7 Signs You Are Emotionally Mature

On a scale of 1 to 10, how emotionally mature is your cat? Comment below.

Is emotional maturity and emotional stability. The same thing?

*clicks video" here we go, I'm either going to feel amazing or absolutely horrible after this....

I am mature enough to understand that I cannot be emotionally mature

Just so people are aware: you can lack in some of these traits and still be emotionally mature; it just can mean you have a mental disorder, or an emotional disorder. Autistic people get something called Alexithyima, which is an inability to read or understand emotions, or Anhedonia, which is an inability to feel emotions. HSPs, cPTSD survivors and Autistic people can be people-pleasers and not understand boundaries. People with ADHD can be impulsive as all hell. People that have RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) can beat around the bush in order to not lose people.

What matters is how you deal with the consequences of those shortcomings, and recognise it's something you need to work on. I know I have cPTSD, Autism and ADHD. I know I can be blunt, cruel, ditzy, forgetful, stupid, stressy... But I do try to be better. And what truly matters is if you're trying to be better or not. That is what truly defines your emotional maturity.

What if where you work number 3 is seen as a sign of weakness? What if where you work apologizing immediately absolves the other side of any accountability for their own actions. For me self accountability is a one way street. What if sticking up for yourself and setting boundaries makes you the problem?

Lets gooo ego boost for the day :3

Not that I don't act immature in some situations, but looks like I act mature more than I thought.

My girlfriend always told me that I am mature and intelligent emotionally. Was scratching wondering what that means till I clicked on this

What do you when everyone around you, tells you your are wrong?

Because people with adhd have low impulse control, do you think theyre suseptable to emotional immaturity?

I tried to have a relationship with someone who struggled with knowing and being able to communicate what she needed and wanted.

When we first met, she presented as someone similar to my level. But it was quickly revealed she didn't know what she wanted or needed.

Plus she was never in a good spot to have tough conversations. I hardly got support, only gave it.

Ate,ask me, what name if your fb acc

I see myself lol.

After having to forcibly grow up as a person in a short amount of time, due to very distressing events in my life, I believe one of the key aspects to understand about emotions is that emotional maturity is not about suppressing feelings and emotions, but rather, to feel them fully, without letting them negatively affect your judgement.

You can't control your emotions. But you can choose to not let your emotions control you.

Your videos have helped me a ton and now I’m growing every day! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge 😌❤️

My ex was NOT emotionally mature. When we argued, he'd always mistake me staying calm as not caring. He also didn't listen, had tantrums, and generally lacked self awareness.

Now go write some homework, work hobbies or your own life knowing the your responsobility is only yours i would be thankful ungrateful

Welcome

Seven years of emotional discipline in one hour,

Nailed it

Pity

Your life your fault your responsobility get your shit braincells braincell together, thank me or don't thank at all later

Help yourself I'm not the age that I have the kids energy neither the free time be helpful the society and get your shit together individuals

My impulseness is doing bad things because there funny

👍 does knowing what emotion we are feeling include the feeling of feeling "Some Type of W ay"??

I always have a stuffed animal with me everywhere I go , even if I’m not with my family because it’s makes me feel safe if I’m not with someone else , I do not consider stuffed animals just as Stuffed animals they are also my friends . My friends that are just there for me , can anyone relate to the stuffed animals situation judge me if you like , but I don’t care if I’m 19 and still love stuffed animals

Okay, it's true that maturity comes from experience not Age. I'm 13 and I'm aware I changed a lot. My patience, my self-aware, how I listen to my friends problem and how I give them advices, just like my 17 year old friend asked helped from.. Me? And I was shocked of my advices I gave them. That's how I realized I matured a bit. I also hate negative thoughts. I hate overthinking. I don't fight with others when they're wrong, instead I'm trying to speak with them calmly. I also respect each other's opinion, I don't get mad when I wasn't picked of what I want or my opinion's. Also when I'm mad or someone made me mad, I don't show it. I'll just go home and talk to them in text how they hurt me with all explanations and apologize suddenly. The only problem is how do I start the conversation when we met again in personal hehe.

Emotional maturity is NOT = OVERTHINKING before decision making

This one really made me break down. I just broke off a 6y relationship that made me feel like i was inconsiderate and immature. An emotional trainwreck that gets in his way, and fills him with anger. But I cried saying yes to all these points. The overthinking, intrusive thoughts, second judgement of what I know, all falling on to my conscience.
"this is growth. its okay to cry"

No one around me takes accountability for their mistakes. I take accountability on my part and apologize, then the blame, ALL OF IT, is passed on to me.

