BRIDEZILLAS Going Too Far (as usual) - REACTION

As a pastors’ wife we see brides/grooms leave a chair open for deceased loved ones all the time. Sometimes they’ll even leave photos and/or flowers. Sounds to me like this bride is more the issue than the cousins.

Also, as someone who’s had multiple surgeries for a brain aneurysm, the other bride is totally in the wrong! As if we can possibly know when and where we’ll be if an aneurysm causes issues! We want to live life to the fullest like anyone else!

How many parties and gifts does that bride want???? Don't go! Run!

Maybe a memorial chair with some flowers with a ribbon with his name? Or something like that? People aren’t normally like that in a wedding and think it’s a sweet, loving memorial and respect.

Not the same, however my Daddy passed two weeks before my daughter’s high school graduation. We saved a chair for Daddy.

First story....Run away, run away!

You make me laugh.❤

My dad passed a few years before I was even engaged. My husband never got to meet him. I had both my younger and older brother walk me down the aisle. We had a photo of dad on a table with our grandparents as they all have passed away. We lit candles on the table for each of them. At the meal, I moved my dads picture by me because it made me feel a bit like he was there.

And instead of a father daughter dance, I had a mother daughter dance with my mom and we danced to At Last by Etta James as it was my parents first dance song at their wedding. Then, my awesome father in law danced with me to a song that made me think of my dad. My husband is amazing and fully supported all of this stuff. I cannot imagine what that father went through in that moment. I really hope he left that relationship as that bride sounded like an incensitive butthead.

Yall when I saw my name and saw her pronounce it I almost died (you did amazing it’s just not how you say it but that’s how most people pronounce it it made me really happy)

I cant even....with the story about the grooms dead son and his absolutely selfish POS out of touch "bride". You deserve the streets and nobody to love you EVER again. Not sorry she is a terrible human being and I wanna throw up from her heartlessness.

It’s literally called memorial seating sweetheart. You should be ashamed and get over yourself💯

You really rethink who your marrying you! People set seats aside for deceased relatives all the time. It’s really disgusting how this bride is acting!

Dont marry the horrible woman ,who wont leave a seat for a child who has passed 😢😢😢😢

My dad passed away 4 months before my niece's wedding. She was devastated because she loved her grandpa so much & wished her future kids to know him.
She had an empty seat next to my mom with his cowboy boots sitting in front of the chair & his cowboy hat on the chair. Daddy was there!!

I like your videos a lot. But i do have to say american weddings boggle me. If bridesmaides etc choose their own dress, yes then they pay for it, but if you (bride/groom) decides which dresses etc, etc, then the bride and groom should pay for that, i would. My view, then my dime. Also what i am used to honestly, but then again I, my friends and family are not american. So is that an culture thing? I am trying to understand

Not a wedding story, but my mom passes away 3 months before my high school graduation. Several months after her passing, one of her so-called "best friends" called me freaking out because my mom had offered to help her homeschool her daughter (14 at the time) and now my mom was dead and she didn't know what to do. Like, okay, sorry, my mom made this promise she can't keep, but seriously?

Run groom as fast as you can she is wrong

Um... isn't Bea pronounced Bee.... like Bea (Beatrice) Arthur?

Yea the empty chair one is messed up. Just because of a male cousin? Wow. He even compromised to have the last chair in the back. I would insist on a front chair. Heck I would have a break in the groomsmen probably. Just wow.

I think that that is Sweet!

Leaving a chair reserved for a deceased loved one is not unusual or crazy. I had two reserved chairs in the front for my mom and grandma. My grandpa walked me down the aisle. When we got to the chairs, stopped, and placed a rose on each seat. One chair on on side and one on the other side.

Really guys i don't understand the western culture for weddings. How is it expected of the bridesmaids & MOH to pay for the bachelor party & help plan the wedding & even pay for things then also bring a gift. Also why does the bride has to approve the dresses, hair & makeup. It's fair at that point to expect the bride to pay for them but just why!!! Why doesn't everyone pay for themselves, the bride for the wedding & bachelor party, since she wants it a certain way (expect the individual expenses in the bachelor party, everyone should pay for themselves & if they can't afford to then don't come, not that big of a deal)
Bridesmaids should pay for their dresses & the bride shouldn't approve them, she can just request the color or the theme nothing more. If they want to coordinate together & get the same dresses its up to them. Close family & friends in my culture bring gifts or money to the newlyweds after the wedding when visiting them in their new home, it's expected but not obligatory. The bride & groom should fully pay for the wedding, their parents can help them but guests are not expected to pay for it. Do what you can afford, no body cares.
Friends of the bride can definitely help her in the planing but it's not an assigned task & it's not obligatory, it's a voluntary thing.

At our wedding we had an area of pictures of our loved ones who had passed but that we wished could have been there. It was next to a table of gifts we set out for the guests as they arrived. It was the first day of spring and an outside wedding. We had so many people come to us after the ceremony that said the pictures were a beautiful touch as it was up the entire ceremony as if they were there.

