What to Expect from Marriage Counseling After Infidelity #AskATherapist

Still didn’t learn much

Where are you based , am in South Africa- Gauteng

Wait...that is how wisdom teeth are supposed to be removed...right?....right?

I needed this, thank you.

Do you deal with people after separating from a toxic marriage after betrayal trauma? Or this solely marital counseling?

I wish my husband and I had a therapist like you where we live. My husband chose to have an affair after 18 years of marriage and two children, that was three years ago. We tried 5 different therapists and nothing worked for us. I’m still triggered almost on a daily basis and it’s exhausting and damaging to our family. We live in Minnesota, and any recommendations on where to get the help we need would really be appreciated. Thank you for all that you do, people like my husband and I sincerely appreciate all your content.

I guess my question was inappropriate because it's gone. I'm sorry if I broke some sort of protocol/rule.

I didn’t know that it’s not recommended to take out wisdom teeth while you’re awake 😂 I had all mine pulled when I was a teenager and was awake for all of them

Jonathan. Great inside look at how counseling can help couples heal. Thank you.

How do we connect logic with emotions? I can see many things logically and can empathise and understand someone's actions and pain and cry when someone else goes through something. But at times I feel emotionally cut off from my own emotions and even when I am going through something hard and, perceived by others as hard and traumatic, I am calm and rational and a lot of times don't feel anything. Is this a result of my traumas of my past? Am I simply unfazed because nothing has been as bad as what I went through?

Glad we have the same dentist trauma

I told my ex and father of my children that the things he was doing was upsetting, he told me he wasn't well enough to make sure I was happy. I wasn't making him responsible to make me happy, I was asking him to stop being an asshole. When I was pregnant with our first child I suggested we do marriage counseling, even though we still lived separately. He refused because "you just want them to say that I'm wrong". That's not how therapy works.. at this point I'm starting to see that's probably what Jonathan would say lol