Loneliness and the Illusion of Connection | Thich Nhat Hanh, 2012.12.13

so many ad breaks :(

It would be nice to watch with less ads.

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Yes and no, however God created women so that man will not be alone, Hello! Genesis 2:18

Thank you for guiding me. So grateful.

we are born alone , and we die alone ...

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Sa voix, ses paroles de sagesse comme l’eau pur d’un ruisseau nous ramène à la source intérieure de notre être dans la non peur et la Paix
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Accounts of sexuality in pre-modern human groups give us a clear indication that abundant skin contact and physical erotic pleasure are what humans are evolved to require. A mother is supposed to feel physical pleasure while holding and feeding her infant. Redness is a sign of arousal, and it is present on both lips and aerolae, which are in turn erotically innervated. This is proof that physical pleasure is so essential that human life begins with it. Sex is an essential homeostatic need for all ages. Unfortunately, American sexual law, which became global law, prohibits sexual experience during developing years. James W. Prescott draws a clear link between sexual prohibition and social violence. We've banned the ability to learn to express love physically. This disturbs psychological development, and makes it more likely that adults are aggressive toward children. Childhood experiences of parental physical emotional abuse throw a person into lifelong turmoil.

The single most effective act to reduce global suffering would be to eliminate sex crime laws based on age, and replace them with a statement that physical contact is not a source of harm, but a lifelong human need. It is a means of expressing the virtue of love.

Thank you for this!! i need it this today... its true we look outside from ourselves looking for a paternal figure thats why we are stuck in this social media approval!

I used to like this message but today I have a different insight. I think it is OK to reach out to people when we feel extreme loneliness. That actually helps and it's ok. Of course, knowing and being connected with ourselves is important but we don't need to be judgmental about using the internet to reach out to people. Both are ok.

It's amazing when someone recommends something like this to watch or listen to and it hits you right in the heart. I closed my eyes briefly while watching this at the beginning and was overwhelmed with emotions and shed a few tears. Not sad tears, but tears of knowing this is something I needed to hear.

It’s great being alone but not when I’m horny

if i got a dollar every time he said "home", I could pay off my mortgage

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I used to hate being alone or at least hate the idea of what being alone meant. I’ve grown to love alone time with myself. The release of pressure, the distance from external, the self awareness is so fulfilling. People are always telling me I should be aiming to be with someone or asking me why I don’t want to be surrounded by people.

It’s hard for me to explain but it’s just a sense of pure release. And now I’m practicing to know myself better.

Thank you Sir 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I lost my beautiful wife to cancer at a young age few months back . Growing up I was always comfortable being alone but this loss had shaken me and I was afraid of loneliness . This teaching helped me to go back to my home ( loneliness) be safe in it 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

"The act of sitting down is an act of revolution"

home safe island of self lonely together connect others stay connected lonely in the practice feel lonely not succeded sit down connected walking loosing our self all day long sit down cut off that state need to sit down connected to your feelings home left home accepted i am home in breath smile at everything allow my body to releace my dear loneliness take care of self connect with your self to heal our self lost practice going home forget bell in computer alive again our body is a wonder sickness it is us mindful smile an act of going home be a home for your self taking care you not loosing your self freedom lonely also once you have a home other person to have a home to a home to your self to do the same build a home no need for i phone connected ease a real relationship collected home for both of you true home go to the other society teaching every in mindfulness wonders power to heal practice of going home Kimball Barrett

How can you breathe in and out when one is incredibly sensitive to noises , people ruining your privacy , people words and offenses, hurt by and suffered violences and traumas since childhood ? You can't isolate and be in peace within a city life .

home safe fulfilled island of self loneliness stay connected e-mail share less loneliness feel very loneliness plum village connect with your self we don't know sitting down stop the connect breathing mindfulness your feelings perception home is a mess to sit accept i am home mindful breathing allow to release my dear i am here for you go back to your self real connection way to heal loosing our self Kimball Barrett

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Saadhuu!

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This so soothing to hear! Being alone and finding oneself within is such a backbone, loneliness doesn’t exist embracing aloneness…….unless one listens to the dictates of the world…. Thank you!

His teachings are precious so I don't want for a second to seem like I'm not reconizing what he says and the importance that finding home inward is, but reading all the comments here of people who deleted ( or are on the way to deleting/pausing) social media, and recognise there aren't many people offline: why don't we get organized and get together to do things in person and connect in our countries? We could still do the inner work, plus connect in the reaal world

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really encouraging, every step is healing, every tiny thing bring you home.

Thy's love is like a tsunami. Touches us very deeply.

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May the Lord keep you and make His face to shine upon you Thich Nhat Hanh.

Either you are with someone or you are not. The mental connection has not been proven. And does not pay the bills.

everything is connected dont listen to this guy you have free will you have effects you are responsible for your own behaviors how does this guy make a living laying around all day?? who pays him?? he needs to learn how to be self sufficient & to be a formal communicator connection is real if a brick flies at our head it is real everything is real everything is connected dont listen to this guy you have free will you have effects you are responsible for your own behaviors

When I am working I don’t ponder loneliness. It’s when I have free time that I think I miss certain people.

I am 66 and have always been a loner, even when I am in company of dozens of people, like at a party, I feel alone. I cannot connect with most people, I am amiable enough and people feel at easy with me but I always have my force field on. the thing is I feel just fine not being around people, many do not understand this and some feel sorry for me, it is difficult for them to comprehend not being around others. I connect with animals, especially my cat, I am one with him/them.

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Home is where the heart is; and wherever you go, your heart is in your chest. Therefore, your home is always with you.

Vietnam

Materialism and devices and possessions distract us from our loneliness, but what we really need is to sit quietly with ourselves, to go within and connect with ourselves and the riches of ALL our emotions. For most of us, we buried our true feelings because our parents, as much as they loved us, were taught to ignore our sadness and fears. Now, we have the chance to reconnect, and to come home, to ourselves! It’s such a rich journey!

Ads interrupting this talk are quite disturbing. Please remove them?

I COULD LISTEN TO YOU . All day. your strength and wisdom to say how it really is.. despite ppl trying intimidate Beliefs said whick envelope my well being truly. thank you 😊🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸

Thank you for sharing this.

It's not either or. You need time alone and time with people. You need also time to study, research or just sit silently for 20 minutes once a day.

That was a really good talk! I could have listened to the entire Dhamma. So clear and modern.

I'm 51 today and alone. I am not good at small talk or meeting new people. I do not like having no human contact. Finding a home within myself has not happen as I have been trying for years. I don't feel like it is healthy to live this way. Every day feels exactly the same. Nothing seems to satisfy except sleep.

I would love Spanish subtitles for this :)

There's nothing illusionary about human connections. Science would take issue with that false belief. And no you shouldn't be alone it goes against our evolutionary drive.

Imagine seeing an lonely isolated Orangutan. It doesn't take a PhD to know something is wrong.