I'm not very good at putting a name to the face of my emotions. Sometimes, I don't even think about it. I'm at least more self aware now and can change that!

U are such a kind and sweet person phyc2go. I love your videos keep it up😊

A person can be emotionally mature in some aspects and it's possible they're not quite mature in some emotions new to them

…okay, so how do I become more emotionally mature 😀

I thought being a bad person is mature thats why i became a bad person😅

Only #1 is difficult sometimes. I tend to have a cluster of emotions at times. Then it's hard to name any of them. Luckily this happens only during times of crisis or heavy stress.

I think one of the most common thing "mature" people of any age (0-200 years) don't understand is the difference between being selfish and self-confident maturity. A lot of people think that if they admit they're wrong or listen to others and maybe change for a better way or solution to a problem, they will look insecure, but that is all nonsense. I thank you for explaining the difference!

tHIS is so weird, I have a non mature mind but after watching this I had two "points" of a mature mind.
Am I improving and that's why I scored points on a mature mind?
I cant control my emotions, like I am spontaneous, If I have to do it and I'm motivated I'll do it.
If I'm not I will think about it really deeply....
I cant express my points and emotions.... My communication is weeeird....
I am kinda self aware at some things and REALLY blind to others.....
This is even more true when I made a mistake before, I am aware of the error but I could just do it again, and I like to have validation for others to make most decisions.....
I know how to listen but sometimes I cant really absorb what they say... But I am a good listener as I dont talk much... I guess that's it... any tips?

Emotional maturity implies finding most people unbearable because of their lack there of.

“… requires a prolonged simmer on the gentle heat of experience.“
Nice one, that😌🙏

"The qualities of a mature person are very strange.

First, he is not a person. He is no longer a self. He has a presence, but he is not a person.

Second, he is more like a child...simple and innocent.

That’s why I said the qualities of a mature person are very strange, because maturity gives a sense as if he has experienced, as if he is aged, old. Physically he may be old, but spiritually he is an innocent child. His maturity is not just experience gained through life. Then he will not be a child, and then he will not be a presence; he will be an experienced person – knowledgeable but not mature.

Maturity has nothing to do with your life experiences. It has something to do with your inward journey, experiences of the inner.

The more he goes deeper into himself, the more mature he is. When he has reached the very center of his being, he is perfectly mature. But at that moment the person disappears, only presence remains.

The self disappears, only silence remains.

Knowledge disappears, only innocence remains.

To me, maturity is another name for realization: you have come to the fulfillment of your potential, it has become actual. The seed has come on a long journey, and has blossomed.

Maturity has a fragrance. It gives a tremendous beauty to the individual. It gives intelligence, the sharpest possible intelligence. It makes him nothing but love. His action is love, his inaction is love; his life is love, his death is love. He is just a flower of love.

The West has definitions of maturity which are very childish. The West means by maturity that you are no longer innocent, that you have ripened through life experiences, that you cannot be cheated easily, that you cannot be exploited, that you have within you something like a solid rock – a protection, a security.

This definition is very ordinary, very worldly. Yes, in the world you will find mature people of this type. But the way I see maturity is totally different, diametrically opposite to this definition. The maturity will not make you a rock; it will make you so vulnerable, so soft, so simple.

I remember...a thief entered a master’s hut. It was a full-moon night, and by mistake he had entered; otherwise, what can you find in a master’s house? The thief was looking, and was amazed that there was nothing. And then suddenly he saw a man who was coming with a candle in his hand.

The man said, “What are you looking for in the dark? Why did you not wake me up? I was just sleeping near the front door, and I could have showed you the whole house.” And the man looked so simple and so innocent, as if he could not conceive that anybody could be a thief.

Before his simplicity and innocence, the thief said, “Perhaps you do not know that I am a thief.”

The master said, “That doesn’t matter, one has to be someone. The point is that I have been in the house for thirty years and I have not found anything, so let us search together! And if we can find something, we can be partners. I have not found anything in this house; it is just empty.”

The thief was a little afraid: the man seems to be strange. Either he is mad or...who knows what kind of man he is? He wanted to escape, because he had brought things from two other houses that he had left outside the house.

The master had only one blanket – that was all that he had – and it was a cold night, so he told that thief, “Don’t go this way, don’t insult me this way; otherwise I will never be able to forgive myself, that a poor man came to my house in the middle of the night and had to go empty-handed. Just take this blanket. And it will be good – outside it is so cold. I am inside the house; it is warmer here.”

He covered the thief with his blanket. The thief was just losing his mind! He said, “What are you doing? I am a thief!”

