Realistic Kitchen Cleaning! + Tips for cleaning with Depression and ADHD

Thank you for this. I used to be a clean and tidy person whilst living alone but for some reason the last year or so has been a huge struggle for me when it comes to house work. I do all these same things you do but I never thought other people did this. It's good to know I'm not the only one and it's nice having videos like this to help spark the motivation!

Mr. Clean pads do wonders on counter top stains!

No judgement here just gratitude❤

Hi Libby, thanks for being so transparent! Seeing your messy kitchen gives me hope that im not the only one who struggles to tidy up everyday.😊😊

OMG! How GREAT it is to see a real person that struggles and not one of those that can do everything and sounds like they think everybody else should be able to do everything. I googled, "realistic house cleaning", thinking to myself, yah right, it'll bring up all these "PERFECT" people. I am so grateful to you for sharing this, I struggle so much and I always feel like such a failure, but now, I feel like....oh okay....I'm not a bad person or a failure. I cannot thank you enough for sharing.

Depressed person remedy minimalism

You are an inspiration! That’s exactly what my kitchen looks like right now. Thank you for sharing and letting me know I’m not the only one. Give yourself some extra love! You deserve it!!!

Oooh we have the same bowls!

I dont know if u still have the stain in your counter top, use some comet kitchen powdered bleach cleaner. I cannot clean for shit. But i spill coffee alot. Comet helps me

Soo relatable. I struggle with maintaining house and sticking to routines. It's a viscious cycle of working up the energy to clean and then it rapidly spiraling out of control.

I understand exactly what you're saying, I like to have an order in the way I do dishes too and I also sort laundry out before folding it.

I just want to say how grateful I am for videos like this. When I start letting my care-tasks slide, I usually need a “cleaning-companion” to remind me that there are a series of steps I can take to start making my space (and myself) feel better. Putting on something like this helps me get into action. It’s a win-win. Thanks so much.

Bar Keepers friend, a cleaner that works great on stains. Especially rust!
Also use the liquid bleach,, pour on the stains and let it sit overnight or the day and that should work too.

I myself get unmotivated. Happy I'm not the only one. Use to clean everyday. I don't know what happened, but it is a struggle.
Thank you for making this video.
Best wishes! Charlie

Does anyone feel like they r 2 ppl in one? One wants to clean and the other doesnt, its a war with me everyday to do anything unless im interested in it, i no i need to do this or that, but the other part of me doesnt so its a WAR with my depressed self.

You did a LOT of work. Bravo! It’s a good feeling to have a clean kitchen.

You did a great job! 😊

Cutlery is more fun to clean with a scrub mommy. You can use the mouth and eye holes. 😊

thank you for normalizing our disorder ... ❤ its nice to know I'm not alone

Oh, just a tip. I use oven bags in my slow cooker and silicone liners for other pots, pans, air fryers etc. They are so much easier to clean

Love your system. I have to sort my dishes first too

Also, please use a disinfectant when leaving food on dishes because bacteria will not die with only soap and water. To tell you the thruth, I use a little bit clorox to sanitize my dishes if I let it get to that point.

When I feel deppressed I try to use fispossables, so I don't end up with my sink all filled up with dirty dishes. Also, anither idea is to only leave out 1 cutlery set (a knife, spoon and fork) and one plate, one cup, and clean it every time after using it. Doing that also helped me to contain the mess.

This video is golden. So many good tips. Thank you for sharing. Categorizing always makes the task appear more manageable

I found to, childhood music helps me, Disney music, silly music, big band music, and a big yes! You have helped a lot. In a practical way. Thank you, here in Tasmania Australia we have what they call magic sponge, little white squares they will remove stains from pretty much anything, I'm sure you've already dealt with it now though 🙏🙂🦘🇦🇺🦘🤍.

This is exactly what I've been looking for, this is most of our lives, our real everyday lives. I have adhd but I also have body dysmorphia, in 53, it started after random facial swelling, I hardly go out, I hate light on my face, but not cleaning is destroying my self esteem. I no longer feel empowered, when things are clean I'm more confident, and forget about the damage the swelling done. When it's a mess, I feel horrible, everything Is so much bigger, and ps, your skin is beautiful and for doing this for us you deserve to hear that. I need this help to make my grandchildren proud to come here, they say they don't care, but I do 🤍🤍🤍🦘🇦🇺🦘👍.

You're not crazy. I approach my dishes and cleaning in almost exactly the same way you do! Thanks for being so transparent-YOU are making ME feel like I'M not crazy. Besides, it's efficient the way we do it! 🙂

I know this so well. Sometimes I have very good times full of energy and sometimes the depression comes suddenly and I can't do anything. Stay strong I pray for you. Sorry for my bad English 🤗

@SimplyLibby -- if you haven't tried making a paste with baking soda and white vinegar, that's my vote for you on getting the tumeric/coffee stain out of your counter. If that doesn't work, hit up a Home Depot (or similar) store and see what they advise. The BP/WV paste has worked crazy-pants well for me in a bunch of situations. Good luck!

