Are They Right for You? (Love Languages Explained)

It's interesting how the Hussey empire becomes more and more mafiotic and nepotistic, bringing in another and another and another unqualified person from their family and friends to peddle common sense answers for buckets of dollars.

Such an insightful conversation! Love it

He never gets on the train, texts back if I do, ignores subtly my 4 or 5 invites, not texting again but I still like him

Yeah! Stephen’s back xxxxx what a great conversation xxx

What if they should all be included to make a relationship better....love language must do

my bf has been demanding that I tell him I love him. like 5 times a day. he left to go do his own thing in life, we don't spend time together, we don't build on our relationship, we dont make love, etc. so we talk on the phone and text. almost every time we talk even multiple times a day he expects me to tell him I love him. this morning I tried to say good morning. he complained about that
cuz he only wanted me to say "I love you" not good morning. hes constantly upset with everything I say even if he's asked me questions on text and I call to respond to them. I MUST SAY I love you first before anything so he doesn't get upset. what the hell is going on here??? we fight daily he doesnt care that he left to go do his own thing. I must tell him I love him this is starting to drain me of my energy. I actually feel like leaving him

Instead of a million love languages, can we promote Emotional Intelligence? Then we all stand a better chance.

I actually like where Matthew spoke about how any kind of need could be a love language. At first I thought oh well thats too scattered, stick to the 5, lol, but then I thought you know, yes! And perhaps that would be a great thing to do is both people write out whats important to experience/feel/receive and even so maybe have it on a check-in board of what you're full or low in. Some of my off script love languages would be adventure (activities, exploration), spontaneity (unplanned excitement), relationship building (fun games or activities to connect and uncover more of each other). And perhaps many of these could fall under the main 5 love languages as subcategories or how one of the main languages could be expressed. Such as relationship building games could be under quality time.
I think its about time we give understanding and growing relationships its due worth and service. People put more time into learning a sport and training as a team in a sport than they would ever in a relationship but does it not make sense to treat a relationship almost like a sport? Dont you need to talk about how to speak to each other, when in a heated conversation what is fair play and whats hurtful, or how to be there in the way you uniquely need when you're going through something. Do we not need to train and untrain ourselves in order to become synchronized and then be able to more effortlessly give other areas our attention while having a harmonious strong stable relationship and reach to greater heights? We can't scoff at what it takes to have a teammate relationship. We cant act like we shouldn't have to do a thing and it'll just happen. Did you do that for a sport? Did you do that for your degree in college or your highschool diploma? There was study, learning, and adjusting for improvement.

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This SO important! And YES, I do look forward to seeing you in my in-box! Hello Stephen❤🎉

Harry Potter and Hermione Granger together at last ❤

Re Love Languages - I often find that what people don’t feel is important for them I receive, are often what they give mostly .. in my experience. Men have said that their love language is touch but they only give acts of service ..
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Matthew I totally agree with you I have been saying this for years that it is what we have a deficit in that we crave and then we think that is our love language when it's just that's what our relationship is missing currently

The Five Love Languages was written by a Baptist minister (Gary Chapman).

I agree with the idea of a balanced need, and the idea that when something is missing, you keenly feel the need for it.
The language of ‘gifts’ has never jived with me, because I am a very non-materialistic person. I appreciate a thoughtful gift, but it isn’t a thing I ‘need’ to feel loved.

@Matthew Hussey Part 2 - On the point you make in the book about men and fertility. I have a number of male friends who, when they finally decided to have children with their partners, were faced with the reality of low sperm counts and the inability to salvage viable sperm for IVF. The sheer despair of not being able to give a woman the ultimate gift of your sperm with a sufficient count for natural conception or successful IVF completely demasculinised them. In my experience, men of my generation (I am now 53) in their 20s, 30s and 40s had a completely distorted view of themselves, relationships and family/children. I have not researched whether this information is out there, but I would love to know how younger generations perceive this.

@Matthew Hussey - part 1, I am on chapter 11 of your book "Love Life" and may I suggest that you expand or add to this chapter the male obsession with family, aka having a child? It is currently missing as this chapter focuses exclusively on the female experience. As a woman who in my thirties had to deal with men (33 and over) who offered me heaven on earth because they wanted children. I think everything in your book applies to both sexes. Men won't come right out and say they want a family or children, but they will offer you the ideal relationship and suddenly ask if you don't want a child, supposedly subtly (not) telling you that they are open to it if you want it too. It blew my mind the first 2 times I experienced it and by the 3rd time the ideal relationship picture was offered, it had become a red flag for me who never wanted children. This guy wants kids!!! I think this is important because I did not appreciate the manipulation to use my womb. I remember telling the second guy who wouldn't accept that I was ending the relationship over this that if I could lend him my womb and get it back when he was done using it, I would, but since I couldn't and couldn't give it away for free, ending the relationship was the best I could offer. I really did not appreciate the manipulation.

