in college and knew since elementary. So not knowing any one here and being an introvert is tough. Im pretty much going through culture shock in a way. Now days i just spend my evening sitting on tik tok, netflix casually scrolling tinder hoping something kick starts an adventure. The pandemic and every headline about the environment, politics, nukes really make it hard for me to want to be optimistic and proactive. I feel like im waiting for whatever next historic event to happen, happens.

I'm currently going through this myself....I graduated in May of this year, 2022, and a job I thought I would have after school....fell through. That disappointed me...a lot. And so then I was like okay....i have to find a job...kept applying....and haven't found one yet. And I'm really discouraged and I don't even know what I want to do with my life. I've been in school and now adulthood is here, I thought I would transition into that with no problem....well here I am...very afraid 😅 I don't even know if I want to do the thing I went to school for....😕
Nice to know I'm not alone...

It feels like as though nobody in society worries about the jobless . Why aren't young adults taught on how to correctly ace interviews ? It’s such a crucial issue.

This is exactly why I'm afraid to finish my PhD... I know that this is what would happen and I'm scared bc I Dont know how to handle that

I wish i could stay in school forever. I dont want to run my own life, i dont want a job or kids. I want to stay and complain about lessons with my friends for the rest of my life. I wish I could stay in school forever and never grow up. The structure of school is my life, i dont want to go without it. Makes me tempted to just become a teacher to stay in school, but it wouldn’t be the same. Sucks.

That part about displacement among folks who can’t relate & still working that “basic” gig after financial debt & no experience in your field. Insult to injury was friends & colleagues anticipating my demise & failure at launching business. Basically speaking my doom into existence before any true obstacles have risen😔

Really great it the only one that touch the exact things that I felt after i graduate

I recently graduated and having a hard time to getting hired. I'm not sure about my future and I'm scared. I'm still waiting for that call. Hoping that I will be employed before this month ends.

Update: I get hired before September ends. Tho, the salary was small but I'm still glad that I got that. I am looking forward for the experience and learning more than the salary. Since I'm a fresh graduate that needs to have a experience before getting employed by a bigger companies.

My stomach turned once during the video. Being hit by a bus - that sums it up so well. I'm glad I found this video.
I graduated yesterday. With a good grade (not a very good one, I wanted a very good one and I'm still working on accepting that). I have a job, already during my studies I worked. Still, I have the feeling that even lifting my head is a heavy task.

I think I felt this when i graduated High School. I know it's not the same, but it is another "bubble" of life, you get a diploma which his practically useless, and you look to higher education to get you out of the menial day to day jobs. For me it was tenfold as I saw my friends twice that Summer, felt pressured to know what to do with my life, and tried to figure out if writing fiction was the best for me. There was also a sense of entitlement I got, similar to what she was talking about with her Masters, except mine is pretty sad in that it was AP classes. I know it's pretty sad, but it was unconscious in a way. To end up like "everyone else" hurt my ego, definitely for the better.

I wish everyone the best of luck in any graduation!

Thank needed to hear something like this.

I love reading all the comments. It made me feel that I'm not alone. Reading the comments also made me feel that I have someone to talk about my feelings. Like everyone here, I graduated from university but still waiting for the ceremony. Decided to took a months break before searching for a job that is related to my degree. I know that it will be harder to find a job since the pandemic happened but I want to keep trying. The gloomy and rainy season in our country added to my graduation blues. I also quit social media beside yt since it took toll on my mental health seeing every of my batchmates having a job. I just hope that it will get better soon.

I never went to college, i started working right after high school so this is kinda weird to me, why would someone get depressed if he'll get a better job than me? oO

I am currently writing my masters thesis and really struggeling to finish it just because out of the fear about what happens afterwards. I don't know what to do, what I want and which choices are the best or worst ones for me, there are so many opportunities yet nothing feels right and I am afraid that I'll not be able to sustain myself financially and mentally at the same time. So good to hear I am not alone with this and I am quite sure that after the pandemic there are even more graduates feeling that way.

Maybe dont put yourself on a pedestal because you memorized info from books ? Maybe realize you are nothing just like the rest of us ?

I was a fricking star in college and involved in everything. After graduating I feel super lost, unemployed and not happy.