Alain de Botton on Love

I fought it the whole time out of ego and pride. But I knew inside that my love was unconditional. In all respects.. I cant imagine Doing this to anyone But you d.. You made me feel unconditional love with your honesty and vulnerability in the beginning. You are special, my mind. Body and soul wanted to do this.
For you because it was true to me.. Now I will expand this to all other areas of my life hopefully. And it was all because.
This special girl that I knew whowould swing from the moon, she came and went to soon..

I love thisssssss ❤❤❤ thank you Alain. Really needed this perspective of looking at love

He's a genius of love and life!

It's plain and simple, give love to a reasonable wife , friends, or stangers, and it will returned too fold.

With all respect! Sticking around for the kids is usually not a good idea -children’s sensitive souls will be severely damaged witnessing the inauthenticity of two adults trying to fake it!😢

Alain is single handedly saving the world.

Met the love of my life 40 years ago I’m really fortunate

Here is chatGPT answer. I think chatGPT have better answer. 😅
--While early childhood experiences can influence attraction patterns, there are many factors that contribute to who we're attracted to. Individual preferences, personalities, and life experiences also play a significant role in shaping our attractions. It's completely normal for siblings to have different types of attractions based on their unique personalities and life paths.

I agree that most of the things said in this ted talk apply very well to insecure attached people, secure attached people manage to get into somehow different patterns than presented in this video

Excellent !

Every time i watch it again, i feel grateful to shank bhaiya to have introduced me to this channel. You are just soooooo gooood

Brilliant!!

Allen’s never been in love I can tell😂

wow, wow, wow!

I have yet to hear a philosophy closer to my own. There's no greater integrity than residing at the heart of truth.

Watched this after reading shitton of romance stories just to keep me grounded. Hahaha.

I've done and will do a lot of things in my life, but I'll never bet someone half my stuff that I'll love them forever.

The generosity of systems of interpretation was excellent: "Most adults look like adults." (cf. Mt 18:2-4). 🙏🏽🤍🕊

Brilliant! ❤❤

I instinctively knew all this since I was a child.
I hated romance, but I was interested in love.
I felt I could love almost anyone, if they could relate to me.
But that last part was the hard part because almost no one could relate to me.
Love and truth went together for me, but I saw that people didn't like love and truth together.
I could see how people preferred delusions in their relationships and I always knew long before they did how their relationships would fail.
If there was a sort of triangle, I offered love with truth and I saw that a woman always preferred lies and flattery.
When a woman seemed smitten with me, I would not deliver the required romantic lies.
I wanted a woman to be honest with herself as well as with me, but there really wasn't a cultural mode or model for that kind of relationship.
I figured it was a simple matter of first becoming friends, then learning to trust, and then agreeing to marry. Sex was for after marriage.
People seemed to be foolishly putting the cart in front of the horse.
People always had it backwards, saying the "friend zone" meant the relationship would proceed no further.
To me, the friend zone was barely the start of the relationship.
Women who tried to relate to me went a little insane because they expected everything in the wrong order.
And they weren't able to honestly and openly discuss love.

your are a million times more likely to meet your soulmate on a train than Tinder, I am convinced of this. On Tinder there is no such thing as love at first sight.

I love you Marine, won't give up on loving you

Alain is a witty and insightful speaker—definitely appreciated the moments of levity throughout :)

"Most adults look like adults unfortunately"

❤

Oh my... Hilarious!

I think his message of both partners being crazy and a few other things he says may be taken as it’s ok then to stay within an abusive relationship because I am crazy.

Absolutely 🎉brilliant funny and witty 😊😂 10/10 thankyou

I love these videos. I am learning so much. This man has showed me that I have been approaching a lot of things incorrectly. But I am willing to learn. I want to be a positive light for my partner (when I find them) and have a healthy lasting relationship. Wish me luck 🤞🏾

Bored because a little too healthy for me. That is exactly it ! Working on this

This is great stand up

Wow. We’re all broken children

So, should I work on my relationship or let it go?

Brilliant! Thank you so much.😊

Love? Just remember that Alain practices an "open marriage" which his wife tolerates.

Love is a lie to weaken the fool

that was really good, I very much enjoyed this perspective and your way of speaking! thank you and well done!

Some truth in that humor

Superb...So true..

is it possible to get a transcript for this video?

Beautiful video! Love is crazy! It's true!

Hey dude , i disagree. there is romantic poetry and stories even way back from the vedas, dating 2 milleniums BC , very romantic and erotic poetry in the bible. Greek mythology. What have you. Maybe even before that, we dont really know.