How brave of you Matthew and Audrey to speak publicly about your relationship needs together. Admirable! I have found I overcompensate for my unmet childhood needs and overgive to a partner which ultimately becomes the norm and consequently leaves me feeling unseen and undervalued. Thought provoking all of you. Thank you 🤗🤗🤗 Have a hug each lol

I bought Tears of the Kingdom when it came out and haven't played it yet, you've convinced me that it's time to give it a go!

I love Audrey, I understand why you’ve chosen her… so wise and sweet intelligent feminine lady😍

Very interesting I enjoyed it very much!!! So many things I missed in my dating years, my life may have been very different

Hello Matthew, I love your videos; they've helped me gain a great understanding of what a healthy relationship should truly be like. Can you make a video discussing arranged marriages, especially from the perspective of an Indian like myself? What are your thoughts on it, and what are its pros and cons? @MatthewHussey .

Audrey, Watch the Dark Knight. Then you will know what the league of shadows is. 🙂😉

Mathew Haussy I DO NOT HAVE A BROKEN HEART 😅😅😅😅😅 SINGLE WITH NO THOUGHTS OF ANY GUY Fitnessn30sec

omg, I love the armchairs!

Steven, you’re looking great 😍

You play Zelda!!! Love you guys even more, I've loved these games for 30 years ❤️

My love language For me physical touch, quality time and services…just you being beside me I’m ok ❤

Love Audrey 💖 she is an inspiration, you're lucky to have each other

Beautiful podcast there Matthew. Is your brother single? 😜😜

I’ve gone into a dating site and I have not put picture of my whole body as I do get messaged about my breast as I’m a small size waste so they notice alit in the pasted I’ve been messaged by men and I have ignored them and changed the subject now reading your book last night and I suddenly had a light bulb moment that just changing the subject isn’t setting boundaries down to how I want somebody to see me as dating etc or going into a relationship now my hardest part I e never been taught the average things a person should have been taught as a child growing I was treated you are a child you don’t really have a opinion so how do I go about setting those boundaries when somebody mentions a body part of mine or bet you look great in a bikini as I want somebody to see me as me I’m more than my body 😢😮😊❤

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Feeling seen and heard definitely a vulnerability for me. Brings up a lot of sadness from my childhood. Difficult to know when you're ready to get into a relationship when there's still sensitive spots like that

Love Life just like Atomic Habits it’s one of the best books I’ve ever read 🩵

To have a healthy, fulfilled, balanced relationship surely you need abit from every love language??

@Matthew Hussey I dare you to write the male equivalent book ‘Get the Girl’ ! I love your work!

Is it just me or Stephen looks more handsome and masculine? I like the way he thinks 😊.

I completely agree. I’ve said this in the past: My love language is whatever I’m not getting enough of.

The love language test. Was like taking the when you grow up. What do you want to be test.

I'm only halfway through the episode, but this is gold!! I've never really found myself at home in any of the five classic love languages, but the ones Audrey and Matthew talk about are really big for me. Anticipation of someones needs, be seen, thoughtfulness. Those are my love languages! ❤

I love that Haudrey is the practical one when Stephen is being philosophical and Matthew is poetical ❤

Aw would luv to win that trip its mibe thk u kaura

Matthew is an absolute genius, I feel like he has completely changed my life, his advice is spot on every single time, for anyone feeling low, and that was me just a short time ago, listen to what he says, take it on board and you will come out on the other side, happiness is a choice 😊

It took me YEEEAAAARS to get used to hugs in UK. Its really sweet, but its massively difficult coming from "a cold country"....Kissing someone, "peck on cheek", was so horrid I shuddered.....After 20 years, I am putting up with it...Thats why I failed on dates from "dating apps", as I offered men my hand to shake when meeting....They did not call me back....

those aren't really love languages they're relationship maintenance. love is the convergence of chemistry, connection and compatibility (body, mind, lifestyle) - once you find someone you love you gotta put in the work to keep the relationship viable. love is not enough.

You nailed Mississauga! (With a slight British accent, lol). Long overdue topic, I completely agree with the study and conclusion that love needs to be expressed in a balanced way and that these 5 are not the only ways, but a good starting point for us to articulate complex feelings, and that they can ebb and flow pending where you’re at in life and what you may have been starved in or already fulfilled in ☺️ great discussion thanks

Obsessed!

oh, Stephen 🎉 long time no see ❤

Love languages also emerge from what we love to give.