why you shouldn't tell ANYONE your PLANS | Andrew Huberman

OMG. I’ve been trying to explain why I don’t tell people things I’m thinking about doing! They don’t understand when I say it takes the wind out of my sails. For some reason they think I’m keeping it from them LOL.

What’s with the shit 80s video game music

Positive feedbacks? Ahah generally, in the majority of cases, it’s only a matter of Schadenfreude, so a greater reason to not tell anyone about your goals etc.

This is a golden advice. I will definitely stop doing this. I should have known what makes it take too far for me to actually get the thing I pleased.

My wires are definitely crossed. I can't stand it when someone doubts me and then I fail. Maybe we were abused differently.

Yeah whenever i want to try something new i feel like telling people will almost make myself too scared to do it so i try not to tell people even though i feel excited to share

I love the fact that Andrew assumed in the beginning that people will support and encourage you. I feel that is a slightly over rated but wonderful misguided thought. Most humans are competitive and run on the bias that keeps them surviving … that they will always come first or succeed. If you genuinely feel a co worker or acquaintance/friend will be happy for you… share this belief… but also be aware many like the status quo to remain in their favour. It is a sad fact of life. Whether it be academically or businesses wise or personal. Don’t let someone else derail you because of a scarcity mindset. 😊

Can you reupload this without music. I can’t concentrate on what he says

This is deep; Show - don't tell

Remove music please it's noising the video

Why such irritating music at the back!!! Fuck!!

He say accountabilibuddy?

I keep people out of my business as much as possible because i know they wont understand or be positive about it.

Some things just have to be done regardless how you feel about them.

Andrew, your videos are typically well-thought out, informative and useful. This one is none of those things. Are you high?
Come on, bro 🤣 One of your friends needs to sit you down and tell you that this video is just plain stupid.

So kind of you to assume we get positive feedback when we share our plans lol quite the opposite.

we should not get positive feedback before we actually start to to what we want to do
enjoy the process of achiving xy goal

why is there text right in the middle of the screen! its fuckin anoying!

This flies in the face of Robert Greene's "Death ground strategy" (The 33 Strategies of War) according to which by telling others of our plans, we place ourselves on "death ground", a position where we have no choice but to do what we said we were going to do. It also goes against what Nietzsche put in the mouth of his fictional prophet Zarathustra who said "I love him who scatters golden words in advance of his deeds and always does more than promised." (Thus Spake Zarathustra) Both Greene and Nietzsche's ideas have heavily influenced my personal approach to discussing my goals, but the science is undeniable and much more reliable.

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Not to mention the people who will work to jeopardize your goals. To undermine your work. To stress you to make your life very difficult. Don't tell to people what you are going to do. Ever.

Blah blah blah blah

The content is great! I love Dr. Huberman. But the bg music is super annoying and makes it very difficult to focus - a note to the channel creator. I had to stop listening 1/3 in.

Ouch 😣 Too late

I've found if I talk about my plans I get active lack of support.

I find most ppl don’t believe in anything until it’s actualized /manifest. I try to keep as much as possible to myself.

I’ve grown past it but as a kid if anyone said I was bad at something I would stop doing it completely and immediately, which was extra sad bc my mom was a friction model baby and it took years for her to notice that I responded to encouragement, not friction.

In Egypt we say “داري علي شمعتك تقيد". Meaning, hide your candle and it will ignite.

Great video. I spent two years planning to move to another city, go to school, and reset my career and only let people know after I'd rented the place, gotten into the university, and taken the new job. Many people were shocked when I told them, but I had been quite unhappy for awhile and when some of my closest friends said things like "What about me? But you grew up in this town" I knew this was the right choice--sometimes you think people want the best for you but what they really want is you not disrupting their comfort zone and will say things to keep you in the status quo. With school I didn't even tell most people I'd gone back for a Master's til after the first semester when I got all A's and was sure I had studying down after almost 20 years out of university. There's something really empowering about setting healthy goals and pursuing them without the need for external validation--I think it makes you stronger.

Nice content. But I hated the music. What's the point of that? Anyone clicking on a video where Andrew Huberman is talking is ONLY interested in consuming information. This is not dance club :|

Real G's move in silence like lasagna

He obviously hasn't met my family. When I say I'll do something they laugh at it so I have to prove them wrong.

Great clip!< not a big fan of music in the back though

you kind of take the price before reaching a goal. thats really not motivating

So I was lucky to have a malignant narcissistic mother who doubted all my capabilities! I'm still working on (low) self-confidence issues, but I've succeeded in my goals!

This idea is great thanks sir🎉🎉😊

Music is detracting

I have fallen prey to this my entire life. I was told I couldn't do it nor should I even try. And this was from my family and I'm fortunate that I have accomplished what little I have in life in spite of the judgment or lack of confidence in me. To be controlled and dependent is a manipulation in a setup in some families . But it is always what we do next that counts the most. Dr Huberman it is such a pleasure to introduce you to many of my friends and to hear what you have to say on many details of human behavior.😊❤

So you just take a clip out of Dr. Huberman's content and add some annoying music (noise) over it? Wtf?

Should have made the music louder... at times I was still able to hear what Huberman actually had to say!

I think I’m at stage 2.5.

Bible says same shit and it was written like what 2000 years ago… Jesus is King

but what to do if realtive or friend asks what I am doing? I have to answer in that situation, then what?

Counter example: In order to add pressure to myself to follow through, I told people I was competing in my first bodybuilding show in order to make sure I followed through. 3 days before the show, I was desperate to pull out - my mental state after so long cutting and depleting was in the toilet; I couldn't look at myself and my condition objectively at all - but knowing how many people knew about it, some of whom were coming to support me, kept me accountable and in the game. Three days later, I took 1sts in both my classes and was awarded the show MVP trophy. I wouldn't have shown up if I hadn't told anyone about it, such was my mind at the time.
Tell people if it helps keep you accountable.

Yeah i also notice that I get in the habit of not finishing things that i start and a lot of time it’s like I make a little headway but then feel pretty good about it and then taper off of it into procrastination

Nah. Usually people doubt you or become jealous and try to drag you down.

Song is greaTT

This guy is fucking useless

this is really true, when i told my friends that i will be doing something good which is self improvement , I won't be doing it before I donno why but now i know

It also means your haters can't take it away cause they will sabotage you when you tell them too much.

I keep my biggest plans to myself. I don't even tell my wife or my parents. I'll tell them when I've reached my goals.

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