Inside the Mind of a Timebender – Why I’m Always Late | Grace Pacie | TEDxBedford

Maybe have something to do with the sanguine temperament

Amazing! Thanks!

Listening to this as I'm running late LOL thank you spot on actually all of those things are true so far halfway through K Love ya

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It’s me

Does anyone have any work habit suggestions? Or finding an occupation that works well with our style?

God a new disorder, everyone soft now a day

THANK YOU SO MUCH GOD BLESS YOU.

Thank you so much Grace x 1111! You're a World Changer :)

This is me! ❤

Totally me.

Ive been late to the extreme. Such as hours late. This made sense to me

I think I fit to 😢😢😢😢. all

Me watching this video laying on bed while getting late for an appointment

This helped so much. Being a timekeeper in a relationship with a time bender is really hard

I can’t believe I slept while listing to this 😂 😢… like I can’t even manage to keep time and watch it

But I also feel the same way about being on time for yourself as well. I think a lot of me being late is also not being prepared for me---showing up for a really important person. I think although I want to show up for other people it's hard to show up for them at times when you don't have everything altogether for you. And I've heard that "We don't think other people's time is important." I definitely don't look at it this way at all. I think it's shoving everyone else's priorities in front of my own (people pleasing) and being lackadaisical with my own desires. Everything else was spot on!

Is the weird lip smacking and spitty slopping between words and statements driving anyone else crazy enough to literally turn the volume down and turn the captions on?

I finally understood why I’m always and so happy to know that even though I can improve time management, I realized that this part of my personality and I don’t have to bit myself about it. Thank you miss Paci

You could just be on time 😆

Sounds very similar to Time Blindness, which is very common in adhd and other neurodivergent disorders. Some of the other things she mentioned reminded me of adhd symptoms too (tho this could just be me projecting 😅)

For me, it's having to juggle several tasks at once, when you're talented, everyone wants the benefit of your talent and when you need the bucks it makes it even worse. I have learnt to reduce and streamline my commitments. Integrity and a good name is also very important

This sounds like undiagnosed ADHD

I love you!! I don't know you but god you understand me!!❤

This is fascinating, as I seem to have the opposite problem. I am a time-keeper. Often I am fully dressed, packed and prepared, ready to walk out the door a FULL HOUR before I leave in the morning (and I leave so that I get to work 30 minutes early). I am TERRIFIED of the anxiety that I get from being late. I am so terrified of it that I go to extreme lengths to avoid it, like sitting around for an hour, wasting time, simply waiting to leave.

This is well known among my friends, and I am often given an arrival time 30 minutes later than others just so that I don't show up painfully early. So, because most of my friends are time-benders, THEY change the arrival/deadline time on ME. I'm fine with it.

This is so accurate

The deep subconscious truth for people who are habitually late is that they don't respect other people's time. They think whatever they are doing is more important than showing up to anything on time. Don't make excuses just own up to it. The mindset I have for being on time is that I actually care deeply about getting somewhere on time. Before the event happens I plan ahead to see how long it would take me to get there and account extra for traffic and parking. All it takes is having the right attitude and believing it's important to be on time. The people who are always late just don't really believe being on time is important to them.

You said we are not good at measuring time. I disagree. Knowing realistic deadline is measuring time enough to meet it. We are the best estimator of time - just in time.

Love it 😅😊

Oh man! You just described my entire life😲 But I do agree a bout being a few minutes late to work. I think over 10 minutes is to much, but anything less than thar should be ok unless it's every single day! Im always about 4 mins late to work! It drives me insane!!!

I’ve commented on this multiple times, I keep coming back to this since it’s one of the most relatable videos I’ve ever seen. I feel stuck in a cycle where I overestimate how much time I really have and then regret leaving when I do. I tend to be a “time optimist” and it’s something I still haven’t successfully shaken.

This is fantastic. Couldn't describe my behaviour any better.

I work so fast on a deadline but slow down without the pressure.

I'm always late or just about on time for events and can't stand being too early.

I hate the notion of wasted minutes waiting when I could have been doing a task.

Superb Ted Talk from Gracie Pacie.

I think all of us Time benders need to come together to make a clan! XD

This is so relatable! I am always LATE. no matter how hard I try, I can never be on time. I also, hate to be the early one!

I am a time keeper...I came here because I'm a praise and worship leader and my team is ALWAYS late and some don't seem to notice or care that it upsets me because I do not like to wing it. They are all very good friends of mine that I grew up with and some are family..which makes it hard because I truly love them all. This video was super helpful! I am going to make deadlines such as starting even if I'm the only one there and if your 30 minutes late you have to sit. I'm sure it will upset some...and I HATE conflict. But if this works....I will be extatic!

i suddenly know what my problem is,thx grace pacie!

Yes!!! 😔

I believe that being late has an element of control of power. When being late has ramifications, it is because the other party has the power. When being late does not have significant ramifications, it is because the late person has the power.

Those 20% all work in IT by the way

5 or 10 min 😂 you call that late

So what do I tell my doctor so I can get a note for work???

Ouch!

Why should timekeepers get upset if we're not on time? We don't mind if timekeepers are late (or super early). I like to believe It's about acceptance, not change.

Wow this totally is me! I feel I have an unrealistic view of time. I also do better under pressure and always do that one more thing when I should be getting ready to leave. I believe it's a mental problem.

i genuinely think i am the only person like this in my school who is like this bc i rarely see ppl have this prpblem. Alot of the points she pointed out, i do agree with them whicj does feel reassuring

INTERESTING 🤔 I DIDN'T HEAR ANYTHING ABOUT SETTING AN ALARM FOR BEING ON TIME. I DO IT ALL THE TIME. THERE WASN'T ANY MENTION OF SELF IMPORTANCE EITHER. THERES A LOT MORE TO THIS THAN WHAT'S SAID. THE BIGGEST THING SHE SAID WAS BOUNDRIES. SET THEM AND KEEP TO THEM. 💎🌹🥰

I find it interesting that the people who are "never late" are here making chiding comments. First, I don't think the average "time bender" (that's a new term for me 😅) enjoys being late. Second, I've noticed that most, if not all of my closest friends are timekeepers, yet they don't hesitate to call me when they need help with something, to meet for a meal or just to get away from their stressful environments. Being flexible and easy going has it's benefits. Yes, we should try to be on time, but we think you "timekeepers" should relax a little 🤷.

This!!! 💯💯

WOW!!! I felt very seen.

this is me but how do i break this pattern what do we practice??