The master said, “That does not matter. In this world everybody has to be somebody, has to do something. You may be stealing; that doesn’t matter, a profession is a profession. Just do it well, with all my blessings. Do it perfectly, don’t be caught; otherwise you will be in trouble.”

The thief said, “You are strange. You are naked and you don’t have anything!”

The master said, “Don’t be worried, because I am coming with you! Only the blanket was keeping me in this house; otherwise in this house there is nothing – and the blanket I have given to you. I am coming with you – we will live together. You seem to have many things; it is a good partnership. I have given my all to you. You can give me a little bit; that will be right.”

The thief could not believe it! He just wanted to escape from that place and from that man. He said, “No, I cannot take you with me. I have my wife, I have my children, and my neighbors, what will they say? – `You have brought a naked man!’”

He said, “That’s right. I will not put you in any embarrassing situation. So you can go, I will remain in this house.” And as the thief was going, the master shouted, “Hey! Come back!” The thief had never heard such a strong voice; it went just like a knife. He had to come back. The master said, “Learn some ways of courtesy. I have given you the blanket and you have not even thanked me. So first, thank me; it will help you a long way. Secondly, going out – you opened the door when you came in – close the door! Can’t you see the night is so cold, and can’t you see that I have given you the blanket and I am naked? Your being a thief is okay, but as far as manners are concerned, I am a difficult man. I cannot tolerate this kind of behavior. Say thank you!”

The thief had to say, “Thank you, sir,” and he closed the door and escaped. He could not believe what had happened! He could not sleep the whole night. Again and again he remembered...he had never heard such a strong voice, such power. And the man had nothing!

He enquired the next day and he found out that this was a great master. He had not done well. It was absolutely ugly to go to that poor man; he had nothing. But he was a great master.

The thief said, “That I can understand myself – that he is a very strange kind of man. In my whole life I have been coming in contact with different kinds of people, from the poorest to the richest, but never... even remembering him, a shivering goes through my body.

“When he called me back I could not run away. I was absolutely free, I could have taken the things and run away, but I could not. There was something in his voice that pulled me back.”

After a few months the thief was caught, and in the court the magistrate asked him, “Can you name a person who knows you in this vicinity?”

He said, “Yes, one person knows me” ...and he named the master.

The magistrate said, “That’s enough – call the master. His testimony is worth that of ten thousand people. What he says about you will be enough to give judgment.”

The magistrate asked the master, “Do you know this man?”

He said, “Know him? We are partners. He is my friend. He even visited me one night in the middle of the night. It was so cold that I gave him my blanket. He is using it, you can see. That blanket is famous all over the country; everybody knows it is mine.”

The magistrate said, “He is your friend? And does he steal?”

The master said, “Never! He can never steal. He is such a gentleman that when I gave him the blanket he said to me, `Thank you, sir.’ When he went out of the house, he silently closed the doors. He is a very polite, nice fellow.”

The magistrate said, “If you say so, then all the testimonies of the witnesses who have said that he is a thief are cancelled. He is freed.” The master went out and the thief followed him.

The master said, “What are you doing? Why are you coming with me?”

He said, “Now I can never leave you. You have called me your friend, you have called me your partner. Nobody has ever given me any respect. You are the first person who has said that I am a gentleman, a nice person. I am going to sit at your feet and learn how to be like you. From where have you got this maturity, this power, this strength, this seeing of things in a totally different way?”

The master said, “Do you know that night how bad I felt? You had gone; it was so cold. Without a blanket sleep was not possible. I was just sitting by the window seeing the full moon, and I wrote a poem: `If I was rich enough I would have given this perfect moon to that poor fellow, who had come in the dark to search for something in a poor man’s house. I would have given the moon if I had been rich enough, but I am poor myself.’ I will show you the poem, come with me.

“I wept that night, that thieves should learn a few things. At least they should inform a day or two ahead when they come to a man like me, so we can arrange something, so they don’t have to go empty-handed.

“It is good that you remembered me in the court; otherwise those fellows are dangerous, they may have mistreated you. I offered that very night to come with you and be partners with you, but you refused. Now you want... There is no problem, you can come. Whatever I have I will share with you. But it is not material: it is something invisible.”

The thief said, “That I can feel; it is something invisible. But you have saved my life, and now it is yours. Make whatever you want to make of it. I have been simply wasting it. Seeing you, looking in your eyes, one thing is certain – that you can transform me. I have fallen in love from that very night."

I like to think so but you know……….

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All of these are good and practiced, until your spouse commits infidelity…it all goes out the window!💔

I'm in the middle

Idk, it's not good to be fully zipped up either. I fight to become more spontaneous and natural.

I'm emotionally immature in every way