The best way to apologize (according to science)

I should send this to my ex but i won't

The first step in my opinion is humility .

I would like to take a moment to appreciate all the animators who work in these videos.

The circumstances are always different, in some situations a quick "you're right I'm wrong" works, in the next situation it's impossibly wrong or useless. Nice video, I'm sure there are people who could users to avoid getting themselves into trouble... :)

no apologies.
no thank you.
no reachin' out.
and then actin' like nothin' happened..
wat a horrible form of abuse. lelz.
anyhoo, mama tachibana and mikan will give me all their ice cream to make me feel better.
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If you need a tutorial on how to apologize, then your apologize is doomed to be untruthful to begin with....

canadians know everything about how to apologize, they basically sorry for everything, they even sorry for you step on their shoe

What makes a sincere apology:

1. Understanding the person's perspective by having empathy
2. Accept responsibility for your actions
3. Offer a repair (make up for what you have done wrong)

I guess colleen didn't watch this video then

For me, my best purchase is my sketchbook.

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I am right. You are wrong.

A certain ukelele-playing women watching this: 👁👄👁

Everyone should actually learn how to apologize and how to behave after their apology. Because people just apologize (randomly) and they don't mean their apologies and that's by repeating the same mistakes. That's called manipulation !

Saying I'm sorry for your loss versus saying, I apologize for your loss, at a funeral mean two completely different things.

After watching this video, i suddenly understood how good I am at apologies.

Can you send this to my wife guys ? I can do it myself but i'll need to apologize after sending this to her 😔

I should send this to my brother

It is really important that this video exists because sometimes people do not understand their mistakes. Or, in some cases, they understand, but they do not know how can they fix the situation. Apologies can mean a lot for people, so everyone should know, how to do it right

nope

Soneone needs to send this video to collen ballinger or else she might flip out her freaking ukulele and make another one of those horrid songs..

In my opinion, it's not the apology itself but people's reactions to said apologies. No matter how good your apology is, the hurt and damage can be too severe to be an acceptable apology. I never forgive people who apologize, but only pretend to accept their apology so they'll stay on good terms; I never forgive myself for making mistakes, so what makes you think I'll actually forgive others for hurting me?

In my worldview, there is no such thing as a genuine apology, only an apology that is "good enough" to be forgivable. It's not healthy, but it feels good seeing them feel the same pain that I've been feeling for years.

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pull out a ukelele

I know a lot of people that need to watch this video

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This is on a spectrum. You don’t apologize for death itself. Apologizing is for stepping on a toe.

Recent data suggests incorporating a ukulele act in your apology may generate increased sympathy.

And to think Colleen Ballinger could've watched this before uploading her apology video.

Oh i really need this...

what if i don’t know how the other person felt about my actions? how can i see their perspective of the issue when i don’t know it?

Well this technique of good apology cannot be realized if the first component being held by the person who is hurt and doesn't want to tell what harm we inflict upon them

Given the often litigious nature of many societies, I'd like to see a video on how to apologize without opening oneself up to legal jeopardy. As this video says, an apology can go a long way. Sometimes, it's exactly what's needed...& often, it's only right. I know of many circumstance where one party Wishes they could apologize &/or explain something, but holds back out of fear of an overreaction, especially legally.

And people still won’t accept your apology.

I always used empathy and never had to apologize because people empathized back and they saw that the pain my decisions caused were actually worthy of it as I show them why I actually did it.
Other times, I dont take much time to admit my fault and straightforward deal with it.

The best way to Apologise is to simply act upon it, rather than use Lip Service.
Thus u truly mean it

Hi, i feel like this is the community that can help. I need advice on a problem from last week.

I am on a womens soccer team. Last tuesday we kicked kicked our coach out. He was a bad coach and a horrible person. Not communicating, disrispectful, dishonest, untrustworthy, made false promisses, blamed anybody but himself. Some people had a harder time under him including my friend and our captain anna. last sunday he draged her through the nud in the local newspaper. she adressed that on tueasday infront of the team and coaches which turned into the team telling the coaches everything that is going wrong and what we dont like about them. Anna as the capatin was speaking the most but others like i also voiced opinions and supported. The coach ended up quitting which made us happy.

The next morning he texted in the groupchat that some people reached out to him and told him their opinion which he was opositivly surprised by. I took that message as him being sentimental and people saying good by and not actually changing their mind. I think he just exaggerated it since he is foreing. So i texted him after that message privatly that i saw his text in the groupchat and that i whish him all the best for the future. For me this was just a polite message for closure since i had the feeling he dropped the act and took it as a goodbye.

Most of the team said that texting him no matter what is backstabbing the team and anna. I didnt really understand it since i didnt say anything that invalidates anything we said in the talk. What happend tho is this. Wednesday afternoon a statment in the newspaper came out again him saying that people texted him, are on his side and others (Anna) are manipulating the team. Ofcourse I apologiezed for texting him. i wouldnt have if i knew he did that.

I didnt mean any harm but of course I especially hurt anna. i couldnt reach out to her since wednesday and it makes me really upset to the point that i have a hard time eating. i fear i did serious damage to our friendship and i dont know when she will talk to me and if she accepts my apology. I dont know what to do. Also the season is over on sunday and we are both transfering. So i cant give it weeks time to heal. I´m gonna see her on thursday at a tournament, friday at our season ending party and sunday at the last game. Next week we are in spain with the team on vacation and I dont know if i should go and hope i can figure out stuff there or if i should be respectful and drop out so she can have a good time without seeing me.

Best way to apologise is to say i love you will you merry me?

A problem I face is that if I promise that I won't do something again or I will commit to change, then I'll end up forgetting and letting the person down again

Sorry ... a word I'm expert in🙃

"Apologies aren’t about getting forgiveness and moving on; they’re about expressing remorse and accepting accountability."

like I cannot control the weather... I'm sorry that you are displeased by the rain

what about if you have to apologize for something out of our hands or for something you didn't do?

As someone who fucks up more than I should this might actually be useful!

Okay so it was exam today and i accidentally tore a kid's paper 🗿

I watched this because I hit my teacher in the knee because the were holding me into school,I wanted to apologise for kicking her in the leg😢

Accidentally made someone bleed on the face