Thankyou for posting this, it helps alot knowing you're not alone

what a great job! I'm going to do mine in tiny bites of 1 foot square of counter - like take everything off of that space and put it wherever it goes.. my kitchen is huge and it's a little worse than yours so it's incredibly overwhelming to think "okay i'm going to pick up all the trash." it still won't look like I did anything.

I homeschool three kids. My kitchen gets exactly like this, EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Don’t feel bad. Just keep honoring yourself for your wins.

Thank you for sharing your kitchen cleaning process. My kitchen is a disaster right now and I feel overwhelmed. You've given me some motivation to get started. ❤

Mine is worse.

oh, another tip about cutlery, my mom had a easier way to do them. The same dish bin you used to corral the cutlery while youre washing the other dishes fill that bucket with water, preferebly hot but not scalding hot and lots of soap swirl the water a bit and move on to the rest of the dishes once youre done with the main dishes using the same water just run the sponge on it with a small amount of soap and rinse you will find it will go fast cause the hot water and soap did half of the work for you,

Little tip from a bipolar sufferer, stack the dishes by category first also get a dish bin i got mine at dollar general for not too much, its a large square bucket for small stuff that is in the sink you can even use two since you have surface on top of the washer and dryer corral the cups and mugs in one and cutlery in the other, stack plates leave pots on the stove stacked to the best of your ability. then it becomes easier cause all you gotta do is pick a stack to start working on. usually I put cutting boards under, baking sheets all on the bottom them plates or anything flat. You get my jist, great video you're pumping me up with your positivity to deal with my own mayhem tomorrow. By the way I want to commend you for having the courage to show the ugly side of mental disorders I would not have the cojones to film my house in that state I am already mortified enough when people come over and I find myself profusely apologizing to whoever came to visit, don
t take offense I mean this in the most positive way possible. Kudos 🥴

For cuttlery, I find it easier to grab 3-4 similar items (all forks for example), and clean them as my hand lets go of them. An aunt taught me this trick, and it is truly helpful!

I truly feel like I'm watching myself ! 
I was so proud when you said the inside of your fridge is a project for another time, because I know how hard it is to take a step back and realize you are side tracking. Good job!
Little comment : I would suggest you change your cleaning from left to right, to from right to left. Because there will ALWAYS be pots and pans on that stove, so why not start here instead of moving the pans each time to the left side?

Thanks for the motivation. One thing that really helps is to have few plates at home. Declutter all you don't need

Great tips!

Thank god i am not alone with this. Thank you for sharing. You actually made me get up and clean my kitchen.

You do NOT sound insane! That’s how I do my dishes too!!!! Thank you for showing us your messy. It helps me feel safe about my messy!

I'm really glad I found your video, because i could relate so much! I also have a day off today and I am determined to clean my kitchen (which also has gotten really messy, I am a bit scared to look into my tupperware lol) and your video motivated me so much to get started as well as to drink some water 😂 Thank you for being so open and documenting your process, it's so helpful for so many people!!

Baking soda helps me get all kinds of stains out of counter tops!! Sprinkle some down, squirt with water or all purpose spray, set a timer for 10 minutes, then scrub away. Thanks for the video, my kitchen looks like your before pics, but today I'm ready to clean it up!

I watch Auri and she uses chlorine for those kinds of stains. Also, I’m diagnosed with dysthymia (they call it a different name now, it’s basically long term, chronic depression), anxiety, and adhd. One thing that has helped me immensely is becoming a minimalist. I don’t have too much because it just becomes too much for my brain, my eyes, and my lack of energy to deal with. I would suggest decluttering your kitchen to make it less overwhelming. If you only have 4 cups to clean, you won’t have as much to do and you will be forced to get into daily (or every other day maybe), types of habits with cleaning dishes. I have to do my habits daily or every other day otherwise I feel like trash and the stuff builds up. I mean, I have a coffee mug collection of 10 mugs, but I never get all 10 dirty. Everything else I only have 4 of. I used to have way more dishes and my kitchen would look like a bomb went off and I’d have a freaking meltdown just looking at it. Own less. It helps. Trust me.

I do the same "sorting" when I do dishes by hand, except I usually go glasses-cups-cutlery-plates-bowls-BIG STUFF. I don't really have a reason for it. Except with "normal" amounts it saves a water change maybe.

Hi Libby (from Australia). You are such a nice, normal relatable person, not one of those impossibly perfect influencers. I have ADHD and am bipolar 2; I have times where my home is pristine (unless you open a cupboard or drawer..) and then it descends into chaos...and the worse it gets, the worse it gets, til I'm totally overwhelmed, can't invite anyone over...I am NOT wealthy, but I employ cleaners once every few weeks to help me. True confession: once, when my dishes situation had got so bad, and they were smelling, I picked them all up, put them in a garbage bag and threw them away!!! Lived off disposable plates for a while, til ingradually replaced things.

You are my Soul Sister. I open the windows, set the mood, and do gymnastics around two greedy dogs. 😂💛💙🧡

Soft scrub with bleach let it sit