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I guess it was impossible for me to not be emotionally dependent. I grew up trying to save my mom from my dad abusing and hiting her but I never managed to do it. It was them that had to solve their own problems. A part of my life I somehow managed to keep me away from this emotional dependency other than being dependent to my mum but just because I kept myself isolated. I did not have friends and all I did was the daily chores and homework and all that stuff. I want to try and take some canto lessons because I love to sing but I am not very good at it. Maybe that will make me a little bit more happy ❤ thanks for the content

Thank You, you just gained a new sub

thank you for your video. I am seeing now that perhaps I fear being disappointed because I think I won’t be able to handle it, so I do everything I can to orchestrate something so that it can be perfect, but end up feeling dissatisfied because I “had to do it in order for it to be done.” I’m struggling a lot with this, along with being unable to just say (or know) what I want—perhaps because my wants as a child were never validated?—but then still becoming upset when my “wants”aren’t magically met.

What an awesome video, I’ve learned so much more about myself in just a shortwhile, Thank you so much

Everything you say is sooo spot on! I wish you could be my life coach in real life lol. All of your videos are helping get through a really hard time and get out of my depression after betrayal. Thank you for all you do. You are really helping a lot of people and making a difference. I appreciate you and all you do. ❤❤❤

I'm not codependent. My narcissist hid what she felt really well and lied about it.

thanks for spreading corrupt fucked up mental health advice for profit you sellout druggie... you destroy familys

for 29yrs of my existence I've been a strongly codependent and it sabotage my self-esteem, social relationships and finances 😅


But I now forgive myself from my wrong decisions.

Most of the time we learn things in the hard way and that's okay ❤

Not what I initially thought it meant. But yeah , am guilty .😊

Please do one on Adult children of alcoholics and how to heal from it.

My dad gave me self-confidence. Meanwhile, my mother tore it down. She always talked about how we had to be in order for a man to love us. Then she put us under a microscope after every phone call or visit from a boy. Somehow, my older sister was able to rise above all this nonsense. However, she suffers from being emotionally unavailable. No guy is ever good enough for her.

You are soooo pretty. Your face looks like a heart. Great energy.

I learned this lesson such a hard way only after being played by a narcissist to the point of hitting life and death situation. I realized how unworthy and unlovable I subconsciously were deeming myself as so as for someone like him to be so easily able to manipulate my emotions and psychology with play of love who turned out to be playing hundreds of women with sweet words and validation sexually and emotionally exploiting off of them by keeping them under his control with bait of love. Please don't make the mistake I did. Please love yourself no matter how lonely and unlovable you feel. It is ok to live alone than living with an abuse disguised as love. :)

This is solid content. I’m in coda now and starting to see patterns thru 12 steps. I learned to give up my goals and wants or I’d be shipped off to relatives in other cities and states. Rough life after that. Thanks for your input. 😊

Thank you , I have struggled with this for most of my life and I am 49 years old .

My parents were wonderful parents, but they never taught me any boundaries. My dear mom is now 91 years old and was always very co-dependent and most definitely a people pleaser with zero boundaries herself. Therefore, I now realize that I also learned the same from her and have always attracted dysfunctional or co-dependent men. I’m a work in progress one day at a time and I thank you so much for your videos which are helping me tremendously. Blessings from Miami, FL. 🌹

What are the three steps? I got #1: Ask yourself what you want. But what are the other two?

I'm in a codependent relationship cuz I would feel guilty for leaving, if I did leave. How can I get over that? How do I get over that vulnerability?

Taking notes! Thank you for your videos ❤

Spot on. All of it. Thank you so much. ❤

Thank you

Holy shit...the revelations here.
I've had some serious blinders removed watching this.

I very much appreciate this video.

Good info but all those adverts are killing it for me. 4 ads in 11 min, crazy...

This is life saving, thank you for providing practical applications on this topic.

You look refined and very well informed.

Im codependent, just got narcisized and own a garage fixing cars, FML and have abandonment fear, as im getting divorced over all of this, my son moved to finland and my wife/ ex-wife is moving back to take care of her family (i helped move that along due to empathy)

I always felt selfish for loving myself and having my own needs. I was also afraid of what would happen if I had boundaries

Great tips. Thanks

This hit the exact moment in my childhood when I had a thought, "what I want doesn't matter"

Great video

Thankyou so much mam 🥰🙏🌺

How to get out of that when it is caused by so many people and you don't have money?

thank you, i like your sessions

Thank you, thank you. This video has been very insightful.

Not being able to identify what y truly feel and want has been a real struggle for me. But I’m on my way to healing🙏🏻

This was so helpful!

Thank you 💐
Love from 🇮🇳🙏

Yes, this is more what I want. I like how tos,not talking about the Narc constantly. You are exceptionally gifted and articulate! Superb suggestions. Very clear, better than most.

you explained everything so beautifully-thank you.

Your words define my feelings
. Thank you

You are such a beautiful and inspiring woman. Love your energy and your videos <3 Much love <3

This is so good! I also heard to ask yourself, "Do I like the way this person is treating me"? Are they treating me with fairness and respect? I know before I would worry about others liking me, now I'm concerned if they will treat me kindly.

This is so spot on. Thank you

wow this is great. I'm impressed with your ability to say so much wisdom in one take. Thank you!!

I'm having a hard time working on this because of my anxieties and idk how I feel half the time and my feelings when I'm having anxiety just cause issues.

Wow.. this was such a great video!

That is one narcissistic woman

I really love those giving insights or their stories in the comments! I’m struggling with codependency too, so I am proud and happy that we’re all taking the steps towards more self-loving behaviors and mindsets! ❤ I hope for the best for all of you hehe, it’s okay to not be okay : D

I never thought of myself as codependent, I always have put others emotional needs before myself and feel guilty if I put my feeling before theirs. I don't have abandonment problems but I recently was broken up with by my girlfriend of 9 months and I've found myself thinking that I need to find someone to attach my emotions to. I learned a lot from this, thank you!