My dad passed two months before my wedding. My grandpa, his dad, walked me down the isle. I insisted with the minister that he ask the traditional Who gives away the Bride. I had my grandpa say, In Place of her father, I do. ❤

Wedding vs. BIL dying: I don't think I would be that controlled, meaning someone was going to be horizontal, and it's not me!

I hope that cheesecake guy finds a woman who is way less sprinkly as that green one. He is cute and deserves better.

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I saved a seat at my wedding for my deceased grandma. My husband printed out and framed a picture of her and set it in the seat. It was so beautiful and we are still married a decade later.

I don't see anything wrong with an empty chair. I had a smaller venue at my own wedding so that wasn't possible, but I did have a candle lit "for those not here today". So maybe that could be an option for compromise?

Oh hell no! The bride not wanting to leave a chair for his DEAD child, you are insane. And single!

The lady that said she didnt want her wedding to be a laughing stock for having an empty seat reserved for the groom's deceased son, how did she thinks that way? is that how she usually react when she saw someone did something out of the respect for their deceased loved ones? LAUGHTING at them? Smh

Then how about you don't invite the cousins that seemed to ruin every event you have! that seems like common sense that you are seriously lacking!!! I think it's a beautiful sentiment that your fiance wants to leave an open seat for his son. Do you have any idea how many people have family members that died that they just forget they ever existed within a matter of months?! It doesn't matter what any of your guests think the only opinions that matter are yours and your fiance's it's your wedding. And just a hint that means HIS TOO!

Maybe OP dealing with the fiancé’s deceased son could compromise by having a Remembrance area at the reception. Both my husband and I had lost a parent when we got married, so we had portraits of both sets of parents on the cake table.

Leaving a chair open is actually quite common and i have been to a few weddings where they have done that. My bestfriend for example cause her mom died before she got married . There was a nice pic of her on the seat in front row.

As a wedding photographer, it’s very common for people to set up an area for those they lost or a chair for them during the ceremony and everyone thinks it’s very sweet. Usually that’s for a grandparent or parent. If I lost my child I’d probably do something similar. That breaks my heart.

Wow. At our wedding, we had a whole table dedicated to people who couldn't be there because they'd passed. Granted, it was a small table with pictures and a poem, not empty chairs, but that's just how we did it. One empty chair wouldn't hurt, it would most likely make people tear up, especially if they knew the guy.

For the aneurysm story, aneurysms kind of happened out of nowhere. I had one when I was 10. There was no notion of it ever being there. I had no idea until it ruptured. Had I not gotten to the hospital fast enough I would’ve passed away.
They never would’ve known when it could’ve ruptured. He could literally be taking out the garbage and then you know it ruptures (which is what happened to me). There’s not really much you can do to prevent it. But getting pissed about not knowing and asking for a refund is quite ridiculous. Maybe he didn’t want her to know maybe he didn’t want anyone to know, and now you’ve ruined a whole relationship for no reason.

my fiance was very close to his late grandma and he talks about her all the time as a huge part of his life and gets teary eyed every time. i want to surprise him with an empty seat reserved for her at our wedding. that one OP pissed me off.

It's Bea (pronounced Bee) I'm also a Bea

My boyfriend's mother died I definitely told him that we would have a chair and food and all of that for her especially her favorite drink an apple martini

Deceased son's chair goes front row! Period? You can put a photo of the son and that sign that says "forever in our hearts " or something similar.

Hope the guy that lost his son did not marry this horrible person.

To the Bridezilla that thought she was owed a Dowry, she needs to take a history lesson and be reminded that her family begged his family to marry her and owes the grooms family almost a million dollars to marry her for at least 1 year

An empty seat is reserved for the memory, of lost loved ones yatah

My nephew had a place of honor for his deceased mother along with a beautiful portrait of her. No one laughed or made fun. Of course this was a Wedding with people who have grace and manners.

Dowries are allowed in some cultures, such as Hmong, Indian, or Arabic cultures.

If a chair for a deceased person is too much, which I could understand to a degree that it could be upsetting for some people on a day to celebrate a wedding not everyone will feel 100% comfortable on seeing it for the days celebrations. But screw them this is THEIR wedding, it shouldn't matter what others think and husbands deserve equal plannings and such in weddings.

She could totally have compromised and figured out a different way to include his deceased son in the wedding meaningfully. There's many ways to do this and many weddings have done this for people who had died right before their wedding. If the chair wasn't comfortable they could've set up a shrined area in a section of the room with a photo, notes, flowers or candles. Could've also placed a nice photo and flower at the empty chair so people would understand that it was a mourning ritual without people having to ask "what's the empty chair for"? Ect. There's probably a billion ways to do this kind of thing.

Totally the ahole for being unable to compromise, something you should be willing to do in a meaningful relationship, with the husband and being unable to understand the loss of his son is clearly extremely deep for him.

I’ll be like “best wishes and good luck with your wedding” Peace

These bridezillas can’t be real?? You have to be an evil-heartless person.